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Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long for ... - 10/4/2008 6:58:38 PM
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li_marie
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alright, have you ever felt guilty when you're missing someone to share your life with?
i sometimes struggle with that.
I think I shouldn't miss someone as God should be the only thing i long for.
I should only want to turn to Him when I've had a bad or good day.
sometimes I think i shouldn't long for someone else than god to shed my tears.
But then i think that God was not "enough" for Adam. He said it was not good for man to be alone and that he needed a helper.
this is my question -how can you find the balance between longing naturally for a partner to share your joys and sorrows, and the guilt that God should be sufficient?
see what i mean?
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/4/2008 7:01:29 PM
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9drtr
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Yes, God is sufficient at all times and for all things.
Yes, it is entirely appropriate to long for a partner.
The two are not mutually exclusive.
How do you find the balance between faith and longing? Prayer.
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/4/2008 11:09:03 PM
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John_O
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ORIGINAL: 9drtr
Yes, God is sufficient at all times and for all things.
Yes, it is entirely appropriate to long for a partner.
The two are not mutually exclusive.
How do you find the balance between faith and longing? Prayer.
Excellent post Edwin!!
Hey Mods!! can we get post 2 some stars?
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/4/2008 11:10:22 PM
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rgod
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Hi Lil Marie - you'll see lots of threads that discuss this topic in this folder. Yes, it is ok to long for a partner. God made us to need relationship. He is sufficient, but we were never meant to function entirely alone.
I long for someone almost all of the time, though the intensity changes as I go about the business of living. Some weeks, like this one, have been a bit rough. Tonight, I went to a concert, which I really enjoyed. It featured people that I knew - which was nice. The only other people who I knew there were all paired off. Usually I'm ok with this, but it was a bit too much tonight, so I left early. I don't beat myself up about it - I just recognize what I need and when I need it and take care of it. I had one errand that I had to run, so I did that instead - and called someone to talk about how I felt. They listened - which was great. Many days/weeks are great for me. I long for someone, but it isn't nearly as intense.
I never feel guilt at longing for a partner because there are different types of loneliness. God is sufficient - and he will keep us alive, healthy and whole regardless of whether we have or do not have a partner. But being alone is not his plan for most people (most get married). For some, it is his plan - and for those he makes provision. Basically, I strive to be content as I can be - don't let singleness stop me from doing anything - and don't beat myself up if I feel down about not having someone in my life. I try to monitor that so it doesn't last for a long time. For example, even though I was a bit sad this week about being single - it wasn't the whole week. It was more like a few hours here and there. The rest of the time, I was focused on doing other things.
Hope I answered your question ...
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/4/2008 11:44:24 PM
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agapemami
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quote:
ORIGINAL: li_marie
alright, have you ever felt guilty when you're missing someone to share your life with?
i sometimes struggle with that.
I think I shouldn't miss someone as God should be the only thing i long for.
I should only want to turn to Him when I've had a bad or good day.
sometimes I think i shouldn't long for someone else than god to shed my tears.
But then i think that God was not "enough" for Adam. He said it was not good for man to be alone and that he needed a helper.
this is my question -how can you find the balance between longing naturally for a partner to share your joys and sorrows, and the guilt that God should be sufficient?
see what i mean?
No, I never feel guilty about that! I know someone who is married and majority of the time goes to God cause she believes her husband cant solve her problems...and in that leaves her husband out which causes some marital issues.
Im not sure how youd balance, but I do believe that your marriage or the relationship w/your significant other should be an extension of your relationship w/God...so, if things are done how they should be, God is still sufficient and not left out of the equation.
Great question. I want someone too:) and I hope the one I end up with, God willing, is just as good or better than the one my imagination has invented! grrr! Im a daydreamin' girl! ... hey, God made me that way!
Edited to say oops, Im lying. Yes, I have felt very guilty. but Im so over it now.
