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Prayers needed - 10/12/2008 2:36:00 AM
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littlerednut
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I have left my husband - we have been married for 14 years. This is the third time that I have left. I chose to leave because I couldn't stand to continue to be treated like I was a piece of the furniture anymore. We have three children, they are dd14, ds11, ds8. He has never really spent anytime with any of us and we were all starting to find things really difficult. Obviously there is alot more than I have time to type, but basically I left because of emotional abuse and neglect issues. Twice I have gone back - a few years ago now, and he failed to stick to the agreements of what was needed. I did go to our church to see aid, and the Pastor there told me that we didn't need any counseling, we only needed to watch a video on marriage and communication. How can that help anything when one person isn't willing to act on anything. The video was interesting, we watched it...but it didn't help. I have been on my own now for almost 7 months. I decided that since he still hasn't made any effort to call us, to talk to the children...that it is all hopeless. I have asked him to call, and I had in the beginning told him that I wanted to get help for myself first - and then figure out from there where to go. We can't spend anytime together or do any counseling as I am in another province away from him. Where I am at, is where we used to live afew years ago. It is where all of supports and friends were. Though I am finding that I am not seeking their aid either, I am looking for new supports. The other ones I feel it would be too difficult as they are friends of mine and my husbands. I can't ask them anything - I worry that they would feel they are being unfair to my husband...or unloyal.
I tried to date. What a huge mistake. And I have that hurt topped ontop of this one because it was much too soon. I know that I am married and I really had no business even considering it, much less doing that. And he wasn't a Christian. My guilt was heavy...and I prayed and asked God to forgive me afew days ago. I feel alot better, but I still feel really down.
So what does the Bible say about abuse and divorce? I have been reading a really good book by Frank Retief called "Divorce" the author is a Christian. I don't know why I am posting this here....I am really just so confused tonight.
Thanks for listening and any prayers....
Blessings to all.
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RE: Prayers needed - 10/12/2008 6:26:18 AM
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mvic
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I am praying for you and your family. May God be with you at this time and always.
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RE: Prayers needed - 10/12/2008 6:45:54 AM
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conrack50
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In my opinion, the marriage I was in before this one I suffered emotional abuse & physical. I brought on the physical part I admit.
But, the emotional abuse that one goes thru from their spouse can cause a lot of damage.
I also went back the second time, but then I realized that my self esteem had gotten so far down that I thought no one would want me but him. I left town and came back to my home state, then I admitted to the Lord the mistakes I had made, received forgiveness and that was the start.
It's very hard starting over. After getting a divorce, I went 10 years before I dated the man I'm married to now.
I believe you are right in seeking new supports because they won't know him. But you need to resolve the issue of leaving your husband. That alone is hanging on to you.
Ask the Lord for His guidance and help and He will sustain you.
Heavenly Father,
We ask that you seek out this woman & give her courage to take on the tasks of her life.
We ask that You give her mercy for the things left undone.
We ask that You place Yourself in her heart so she sees nothing else but Your wondrous works.
We ask that You restore her to become a testimony for You Lord.
We ask this in Jesus Name, amen.
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RE: Prayers needed - 10/13/2008 9:00:11 AM
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peaceofGod
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Father,
Thank you for desiring a relationship with us humans—for giving your only begotten Son so that we all can be reconciled with you. Please provide your solutions to this marriage with healing of all emotional wounds & scars. We thank you and pray this in the name of your Son who is our Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.
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RE: Prayers needed - 10/13/2008 10:25:54 AM
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marstacy
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ORIGINAL: peaceofGod
Father,
Thank you for desiring a relationship with us humans—for giving your only begotten Son so that we all can be reconciled with you. Please provide your solutions to this marriage with healing of all emotional wounds & scars. We thank you and pray this in the name of your Son who is our Savior, Jesus Christ. Amen.
I am praying in agreement through Jesus Christ my Savior.
Amen.
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And renew a steadfast spirit within me.
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