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Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 10:43:31 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Did anyone experience some sort of difficulty turning a certain age? I know I did when I turned 26 but after that, age has never been a big thing for me. Until this year. I turn 40 in the next few weeks, and somehow, it's making me feel funny. Not in funny ha ha, but funny as in "am I really that old?", lol. I mean, I don't feel or look my age, but why is it difficult? Do you think being single has anything to do with that? I mean, I don't have any unfulfilled dreams or anything (other than wanting to be married). I have a lot to look forward to, and I think I've accomplished a lot as a person, and as a mother. But this "turning 40" thing is just making me feel a little funny and I don't know why.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 10:47:12 PM
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Ask Tink about turning 30 just a bit ago.......
Turning 25 was horrible for me.....I had NOTHING to show for my life. I figured I'd be married. I was a relatively young Christian, so I was still learning about how God works in our lives, etc. I was moving back home after a bad situation, etc. It was just horrible! Since then, I've not had a problem with turning an age. Now, if we are talking a bad birthday - day - then, yes, I've had plenty of those too - one actually sent me into a pretty deep depression for about 6 months.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 10:49:57 PM
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My most difficult birthday was 39. I just felt like life was going too fast and nothing was actually happening. Don't know what I thought should be happening but I was sort of restless. When 40 came it was ok--I figured I lived through 39 so 40 would be a breeze. Since then I have been happy . I loved turning 50. I finally felt like I was at last who I was meant to be. Now I am 60 and again I LOVE it. I feel that I am comfortable in my skin and I like myself and where and who I am.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 10:55:20 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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Nah, 50 is the new 30! 
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:00:44 PM
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I had "singles meltdown" from ages 29 - 31. I hated my 20s - every single year of it. (It was a very sad time in my life). In my 30s things looked up. I love being in my 30s. At 35 I hit a milestone and decided to stop putting my life on hold. In that year, lots of stuff changed and my life is totally different. I think this will help me when I get to be 40 because I can point to a number of things and say "I did that ... I believe I fulfilled God's plan here ..." I think if I am still single at 40 though I'll probably go through some changes - especially grieving the possible loss of not having children. But other than that, I am looking forward to being in my 40s. I've always felt that most women come into their own in their 40s and I can't wait to be one of them!!!!
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:01:27 PM
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Prairiehiker
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So, did you guys do anything silly for this birthday? IT's such a big birthday in the Asian culture which I have little ties with, but I can't help thinking people will make a big deal out of it. I originally planned to get away for a few days, but since I blew all my vacation budget in our last trip, I can't do anything. So, I need some ideas on how to celebrate this day. I took a week off from work because I thought I would need time to be alone. I know I don't want to be around people on that day. My ideal way to celebrate it would be to rent a cabin in the mountains and just spend some time reflecting. I'm still deciding if it's feasible since I really don't have the time since I'm studying for a major exam.
So, how did you guys celebrate a birthday that you were having difficulty with?
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:06:42 PM
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40? No nothing silly. I did write some letters to close friends telling them I loved them and what each one's impact was in my life. 50. There was a girls only party--lots of laughs and some tears. 60--I got a tattoo!
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:17:07 PM
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40? No nothing silly. I did write some letters to close friends telling them I loved them and what each one's impact was in my life. 50. There was a girls only party--lots of laughs and some tears. 60--I got a tattoo!
Care to tell us what and where it is?
I got one on my 34th bday, but there's no way I'm getting another one. I almost passed out, lol. IT was the most painful thing I ever did on my body. I can't believe I paid money to be abused like that, lol. It's a little butterfly that signifies my coming out of a dark period.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:19:18 PM
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thedivabrat
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A butterfly on my arm--I didn't think it hurt much. I would like another--I think in a couple of years when I retire.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:21:55 PM
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Turning 25 was horrible for me.....I had NOTHING to show for my life. I figured I'd be married. I was a relatively young Christian, so I was still learning about how God works in our lives, etc. I was moving back home after a bad situation, etc. It was just horrible! Since then, I've not had a problem with turning an age. Now, if we are talking a bad birthday - day - then, yes, I've had plenty of those too - one actually sent me into a pretty deep depression for about 6 months.