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 12:03:38 AM
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agapemami
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Not to take away from what youve said, but Ive found that the desire for a mate has diminished somewhat as Im learning to form other friendships. Theres just no way Id survive this earth just me and God.
as I reconnect with my family/brothers...they have replaced something that I thought Id get only if I found a romantic relationship. . .I feel even better now about marriage! The husband wont have to be my brother, my sister, my mother, my girlfriend...poor man!
As funny as that sounds, now I dont feel like I want a husband, I feel like I NEED one in my life...and the reasons why are clearer now that Im getting other relationships in order.
Did I go on a tangent? Yes, God is sufficient, yet its Ok to long for that SO and normal in My opinion. Have you seen all those other posts in singles....longings, longings, longings!
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 10:35:57 AM
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Yeah, we were made, for the most part, to desire many things: a spouse, food, air, friendship, pleasure...etc...
The problem comes when we blow those things out of proportion. When we make them our God. I really think its about seeing Him. How do you see God? Is he someone you would want to love and worship and give your life for? If not then you will replace Him with something else. We all do it everyday to our shame.
Amen, Amen,--
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 10:53:21 AM
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Is it ok not to long for anything? I mean, anything? Is that how God meant for us to live?
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 3:16:09 PM
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You're just like a lot of people around here. Welcome to the club.
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 3:40:52 PM
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Matthew 7:7-11 (New International Version)
Ask, Seek, Knock
7"Ask and it will be given to you; seek and you will find; knock and the door will be opened to you. 8For everyone who asks receives; he who seeks finds; and to him who knocks, the door will be opened.
9"Which of you, if his son asks for bread, will give him a stone? 10Or if he asks for a fish, will give him a snake? 11If you, then, though you are evil, know how to give good gifts to your children, how much more will your Father in heaven give good gifts to those who ask him!
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 4:21:38 PM
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gaylel1
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I think what Wilfs is trying to say is that I think sometimes that we make things like "longing for our mate" our God. It is not wrong for people to long for things, but we believers have to be careful not to have our desires replace what God wants for us. I hope people are not mad at me about that.
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 5:02:04 PM
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rgod
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I think what Wilfs is trying to say is that I think sometimes that we make things like "longing for our mate" our God. It is not wrong for people to long for things, but we believers have to be careful not to have our desires replace what God wants for us. I hope people are not mad at me about that.
I for one am not mad at you Gayle. Actually, if our longing for a mate replaces God's will (or God himself) then it becomes an idol. And you know what God does to idols ...
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 9:52:22 PM
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OneOfHisJewels
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I'm just going to directly answer the original question. I think it is ABSOLUTELY ok to long for a partner. I think it is NATURAL. If sin had not entered the world, EVERYONE would have a spouse. Singleness is a result of the fall...I AM NOT SAYING IT IS A SIN TO BE SINGLE..please don't anybody get that out of it..I am just saying the single state isn't really natural...it's jut what some of us end up having to live with in this imperfect world....wanting to mate is just as natural as wanting food, clothing, and shelter..true, it should not become an OBSESSION..but the longing is natural....even the saints in heaven long for the day when the saints on earth join them, and the night of weeping becomes a morn of song.
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RE: Is God sufficient, or is it "ok" to long ... - 10/5/2008 10:16:20 PM
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benelchi
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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels
I'm just going to directly answer the original question. I think it is ABSOLUTELY ok to long for a partner. I think it is NATURAL. If sin had not entered the world, EVERYONE would have a spouse. Singleness is a result of the fall...I AM NOT SAYING IT IS A SIN TO BE SINGLE..please don't anybody get that out of it..I am just saying the single state isn't really natural...it's jut what some of us end up having to live with in this imperfect world....wanting to mate is just as natural as wanting food, clothing, and shelter..true, it should not become an OBSESSION..but the longing is natural....even the saints in heaven long for the day when the saints on earth join them, and the night of weeping becomes a morn of song.
I think you hit the nail right on the head.
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