|
Users viewing this topic:
none
|
|
|
[Poll]
|
Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated?
|
| It makes me very upset when people get upset at each other. |
|
| People upset with each other I don't mind, but don't get mad at me. |
|
| I don't get upset, but I don't enjoy it either. |
|
| I think threads are interesting when they get heated up. |
|
| I like to lurk in threads where things might get hot, just for kicks. |
|
| I cause trouble on purpose when things get too dull. |
|
| Other |
|
Total Votes : 57
|
(last vote on : 6/28/2008 5:12:49 AM)
(Poll will run till: -- )
|
|
Login  | |
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 3:16:41 PM
|
|
|
saraha98
Posts: 68
Joined: 10/17/2006
Status: offline
|
I find it very unchristian-like
_____________________________
Open your hearts to the love God instills.....God loves you tenderly. What He give you is not to be kept under lock and key, but to be shared.
Mother Teresa
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 3:23:08 PM
|
|
|
Brandy
Posts: 1835
Joined: 4/7/2005
From: Los Angeles
Status: offline
|
It really depends on the topic and circumstances.
Heated discussion is sometimes needed to get to the root issue and/or bring up other ideas. I don't mind heated when it's needed to get through something.
What I mind is when someone makes a thread/comment personal and gets upset, throws a fit and makes it all about them when it's not.
If a person throws a fit and yet comes back apologizes and moves on I appreciate their humility and ability to recognize their ownership of their reactions.
Sometimes though I do laugh to myself when I see what a person gets riled up about, we can be real petty at times.
_____________________________
~Brandy
<--- Isabel Grace eating on Thanksgiving. Her first food.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 3:28:50 PM
|
|
|
isaacsmom
Posts: 1986
Joined: 12/2/2005
Status: online
|
It depends on the topic. I don't like the meaness, drama, and personal attacks. That is not Christlike. Good, civil debate can be productive and thought-provoking. I don't mind that.
_____________________________
<<< My littlest punkin'
*~*~*Rachel*~*~*
pirtlefarm.blogspot.com
Beware of posing as a profound person -- God became a baby. ~Oswald Chambers
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 3:36:46 PM
|
|
|
solo_soprano22
Posts: 2472
Joined: 4/27/2005
From: I'm a Southern girl
Status: offline
|
Hmm, I think it's okay as long as people refrain from the personal attack. There are several things I disagree with a majority of the women here about, and I'd debate them, but it seems like too often someone ends up being called a name or their Christianity is questioned or something because two people don't think alike.
I'd rather it be a civil thread, even if it is a debate.
_____________________________
For God, For Learning, Forever.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 4:28:47 PM
|
|
|
slushie
Posts: 2008
Joined: 4/30/2006
Status: offline
|
I do like a good discussion as well. But I don't like it when people get mad and start bad talking each other.
_____________________________
Testify to Love
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 4:32:46 PM
|
|
|
Sideways
Posts: 3716
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: offline
|
I also enjoy a good debate, but on the other hand, I've had one poster on this forum level some of the most hurtful, ugly things at me that you can imagine. I almost left CW entirely because of that poster.
So, now I've learned to take a step back and pick my threads carefully. I don't get angry when people challenge my point of view, but when attacks get unnecessarily personal, that's my cue to get out.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 4:51:16 PM
|
|
|
Roberta_
Posts: 6985
Joined: 9/28/2007
From: East Bay Area
Status: offline
|
Gosh, I hope it wasn't me!
I didn't know you were tyrubonchi!
When I was Hischild1994, many didn't even know I was a girl.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 5:03:17 PM
|
|
|
Consecrated2God
Posts: 4986
Joined: 4/4/2005
From: Formerly Jesus Land
Status: offline
|
I didn't realize you were tyrubonchi, either, Nicole!
quote:
Maybe you could define "heated", as some here are taking it to be a bad thing, whereas I don't personally see "heated" discussions to be necessarily negative.
Mmm, I think it's kind of hard to define, since there are certainly many degrees of hot. A mildly hot thread would be one where everyone comes out of the woodwork to post and everytime you check your subscriptions there's a new post and someone has crossposted you, and people are pretty much evenly divided on the issue. It will got hotter if there's people getting upset by the disagreement, and when it gets the hottest, that's when the mods start stepping in to put out the flames. Then posts (and sometimes posters!) disappear, and if you aren't a mod and can't read the deleted post, you might miss out on what actually went down. (One of the things I miss about moderating!)
