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Flirtations - 8/16/2008 6:24:44 PM
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Prairiehiker
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How seriously do you take real life flirtations from opposite sex friends? Is this normal among single friends?
Just curious. I don't know when to take the men seriously, and when to just ignore them. It's hard, especially when I find the men attractive. Otherwise, it's not a problem for me, lol.
And what's the deal with flirting forever anyway? Is that just a type of personality? I'm flirty, but not suggestive or crude. More like sweet and charming, like Spanish women (I hate to stereotype), but it's my personality which they misconstrued as flirty. But I don't openly flirt with any particular man unless we're dating.
But man, I'm really getting tired of male friends who openly flirts with me, but never goes beyond that. But then, I don't give them any encouragement, because I never know how to respond to them.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 6:36:21 PM
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John_O
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I only flirt if I am very serious. Which is why one here I don't flirt (most usually)
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 6:41:40 PM
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Prairiehiker
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I only flirt if I am very serious. Which is why one here I don't flirt (most usually)
By the way, John, I thought you would be really good for that person you were flirting with a few weeks back. If I had a brother, I'd definitely want her for him.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 6:59:44 PM
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mutinywxgirl
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I have several older single male friends who flirt with EVERYONE!!!!!!!! It makes me insane! They say it's to make the other person's day.
Hmmmmm.............
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 7:08:25 PM
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
How seriously do you take real life flirtations from opposite sex friends? Is this normal among single friends?
Just curious. I don't know when to take the men seriously, and when to just ignore them. It's hard, especially when I find the men attractive. Otherwise, it's not a problem for me, lol.
And what's the deal with flirting forever anyway? Is that just a type of personality? I'm flirty, but not suggestive or crude. More like sweet and charming, like Spanish women (I hate to stereotype), but it's my personality which they misconstrued as flirty. But I don't openly flirt with any particular man unless we're dating.
But man, I'm really getting tired of male friends who openly flirst with me, but never goes beyond that. But then, I don't give them any encouragement, because I never know to respond to them.
I guess that if a guy was getting flirtatious, and not just friendly, I'll flirt right back and count it as a fun exchange. If he's interested, he'll follow-up. If not, then I take a guess he's just being friendly.
I'm with you... sometimes it's more difficult when there's a level of attraction. But if we just practice being friendly and open with everyone we meet regardless of their 'attractiveness', we'll learn to tell the friendly ones from the flirtatious ones. Sometimes, I think guys are just testing the waters when they flirt.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 7:14:14 PM
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Yeah, it can be fun, but both parties have to understand what the flirtations mean. Either it's all in good fun, or you're both testing the waters.
How about men who flirts with other women while they are already in a relationship. Is that just a fun exchange and normal and acceptable? I guess I'm too rigid in this area. If one is in a relationship, they shouldn't be flirting with anyone else.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 7:16:19 PM
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How about men who flirts with other women while they are already in a relationship. Is that just a fun exchange and normal and acceptable? I guess I'm too rigid in this area. If one is in a relationship, they shouldn't be flirting with anyone else.
I agree with you there. Wholeheartedly!!!!!!!
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 7:48:43 PM
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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
Yeah, it can be fun, but both parties have to understand what the flirtations mean. Either it's all in good fun, or you're both testing the waters.
How about men who flirts with other women while they are already in a relationship. Is that just a fun exchange and normal and acceptable? I guess I'm too rigid in this area. If one is in a relationship, they shouldn't be flirting with anyone else.
I guess it would depend on the "level" of the flirt. A "hey sweetie" wouldn't be taken by me as a flirt, but a "hey sexy" would....
I totally agree that if a guy is in a relationship, he should not be flirting with someone else... that's disrespectful.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 9:15:59 PM
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I am a naturally flirtatious person. There is just hanging around with friends flirting, but there is another level for people who i'm seriously interested in. Most people know me well enough to know that I mean no harm.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 9:42:00 PM
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John_O
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How about men who flirts with other women while they are already in a relationship. Is that just a fun exchange and normal and acceptable? I guess I'm too rigid in this area. If one is in a relationship, they shouldn't be flirting with anyone else.
It borders on adultery. A serious THOU SHALT NOT!!
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 11:26:30 PM
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I have several older single male friends who flirt with EVERYONE!!!!!!!! It makes me insane! They say it's to make the other person's day.
Hmmmmm.............
Did they ever think about WHY flirting with someone may suddenly make their day? Maybe it makes them feel like someone notices and maybe cares a little?
Finding out it was just to make you feel better makes you feel kinda ****py.
Personally - I don't really like flirts, because I'm not very flirtatious. They make me uncomfortable, and dating them is like torture.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/16/2008 11:30:30 PM
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Prairiehiker
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Personally - I don't really like flirts, because I'm not very flirtatious. They make me uncomfortable, and dating them is like torture.
I won't date anyone who flirts with everyone. That would torture me too. And it would be very hard for me to trust any person who openly flirts with every woman.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/17/2008 7:50:56 AM
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I think that the definition of flirtation has definitely changed from what it used to be back in the days. Now flirting is seen more as a tool employed by one person to get to know someone better (I say this after having borrowed (from the public library) a book that describes the fine art of how to flirt).
Bearing this definition in mind, I don't think it's appropriate to flirt with married men. It's a tool used by single people to get to know other single people. Apparently the technique of flirting, is no longer seen as an action employed only by naughty!!! girls.
I'm not drawing from experience, just making my own input here.
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RE: Flirtations - 8/17/2008 3:46:54 PM
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losgan
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I'm talking about just normal everyday conversation. I am actually in close association with some married men because their wives know I'm not out to get them. It's the ones I don't know very well are the ones I have to watch out for.
I've always liked the way my Dad put it. That a man and woman should never be behind closed doors together. And that married men and women should not talk to the other sex about their relationship - it is just asking for trouble.
And he has a point - I can't count the number of times I've heard of an affair starting with grumbling about one's spouse to a coworker of the opposite sex, who sympathizes, and on it goes until it has gone somewhere you never intended for it to.
"Flirting" with little old ladies is one thing ... but making someone you would actually date if not in a relationship blush ...
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