I can relate to this statement. Turning 25 this month. I don't feel like I have anything to show for my life other than heartache. I just want it to be over with.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:38:05 PM
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Oh Terri, maybe that is your perception but there are others that would argue with you I am sure. I will keep you in my prayers until this passes--and it will--then we can praise God together.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:43:06 PM
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I am not sure if I am looking forward to my 40th Birthday, in fact it seems that every birthday during the past fews years have been a bummer for me, this year excepted.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:45:01 PM
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thedivabrat
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What made this year different?
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/7/2008 11:50:42 PM
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Not sure.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 12:31:48 AM
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Did anyone experience some sort of difficulty turning a certain age? I know I did when I turned 26 but after that, age has never been a big thing for me. Until this year. I turn 40 in the next few weeks, and somehow, it's making me feel funny. Not in funny ha ha, but funny as in "am I really that old?", lol. I mean, I don't feel or look my age, but why is it difficult? Do you think being single has anything to do with that? I mean, I don't have any unfulfilled dreams or anything (other than wanting to be married). I have a lot to look forward to, and I think I've accomplished a lot as a person, and as a mother. But this "turning 40" thing is just making me feel a little funny and I don't know why.
I turn 40 in about 18 months. I'm dreading it. For some reason it feels like it will be all over for me at that point. 
Another part of it is I know that barring something radical, it will pass by totally unremarked just like 30 did.
I think I need to go find a happier thread...
-Robb
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 12:48:32 AM
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Another part of it is I know that barring something radical, it will pass by totally unremarked just like 30 did.
If you want it to be special, ask your family or friends or coworkers ahead of time to do something.
I have finally started doing things like that. And I always call my friend A1 before my b-day to remind her, because she used to forget, but now she doesn't cause I always remind her, lol. Friend A2 doesn't ever forget anyway. And for my 33rd I had a big party, because I asked a friend to do one for me.
When I worked at the preschool, they always had a tradition of doing something for each of the teacher's birthdays, so that was nice.
It may seem selfish to some, but I've been much happier since I've been proactive about what I want for my birthdays..the Bible says you have not because you ask not, lol. Of course, I do try to do nice things for others' birthdays, too(although I have finally learn not to give a present that I can't afford).
I do admit, for many years, there has been part of me that is always sad that I'm turning ___, and I'm still single...I've felt like that since about age 20, though, lol. If only I knew then how young 20 really is...and yes, I worry about my biological clock ticking..in a way I don't know why, because a big part of me prefers the adoption option anyway..I am just silly, I guess.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 9:29:55 AM
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25 was bad. I wasn't a millionaire yet and had nothing that was really mine.
But the worst one was 45. That was my first b-day alone.
They are getting better now but I don't really celebrate them. Just another day for the most part.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 9:34:10 AM
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For me, 27 was a difficult birthday. Not 25, not 30. I think it was because my mother had me, her youngest child, when she was 28, and I wondered if I'd ever have any children.
I'll turn 40 next year. I'll let you know how I deal with it ... next year.
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 10:44:45 AM
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Hmm, I turn 55 this December- no problems yet! When I turned 40 my Ex had a "Old Lady" Bday party for me- just reserved a private area of my favorite resturant and invited all my friends telling them to bring gag gifts and stuff. I had a ball. I remember thinking that I didn't mind 40 at all, but 50? 50 sounded like... half a century??? But 50 came, and on top of it I was newly divorced (I was 49 when the divorce occured), so I thought it might be a rough one but I didn't mind at all. I planned on it just being another day, but friends had a party. LOL, they were all so nice about it too  . Only one friend brought Over the Hill stuff- they were my favorite  !
Yeah, I have a few more pounds on my body and wrinkles on my face than I did at 20, I recover more slowly from a busy weekend, and maybe take longer to do stuff than I used to- but that's ok. Life is good. I'm a happy camper these days! 60's? 70's? 80's? Bring 'em on!!
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RE: Difficult birthdays - 9/8/2008 11:15:00 AM
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My birthdays have surprised me as far as my reaction to them has been concerned...
I expected 25 to be traumatic, and was okay, but 26 threw me for a loop. I also expected 30 to be even more traumatic, but I braced myself for it and triumphed (of course, it helped when I went to the salon on my bday and the lady didn't believe that I was 30 years old!).
I think 26 was the hardest because I expected myself to be at a certain place in life-- marriage, kids, career, etc... my parents married at 18 and many of my friends got married young. I thought that was just the norm. I had to realize that God had put me on a different schedule in every area in my life. Which has worked out fine for me....I'm no longer panicked over where I'm supposed to be and instead thankful for where I currently am.
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