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First husband still loves me..... - 6/5/2008 4:17:29 PM
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prayforwisedom
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I will try and condense this as much as possible.
First marriage, Christian husband, 3 kids, I committed adultary, then recommitted myself to Christ, recognized I needed to follow the Lord's will. I made some attempts to reconcile, but admittedly didn't throw myself into them, feeling his anger and hurt was prohibitive to this. I asked him one night if it was over and he said yes it was. After this I could still sense from him that he was not over anything, just very hurt and angry, but I filed for divorce.
I started a relationship with another man who was divorced and can honestly say I felt the Lord's peace. We have now been married almost 2 years and I have maintained a very amicable relationship with my ex-husband, who has all 3 children as I had to move out of town for work. I am able to visit with my kids every few months. A few days ago my ex wrote me saying that he still loves me and he said it was over out of pride, anger and hurt. I can say from all my interactions with him that this is true. I have no doubt that he ever stopped loving me but needed the time to get past the anger he felt.
I have to say that in the past year I have thought of my ex and children and so wished to turn back the clock. My current husband is truly a committed Christian and loving husband, but I know our relationship is not all it could be and I think that is largely because of issues on my part. I do not think that divorcing him and going back to my ex is the Lord's way but then I come in here and read such conflicting opinions. And honestly I can say that my deepest desire is to have my 1st family whole again.
My ex has been to the pastor of his church, who married myself and my current husband, and was told that there is no going back, which my ex says he already knew, but he has problems accepting that people will stand up for my 2nd marriage when they didn't stand up for his.
There is such a need for healing here and yes my current husband knows about all of this and knows the pain my ex is going through but also says there is no going back, that the Bible expressly forbids it.
I know I need to work on the issues with my current husband but wonder if I should really be with my first............
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RE: First husband still loves me..... - 6/5/2008 4:25:38 PM
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ta_mosquito
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I hate to do this to you, since this is your very first post here. But this thread will turn into an ugly debate about remarriage after divorce, and therefore I must close it and redirect to the one-stop thread on that topic. However, you cannot discuss your own situation in there. HERE is a post that explains why.
So here we go...
In an attempt to consolidate for the purpose of effective moderation we have created a couple One Stop threads for the topic of divorce. Therefore, this thread on the topic is being closed.
Please continue your discussion in one of the following One Stop Threads.
Click on one of the following links:
Divorce
Remarriage After Divorce
Please note, however, that discussing YOUR divorce/remarriage is not allowed in these threads. CLICK HERE for an explanation as to why.
Thank you!
Tricia
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