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Oh Dear I think I messed up - 8/29/2008 5:33:20 PM
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Leslie_JnJs_mom
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Well I have a neighbor who is very difficult. She is negative and angry alot. She makes a lot of people angry with her very easily including me. Another person is a lady that works here in town. She told me some pretty nasty stuff about this neighbor of mine. I should have kept my mouth shut but I told my neighbors mother in law what was said. She decided her son needed to know. He came by to ask me what was said so I told him who and what. Well come to mind out the mother in law got yelled at by the angry daughter in law and the person who was telling the hateful gossip is mad too. I am beginning to think I should have just let it go. Sure the whole town would have heard her hate filled rants but at least I wouldn't be here in the middle. What is really funny is my neighbors husband asked me to make sure to tell him if I hear any more gossip. Ha after how they treated his own mother I think not!!
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RE: Oh Dear I think I messed up - 8/29/2008 7:27:00 PM
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Neeva_Candida
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ORIGINAL: Leslie_JnJs_mom
the person who was telling the hateful gossip
Umm, this would be you would it not?
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RE: Oh Dear I think I messed up - 8/29/2008 7:59:43 PM
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MC4JC
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When we first moved to our house, the granddaughter of the woman next to us came over and told us "if you want to know anything about this town, ask my grandmother. if you don't want everyone in town to know something about you, don't tell my grandmother"
We never met the dear lady when she was living.
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RE: Oh Dear I think I messed up - 8/29/2008 11:40:18 PM
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deermousie
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Sometimes it's hard for me to remember what is gossip and what isn't. Someone told this to me, and it helps:
If you aren't part of the problem or part of the solution, it's gossip to talk about it.
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ORIGINAL: Leslie_JnJs_mom. She told me some pretty nasty stuff about this neighbor of mine.
Here's how you stop this kind of talk in its tracks: say "Let's you and I go to the angry lady and ask her if this is true." They will probably run for the hills and never tell you nasty stuff again. 
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I should have kept my mouth shut
I'm afraid I have to agree.
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but I told my neighbors mother in law what was said.
<whimper>
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She decided her son needed to know.
That's one of the problems with telling someone else - you have no control where it goes from there. It's like shaking a feather pillow out on top of a windy mountain - you can never get all the feathers back inside the pillow case again.
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He came by to ask me what was said so I told him who and what. Well come to mind out the mother in law got yelled at by the angry daughter in law and the person who was telling the hateful gossip is mad too.
At you?
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I am beginning to think I should have just let it go. Sure the whole town would have heard her hate filled rants but at least I wouldn't be here in the middle.
I'm afraid you are in the middle of this one. It could have stopped if you'd refused to listen to the original tale bearer, or at least it would have detoured around you and left you out of it. Here is how you fix it: go to the original tale bearer and tell her you and she need to go to angry neighbor and confess and repent your gossip. Tell MIL and her son they need to come with you, and anyone else who was involved. Either they will want to make it right or they will want to protect themselves at the cost of their morals and good reputation. If they won't go, you go alone. Face the hurricane. Tell her what you did, say you know it was wrong and you won't do this again and would she please forgive you.
She may or may not forgive you, but you will have done the right (and gutsy) thing. Your conscience will be clear, your walk with God unhindered, and people will know that you will fix your problems and can be trusted as a moral person. A good name. And you'll never want to have to do this again!
You said you thought you'd messed up and I think you're right. You want to fix this. God bless you, dear one. I am praying for you tonight. Be strong and courageous.
< Message edited by deermousie -- 8/29/2008 11:46:28 PM >
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RE: Oh Dear I think I messed up - 8/30/2008 12:26:15 AM
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Leslie_JnJs_mom
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No one is really mad at me except maybe the lady that said the gossip. I think she is mad at everyone though.
Yes I am going to tell her ( the lady that originally said the gossip) how sorry I am for not doing the right thing right away by not participating. That would have at the very least kept me from being in the middle.
I have learned a hard lesson this week. If I even listen to gossip I may have angry people confronting me. I will never do that again. Next time I will follow your advice.
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RE: Oh Dear I think I messed up - 9/5/2008 6:26:37 PM
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preserved
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The best policy is that if you do not know what is being told to you is true or not(especially if it is negative) stay out of the conversation. The old saying...if someone brings a bone to you...they are carrying one as well..In other words if someone telling you information or gossip...then they are carrying back what is said and more to others...
I learn as a young lady...to steer away from gossip and people conversationg about others but would not say it to the person...But do not beat yourself in the head over it...It was a lesson that you needed to be taught:)
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