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Need some ideals - 7/25/2008 4:20:21 PM
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Cantwait-2-C-Him
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We are at a small SBC in NC we have been at this Chruch 1 yr now my HD is PT Music, We were asked to come from a local chruch we were at across town to help and fill in this spot on staff, they had been with out for a few years and the person doing it was tired, This is a small older about 25-30 attenends all over age of 50 pastor and us are the youngest, no children and a few (6)youth that : We met with the pastor and his wife we had had 3 after church lunch with them at a local rest.(they asked us but we have always had to paid for our own ) , I have tryed to talk with the few ladies in the church I have been to the 1 a month pray bk, I was asked to give my testmont , Idid etc But even in this small chrch it seem to be two click for better words and we not in eather one! Pastor and wife and a few other mid to sr. age couple , (i hear them talking about last night or where we going for lunch today) I have vol ot VBS and try to communit in a friendly way. I have never had any touble in making friends of all ages I am a professtion woman.(I have worke all my life early education/socialwork.) retire to nannie our grand children so I am a SAHM for now, Hushband works a local office manger so we have most nights free and weekends! We are just suprised at how they just want to play churh Pastor has only been preaching 6yrs this id hid frist church he has a vison. but no one is on broad with HIM . He sound in his teaching and Bible.(1) But I can not make friends with his wife, She works FT and seem to be really nice but standish? She support the Pastor in his calling .(2) They told us they wanted to bring in some praise and worship music along with keeping the Hymns/Sourthen Gosp. My has done that. When HD has tryed to talked with pastor it has been one way . HD talked about ( Hd is called for youth and wants to teach)and Pastor just said anyone can be a quitter , We are not Quitter just want so postive from some one ! We knew this was were God wanted us But now WE feel it may be time to move on! *Before any one said we are in close walk with the Lord and in daily Pray and Bible study, We have been seeking His will for FT sevice for two years , we retruned to college 5 yr ago and complete the Dregree thing for Youth/Music. Youth is our real LOVE) do we go back to our old Church and start working with them till the Lord open a new door for service or just be comtent and learn to play church. We alway be involed in activites a live activite church. Even before we were call to FT service. .I be waiting to hear from all and any. I've been reading on here for over 6 months and feel many have great suggestions!
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RE: Need some ideals - 7/25/2008 4:52:54 PM
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pbaribeault
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You're looking for suggestions, but I'm not sure I understand the 'problem' -- is there a problem?
I think I'm understanding that you're a bit frustrated with music style transition, and not making many friends so far?
That's pretty average for where you are and what you are doing, so I'm not sure what to tell you.
What would it look like if the situation were 'better'?
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RE: Need some ideals - 7/25/2008 7:28:11 PM
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Cantwait-2-C-Him
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I know it was long ,I looking for some ideals how I could connect with people .any ideals? I have never had to work so hard to find friends in a church.? I just do not understand why people want to play church. show up listen,leave! I guess I just needed a place to distress. (thanks for this site) In most Church's I have been in the staff family were close , I just wonder is it just NC thing, We were both raised in church and christian home and have had a Christ center family/home . for 25 yrs, after relocating to attend college then followed the call to come to NC things seem so different. Maybe it is just time to move on and see the what they Lord has in is plans for us.
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RE: Need some ideals - 7/25/2008 9:14:16 PM
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pbaribeault
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It's hard to connect with "people". My advice would be to connect to a person. Just pick one, and talk to them. Next week talk to them again. Talk about what they like, remember what they have said. Pray for them and try to think of things that you might do or say that would make a difference to that person. After about 4 weeks, ask if they might like to go out for a coffee or something during the week.
However, as long as you look down on people with an insulting attitude about "playing Church" you will never be able to befriend or lead them. People who are not experiencing their faith to its fullest are in need of leadership, teaching, personal help and a good role model. Again, one at a time. They are "playing Church" because that's what they've always done. The probably don't know why true contentment eludes them. They might be afraid of the demands whole-life-for-Him kind of faith would make on them, and maybe they wouldn't measure up. How does Jesus want you to think about such confused and dried out folk? That sounds like a calling if you can catch it.
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RE: Need some ideals - 7/25/2008 10:55:42 PM
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colliefan
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I just wonder is it just NC thing,
Where in NC? It is a vast state with many different areas. You have the large metro areas such as Charlotte, the Triad and Triangle. You have the new age of Asheville. You have the small mountain towns. You have the tobacco and farming areas of eastern NC. You have the beach towns. You have the military towns......
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RE: Need some ideals - 7/27/2008 5:50:59 PM
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Cantwait-2-C-Him
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I did not mean the play church as a Insult. I just do not know how else to put it. going on Sunday morning and that it ,even the trustees and other that feel (they said this) I been here 40 year I don't have to come but for Sunday morning service, But again they want change. ( all we hear is I remember when) If a new ideal is suggest. O well we done that before did not work out. or try saying let update like to a power point so all can see the music . (what spent money!) I just had a long talk with husband I to the point of going my self to another church. (I would never really do this ) I'M just to the point of not going at all, (which I never do ) I have always support my husband in his service but now i am just Well I do not know what to say or do!!Thanks for any reply!
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