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Feeling very confused about my feelings - 11/3/2008 2:48:36 PM
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stillovinhim
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I have been feeling very confused lately about my feeling towards my husband, do I love him or don't I. We have been struggling since finding out about his infidelity 2 1/2 yrs ago, nothing seems the same, he isn't the same, I'm not the same. Yes he has done everything he should to rebuild trust I don't know what it is. I feel pushed away maybe because there isn't much affection in our marriage anymore, he makes me feel more like his sister than wife. He plays around with the dog more than me, it's more "serious" with me it never used to be that way. He seems to have other priorities before me, computer, phone, I don't know. In turn I have difficulty showing affection if he isn't. Maybe it's trust, I don't trust him, I'm tired, exhausted feel like I don't care anymore about anything, I don't trust him so what's the point of feeling love when you can't trust someone, I don't know if it's because I'm tired of worrying and am just flat wore out from lack of trust and it seems I don't care, because some times I feel I do care, I'm confused. I feel worried everytime he leaves the house and frankly I'm tired of being worried, I'm tired of trusting, I just don't know if I "love" him truly love him anymore, I feel pushed away and I can't feel love towards him? He never does anything without me but his dirtbike riding, I just am tired of worrying about it, who's going,who he'll see there, who his friends will invite. What do I do? I'm so confused.
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RE: Feeling very confused about my feelings - 11/3/2008 3:00:17 PM
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jlea1982
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I think what would be best would be to seek couseling so you and he will be able to know what is happening in your marriage. Also, affection takes effort and both of you need to try to be more affectionate to each other.
Try going out like you did when you dated to maybe rekindle old feelings. Maybe try just going to a movie together and holding hands. Sometimes just having that physical touch can make a big difference.
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RE: Feeling very confused about my feelings - 11/3/2008 3:42:49 PM
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stillovinhim
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thanks Jessica, we have done counseling back when the infidelity was told but there is no way right now we can afford it. We have tried doing those things, dinner alone, and we do hold hands but it's more than that, I just don't know what I feel towards him anymore, there is so much causing these feelings and I don't know if I'm falling out of love with him because of all of this, I don't want to worry anymore, I'm tired of not trusting, could all that be part of my feelings?
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RE: Feeling very confused about my feelings - 11/3/2008 4:34:03 PM
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