How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to forward or pushy?
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How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to forwa... - 6/29/2008 10:13:30 PM
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free-to-worship
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I've met this someone with whom I have a lot in common with, we enjoy a lot of the same things and we seem to think along the same lines. We have had casual and/or incidental meetings, but we only exchange casual and short conversation. I would like to be friends with this person, but he is a single Christian male, and I am a single Christian female, so I don't quite know how I should go about taking a chance on establishing a friendship with him, without seeming to forward or pushy. It is true, that I do find him physically attractive, but more than a physical attraction, I find him to be a really interesting person. If nothing else, I would like to have him as a friend.
So any ideas? I'd like to especially hear from the guys on this one.
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 6/29/2008 10:45:17 PM
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It wouldn't be too pushy to let him know you'd like to get to know him a little better because you enjoy talking with him. Ask him if he would like to go out for coffee (or some other casual outting) that both of you might find of interest since you enjoy some of the same things...And just be yourself and let him control the flow of the conversation. He may be interested in you too but he might be afraid to make that first move. If he's not interested, it's no big deal. It's part of the process of finding someone you can settle down with someday.
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 6/29/2008 11:54:41 PM
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free-to-worship
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Thank you for your advice on my question. I think I will try exactly what you said. I just didn't want to come off as being too forward or pushy. Your advice helped alot. Thanks again.
< Message edited by free-to-worship -- 6/30/2008 12:00:52 AM >
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 6/30/2008 4:50:56 AM
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Like I said in the other thread, the best way to make a friend is to be one.
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 6/30/2008 6:34:37 PM
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preserved
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Just invite this person for lunch or coffee..something casual...and just be your self...
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/1/2008 12:29:44 AM
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free-to-worship
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You guys have really given me a lot of confidence. Thanks for the advice.
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/6/2008 8:58:09 PM
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DansHopeandLove
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Call me old-fashioned but I think that he should make the first move. Avoid dating at all costs...consider courting instead. Read the book titled, "Lady In Waiting". It can save you tons of pain and suffering.
I am a male who only wished I knew the difference between dating and courting back when. Also, a female who makes the first move only opens herself up for trouble. Be extremely careful.
But before all, pray, pray and then pray some more. Ask God to give you the right guidance. I and others can easily give you bad advise - HE WILL NEVER EVER!
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/6/2008 9:45:45 PM
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Sideways
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Oh, for Pete's sake. She's talking about making a new friend, not jumping the guy's bones.  You don't have to be male to start a friendship.
I agree with everyone else. Many guys appreciate a casual invitation to coffee and conversation. You'll know pretty quickly if you have enough in common to continue developing a friendship. You'll be fine, and good for you to be the one gutsy enough to reach out your hand in friendship.
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/7/2008 3:04:21 AM
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I agree with Dan. The Word says when a Man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. You might be misleading yourself and entering into a relationship God hasn't approved of. Once you get "caught up" with this guy, it may be hard to remove yourself from the relationship if he's not the guy God has for you. And let's be real, we are talking about more than a potential friend, otherwise his looks wouldn't have even come up.
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/7/2008 8:00:09 PM
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preserved
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quote:
ORIGINAL: restnHim
I agree with Dan. The Word says when a Man finds a wife, he finds a good thing. You might be misleading yourself and entering into a relationship God hasn't approved of. Once you get "caught up" with this guy, it may be hard to remove yourself from the relationship if he's not the guy God has for you. And let's be real, we are talking about more than a potential friend, otherwise his looks wouldn't have even come up.
Sorry sideways...I have to agree with restnhim...The Op is interested in more than just friendship:)
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/7/2008 8:02:11 PM
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Sideways
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Oh, you might be right. Still nothing wrong with a girl initiating a friendship, as long as she has the full understanding that friendship is all it may ever be. Let the guy initiate the smooching. 
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RE: How do I initiate a friendship without seeming to f... - 7/26/2008 1:28:59 PM
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Nmbr1wife
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Just be straight forward with him. I notice that some guys tend to take what they want from a short amount of information (as do some women) so the best thing to be is honest. Simply say, " I think you're a really cool person. Maybe we should kick it sometime. Maybe go have lunch or something. It'll be platonic so you don't have to get the wedding rings ready. (Laugh a little so he'll know you're kidding) What do you say?" Make it light and friendly, but be straight up with what you want. If something more comes of it then great! But if it doesn't, you still just made a friend.
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