Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my non-Christian boyfriend?
View related threads:
(in this forum
| in all forums)
|
Logged in as: Guest
|
|
Users viewing this topic:
none
|
|
Login  | |
|
Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my non-... - 10/9/2008 10:43:12 PM
|
|
|
blissvill
Posts: 1
Joined: 10/9/2008
Status: offline
|
I have recently re-dedicated myself to God. This is, unfortunatly, after a five year backslide. So I find myself in situation I have no idea how to handel and I was hoping this might leed to some answers.
I have been going to the Vinyard church here in columbus for like five weeks now. Everytime I go I feel a conviction in my heart that I need to get myself right with God. So last week I finaly broke and I am realy happy to say I can call myself a Christian again. Now I have to deal with my life that I have been messing up for the last five years. I live with my boyfriend who I have actualy promised I would marry. He is not a Christian. I know it says in the Bible to be equaly yoked so I know I would only be asking for heartach if I were to marry this person. I asked him if he would ever consider being a Cristian. He says if I want him to he would. I know better than to just go with that especialy since he has already told me he doesn't believe in God. I talked to my mother about this as well. She unfortunatly married a non-christian and has regretted it her whole life. Her advice was to keep reading the Bible and praying and God would give me an answer. I just feel like I am not realy fallowing God to keep living in sin like this. I don't have the money to just move out. I just feel so helpless and stuck. Hopefuly someone out there has some advice.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my ... - 10/9/2008 11:02:51 PM
|
|
|
creationtalk
Posts: 697
Joined: 6/9/2005
Status: offline
|
You are absolutely right that you are not following God by continuing to live with your bf. I know that you said you do not have the money to move out, but really that is something that will have to happen for you to get right with God. You cannot continue to do something that you know God does not condone for financial reasons. You need to ask God to give you the courage and the means to move out--it may mean moving back in with parents or moving in with one or more roommates.
As for bf, if he "becomes a Christian" for you, then it is not real and it won't work. He has to come to Christ separate from you. I don't know what words would work that would allow you to show him that Christ in the decision...but God does, ask for his words. Perhaps if you frame it from the standpoint that to truly love him (bf), you need to do it through Christ's power, and that cannot happen if you are living in opposition to Christ.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my ... - 10/10/2008 2:17:37 AM
|
|
|
KnowJesus
Posts: 262
Joined: 7/21/2006
Status: offline
|
Blissvill...Thank God for you, and that you rededicated your life to God.
You know, that living with BF is not God's best for your life. That's good!
What's bad is you haven't repented yet. Thinking about repenting is one thing, but repentance takes action on your part. Repenting...means turning away from your sin.
Let others know in your church that you need a place to live. You may have to temporarilly move back home until you can make arrangements elsewhere. You may be able to rent a room from a Christian couple, and do some light chores for your keep. Ask your pastor, or a counselor at your church for guidance.
Pack you belongings ASP.
Leave a note (if confontion is an issue), and a prayer to BF. Don't wait, or the devil will try to give you more justifications to keep you there.
And remember YOU can do all things through Christ Jesus, who will give you strength. The best thing you can do for BF is pray he will one day come to the Lord.
Praying you won't back down, and that the Lord Jesus will do great things with your life..in Jesus name.
< Message edited by KnowJesus -- 10/10/2008 1:16:14 PM >
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my ... - 10/10/2008 8:12:44 PM
|
|
|
MC4JC
Posts: 201
Joined: 7/6/2008
From: Minnesota
Status: offline
|
Agree with the rest. If you truly repented and have turned back to Christ, you would not be staying and living with your bf. You know its the wrong thing to do.
Repent means to ask forgiveness AND turn away from the sin. You have only done 1/2 of that. If you bf "became" Christian because you wanted him to...that's false and wrong in God's eyes.
Agree to leave now and don't look back. God has someone much better for you :)
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my ... - 10/12/2008 12:55:54 AM
|
|
|
DrivenbyGod
Posts: 223
Joined: 12/11/2007
Status: offline
|
quote:
I have recently re-dedicated myself to God. This is, unfortunatly, after a five year backslide. So I find myself in situation I have no idea how to handel and I was hoping this might leed to some answers.
