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Funeral dinners ? - 4/27/2008 9:22:05 PM
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Does your church provide them ?
How are they paid for ?
Who provides the service of shopping, cooking & serving.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/27/2008 9:39:34 PM
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All of the funeral dinners I've been too have been provided by friends and family of the deceased. Kinda like a potluck/dinner on the grounds thing (that may be a Kentucky or deep south name for it).
Sometimes they take place with all of the attendees invited and sometimes it's just the family at their home or church etc. There aren't really any rules.
Hope that helps
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/27/2008 10:57:08 PM
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Sadey
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Ours are provided by the church family and served by them too. The church pays for the chicken and then the ladies furnish the rest.
Its a priviledge to help with a funeral dinner.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 9:50:54 AM
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The purpose of funeral dinners is to give the family an extended time to have fellowship with people who attended the funeral. Usually people in the church do the set up, food preparation and clean up so the family doesn't have to.
Some churches have a budget for food, others it's a pot luck.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 10:37:30 AM
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I have never heard of a funeral dinner. Here, people are usually invited back to the home of family member of the deceased for refreshments after the funeral. However, when my mother died, there were so many people in attendance, we had a light lunch after the funeral in the community room of the church instead. My church payed for it s a special gift for me because I am on staff.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 10:51:32 AM
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quote:
ORIGINAL: Abbreviated
Does your church provide them ?
How are they paid for ?
Who provides the service of shopping, cooking & serving.
Yes, the church provides them.
They are paid out of church funds.
The women of the church shop, cook, serve and clean up.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 10:56:27 AM
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The ones I have been to were provided by members of the church - sort of like a potluck, but with a theme, such as "we are doing a spaghetti dinner" - and we buy, cook, prepare, and bring the food, someone coordinates it to make sure it's well-rounded. Some have had the time but not the funds, and there have been some with the funds and not the time, so it all worked out well.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 4:47:12 PM
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With us it is more common to have a light lunch or something more like trays of fruit & veggies, rather than a dinner. The women of the Church who were not closely involved with the deceased put it together as a ministry - either pot-luck or sometimes out of the donation that the family might be giving for the use of the Church.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 5:04:19 PM
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Our entire congregation is split evenly into "serving groups," and a typical event to be called upon to serve is a funeral.
A few ladies that head up the group that is called get together and make the plans. We find out how many people are expected to eat the dinner. We ask if the family would prefer either 1. sandwiches or 2. hot ham and scalloped potatoes.
Then we go down our serving group list and ask individuals to do at least one of the following: 1. serve at the function, 2. provide a salad, 4. provide bars for dessert, or 4. provide $5 for costs.
That's how we do it :) I like this system because it forces the innactive members to realize they are still part of a living, breathing, serving church.
And as someone else said, it is a privilege to serve a funeral.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/28/2008 7:51:50 PM
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The people of my place of worship always seem to be ready with food, which invariably works into more than anough food for such times. The church I work for does the same thing. Both places of worship provide, minimally, the places and serving utensils, area for eating, tables, etc. Depending upon the circumstances, both places of worship may also provide the meat and/or dessert. In each place of worship, the members stay and clean up afterward.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/29/2008 10:03:56 AM
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Where I live, it's not just the churches that bring food for a bereavement--neighbors and co-workers often do, also. Usually the church provides a meal for the day of the services--the family can choose to have it at the church, or in their home if they prefer. Meals are often provided for the days leading up to the services, as well, so that the family does not have to concern itself with taking care not only of themselves, but relatives that may come in from out of town, etc. We do everything from meat & cheese trays, vegetable & fruit trays, sandwiches, cookies, etc, to full meals. That way the family is taken care of during the wake, the day of the funeral, and thoughout. Bear in mind, we are in not just the south, but the deep south, and we feed people for every occasion--it's just the way of life here.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/29/2008 11:22:46 AM
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Bear in mind, we are in not just the south, but the deep south, and we feed people for every occasion--it's just the way of life here.
I lived in Mississippi for a little while as a child, and I remember these feasts. Good night! I had never seen so much food in one place in my life before that! And the first one I saw was breakfast, which included everything from biscuits, scrambled eggs, and sweet rolls to fried chicken, corn bread, and roast beast. No royalty had seen such a spread!
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/30/2008 5:04:23 PM
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Does your church provide them ?
How are they paid for ?
Who provides the service of shopping, cooking & serving.
Our church does funeral dinners, which usually consist of ziti, mac and cheese, various salads, deli tray and rolls, veggie tray, and many desserts. I'm sure the church does pay out some, with the secretary doing the purchasing of that stuff. The rest is donated by members of the church, after they are called by one of our senior saints who "owns" this ministry in our church.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 4/30/2008 10:46:12 PM
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Our church provides the meat (Ham, usually) and bread. This is budgeted for, purchased, and prepared by our hostess committee. Four volunteer groups provide the remainder of the meal: Scalloped Potatoes, Vegetables, Salads, & Desserts. Each group has a leader which calls the required # of people needed to feed the # of people expected. Each volunteer is asked to provide enough of their item for at least 10 people. I'm in the dessert group; it's suggested we provide something in a 9 x 13 pan.
The # of people expected at the funeral dinner is usually communicated with the family through the funeral home. Here, the funeral homes have spaces they use for funeral dinners, and it's much more convenient to have the meal there. They provide tablewear and beverages.
Different volunteers arrive the day of the funeral to serve and clean up. Leftovers are sent home with the family and/or the volunteers. They wash the dishes and bring them back to the church for us to pick up.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 5/3/2008 7:00:13 PM
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we go along with the wishes of the family...sometimes it is providing dinner, sometimes it is a contribution in the name of the deceased, sometimes it is something more tangible such as food baskets to the home of the surviving spouse and family for the month or two following the death...
we try to meet the actual need of the family while serving and not just prepare a meal for the sake of tradition alone.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 5/3/2008 9:17:20 PM
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Here is the way our church does it--they put in the bulletin once in a while for those who want to help prepare food for funerals. When my husband passed away, the volunteers provided ham, and other goodies to go with the dinner. Then too, the family or others picthed in and brought their own food.
At my nieces homegoing, we had like kinda catered dinner with BBQ and all the fixings.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 5/3/2008 9:28:50 PM
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Our church has a benevolence committee....Ladies who sign up for this ministry. They all cook and bring in the bulk of the food, set up, serve, and clean up. They even package up the leftovers in disposable containers(provided by the church) and deliver it where the family wants it to go. Sometimes, people prefer a very small gathering at their home and not a large gathering afterwards, and in that case, it's all taken there and set up for them during the service. It all depends on the wishes of the family.
Our church provides the drinks, tableware and always purchases a few platters of some main dish(chicken, ham, enchiladas, etc), depending on the size of the group they are expecting. But most of the food comes from those in the congregation that have volunteered in advance to prepare food.
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RE: Funeral dinners ? - 5/4/2008 6:44:54 AM
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All of the funeral dinners I've been too have been provided by friends and family of the deceased. Kinda like a potluck/dinner on the grounds thing (that may be a Kentucky or deep south name for it).
Sometimes they take place with all of the attendees invited and sometimes it's just the family at their home or church etc. There aren't really any rules.
Hope that helps
Same here.
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