I find it interesting in the same way I find looking at tornado damage or the aftermath of a fire interesting. It's a morbid fascination I guess, but I can't help but watch. I'm not so far gone that I'll lurk in threads I have no interest in, but I do sometimes try and stir the pot a little. I'd rather not be too involved myself in the discussion if it gets heated, but I don't mind watching. I do get sad when someone leaves because of it, though.
_____________________________
<--Plantation house in Louisiana
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 5:06:50 PM
|
|
|
doinkdom
Posts: 4274
Joined: 4/12/2005
From: The higher lowcountry
Status: online
|
I only get aggravated when someone makes a personal conviction into a general doctrine for everyone.
Other than that...debate away.
I usually just get bored with it and unsubscribe after a while. Many times it just becomes a standoff. Where's the fun in that? 
_____________________________
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 5:13:00 PM
|
|
|
Roberta_
Posts: 6985
Joined: 9/28/2007
From: East Bay Area
Status: offline
|
LOL!
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 5:16:09 PM
|
|
|
Karaboo2
Posts: 2396
Joined: 2/4/2008
From: Ontario, Canada
Status: online
|
I'm with everyone who says go ahead and debate ... but lose the personal attacks!!! There are other ways to get a point across without blasting the character of the various posters. So heat it up -- put it over an open flame ... just don't curse at the one holding the pothandle!!
_____________________________
Kara
Tea Drinkers Anonymous
<-- Caleb
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 6:22:37 PM
|
|
|
nicole6598
Posts: 4074
Status: offline
|
I am hoping the person who picked "I stir trouble on purpose" is joking....
I don't like it when things get nasty and accusations are thrown about. I don't like it when people's character or their stance with God are questioned. I don't like it when you see someone who is hurting getting questions thrown at them like grenades. There are decent, polite and kind ways to debate and investigate things. You can tell the people who are trying to stir trouble or who are waiting for someone to slip up so they can go into "attack" mode. And sadly, its the women I think who are the worst at being nasty on the forums.
_____________________________
Proud Aussie, Wife, Mother, Woman!
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 6:28:45 PM
|
|
|
manda59
Posts: 6024
Joined: 9/22/2005
From: Hampshire, UK
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Sideways
I also enjoy a good debate, but on the other hand, I've had one poster on this forum level some of the most hurtful, ugly things at me that you can imagine. I almost left CW entirely because of that poster.
So, now I've learned to take a step back and pick my threads carefully. I don't get angry when people challenge my point of view, but when attacks get unnecessarily personal, that's my cue to get out.
Personal attacks are against TOS, so actually, no-one needs to "get out" nor leave, because all we need to do is report it and the mods will deal with it.
At the same time, though, I feel it must be said that I've learned over the years to just see posts as words on a screen, opinions, ventings etc, and really, unless it's coming from someone I care about and have a friendship with, it doesn't bother me what they say, personal attack or not.
In fact, if someone online gets really aerated with my opinions, I actually find it mildly amusing, to imagine that my typed words have that much power!! MUAHAHAHAHAHAHA!!  I can honestly say that it doesn't offend me one bit even if people get unpleasant with me. I don't define myself by people's opinions, so it's like water off a duck's back. I wasn't always that way, but over time have learned how to get a more balanced perspective and outlook.
The best reality check ever was when my husband one day said to me (while I was sitting here grizzling - way before my CW days I hasten to add!) - "Manda, if it upsets you that much, you can always switch it off!"
What a very wise restorer of perspective!!
_____________________________
"Once again....drum roll please! Manda is right"
doinkdom, October 2008
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Do you love or hate it when a thread gets heated? - 6/18/2008 6:36:00 PM
|
|
|
reach
Posts: 1364
Joined: 4/12/2005
Status: offline
|
It is hard to get my point accross sometimes on the internet, so I try to not get involved in those dicussions. Sometimes it is amusing to me though. :)
|
|
|
|
 New Messages |
 No New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/ New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/o New Messages |
 Locked w/ New Messages |
 Locked w/o New Messages |
|
 Post New Thread
Reply to Message
Post New Poll
Submit Vote
Delete My Own Post
Delete My Own Thread
Rate Posts |
|
|
Forum Tools
Printable Version
my soldier! 