I have been going to the Vinyard church here in columbus for like five weeks now. Everytime I go I feel a conviction in my heart that I need to get myself right with God. So last week I finaly broke and I am realy happy to say I can call myself a Christian again. Now I have to deal with my life that I have been messing up for the last five years. I live with my boyfriend who I have actualy promised I would marry. He is not a Christian. I know it says in the Bible to be equaly yoked so I know I would only be asking for heartach if I were to marry this person. I asked him if he would ever consider being a Cristian. He says if I want him to he would. I know better than to just go with that especialy since he has already told me he doesn't believe in God. I talked to my mother about this as well. She unfortunatly married a non-christian and has regretted it her whole life. Her advice was to keep reading the Bible and praying and God would give me an answer. I just feel like I am not realy fallowing God to keep living in sin like this. I don't have the money to just move out. I just feel so helpless and stuck. Hopefuly someone out there has some advice.
I went through exactly the same thing, but it was 4yrs. I spoke to her about my beliefs like you did with your boyfriend and she even appeared to get saved. I say appeared, because there were things she didn't want to stop doing in our relationship, like having sex and living together. So, eventually we just ended it.
Here's something I just read that might help put things in perspective regarding your relationship...
http://www.crosswalk.com/singles/11582120/
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my ... - 10/12/2008 1:02:23 AM
|
|
|
1love1God1way
Posts: 2383
Joined: 5/16/2005
Status: online
|
ditto to all the posts above me.
_____________________________
love.ben
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Now that I am a Christian what should I do with my ... - 10/12/2008 5:35:02 PM
|
|
|
misty35
Posts: 614
Joined: 9/22/2008
From: Arkansas
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: blissvill
I have recently re-dedicated myself to God. This is, unfortunatly, after a five year backslide. So I find myself in situation I have no idea how to handel and I was hoping this might leed to some answers.
I have been going to the Vinyard church here in columbus for like five weeks now. Everytime I go I feel a conviction in my heart that I need to get myself right with God. So last week I finaly broke and I am realy happy to say I can call myself a Christian again. Now I have to deal with my life that I have been messing up for the last five years. I live with my boyfriend who I have actualy promised I would marry. He is not a Christian. I know it says in the Bible to be equaly yoked so I know I would only be asking for heartach if I were to marry this person. I asked him if he would ever consider being a Cristian. He says if I want him to he would. I know better than to just go with that especialy since he has already told me he doesn't believe in God. I talked to my mother about this as well. She unfortunatly married a non-christian and has regretted it her whole life. Her advice was to keep reading the Bible and praying and God would give me an answer. I just feel like I am not realy fallowing God to keep living in sin like this. I don't have the money to just move out. I just feel so helpless and stuck. Hopefuly someone out there has some advice.
Hi blissvill,
I just want to say hi, and to let you know that I have went through exactly what your going through. I was living with my now ex husband, yes ex, we were living together, and during that time, I got saved, thats a story alone, well no, its my testimony, thank you Jesus! But my ex seen this transformation in me, and I must admit, I even thought he had gotten saved, not so sure now, but I told him that things were different now, that Im serving the Lord now, and things had to change, the sex had to stop, and it did, he agreed to it, that even more so made me believe that he was saved, he has always believed in God, was raised in church, but that doesnt always mean you are saved, but anyway, we were already engaged before the Lord walked into my life, but with all this happening, we moved our wedding date forward, and were married within 4 weeks. Things were good at first, we were in church, but then we began having problems, financial alond with other problems. I believed that the Lord could turn our situation around, but my ex just didnt, and he filed for a divorce, my marriage was over Sept 24th, something I never seen coming. So yes, its very important that you are equally yoked, the Lord warns us about these things for a reason. If this man really loves you, he will respect you for the change that the Lord has made in your life. Continue to pray for him, but the main thing blissvill, is to TRUST in the Lord! He will not make a mistake! I was given many warnings in my situation, but looked over them, and Im not saying your situation is the same as mine, but if your boyfriend doesnt believe in God, then what other warning do you honestly need?? I hope you really think about that one. The Lord will make a way for you, but you have to trust Him and take that step of faith.
You are in my prayers because I know without a doubt, that what you are facing is not easy, just pray, talk with the Lord, He will open doors that no man can shut 
Misty
|
|
|
|
 New Messages |
 No New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/ New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/o New Messages |
 Locked w/ New Messages |
 Locked w/o New Messages |
|
 Post New Thread
Reply to Message
Post New Poll
Submit Vote
Delete My Own Post
Delete My Own Thread
Rate Posts |
|
|
Forum Tools
Printable Version
