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Teenagers - 10/13/2008 1:20:49 PM
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pepsimom7
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I have been a christian since i was 16, I am now a mom a wife and a homeschool teacher. I have been struggling with a mental Illness since I was 21. I have been hospitalized 4 times and it has been heart breaking for my family. I have been married to a man 19 years. He grew up in a family that had no mental illness and no understanding of it. He was raised on a farm and they never really went to docters. It has been so hard for me emotionally.years ago I found comfort in going to crosswalk chat to talk with other moms. I also have a yahoo account and well over the years had recieved many spam emails, 1 day i checked out an adult site and had sorry to say fallen into the sin of chatting with men. I confessed this to my hubby and he forgave me. but I never told my teen kids. I try to tell them the dangers of the internet and now I am feeling guilty that they may know and are ashamed to confront me or they are angry with me about this. Since I confessed this to my hubby and he forgave me is this enough??? or should I tell my teens that I was involved in these websites as well?? What would I say? would I have to go into details? what would they think of me? I feel so ashamed and guilty as it is. my kids all still live at home but soon they will leave i dont want them to fall into the same sin i have. any suggestions or ideas would be helpful.
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RE: Teenagers - 10/13/2008 1:22:55 PM
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manda59
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You've told your husband, which was the right thing to do, and is absolutely enough. Your children don't need to know IMO. Can't see that it would do them any good whatsoever.
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RE: Teenagers - 10/13/2008 1:25:46 PM
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karlie
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I agree with Manda. That's an issue between you, your husband, and God. I don't think kids should be dragged into adult or marriage issues. You can teach them to be safe and avoid pitfalls without disclosing that.
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RE: Teenagers - 10/13/2008 2:23:34 PM
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VBCYouthPastor
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You've done the correct thing.
You've repented of your sins to God, first and foremost, and you have been forgiven and are accepted by your husband.
It's as far East as from the West, now. You're free. We have all made mistakes at some point, however, once you've done business with God there is no need in shame...from anyone.
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RE: Teenagers - 10/13/2008 2:31:51 PM
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pbaribeault
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Who you repent to depends entirely on with-whom you have a covenant that you have broken.
It your husband to whom you promised to 'forsake all others' -- which is the part of your covenant that you broke, repented and have been forgiven.
It is no part of a parent-child covenant that the child should be concerned with the parent's marital purity. That would be completely inappropriate to the relationship.
I am unclear why you still feel ashamed and guilty, since the issue is resolved between you & your husband, and you are forgiven by your heavenly father by they purity of Christ's shed blood. Do you think you might be listening to the 'voice' of a certain 'father of lies'? He's really quite an expert at using unwarranted shame and condemnation against God's children.
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RE: Teenagers - 10/13/2008 8:52:50 PM
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Memaw.
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Pepsi,
You don't owe your children any explanation.
You have confessed your sin to God and to your husband.
Now if you think you could use your experience to teach your children how easy it is to fall into temptation (without going into details with them of course), then I think that could be a good thing, but as far as feeling guilt and shame, you don't need to feel that, you have been forgiven!
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"Freedom is never more than one generation away from extinction.
Every generation has to learn how to protect and defend it, or it's gone
and gone for a long, long time."
Ronald Reagan
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