|
Users viewing this topic:
none
|
|
Login  | |
|
Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 8:51:31 AM
|
|
|
Jerry0308
Posts: 2
Joined: 5/16/2008
Status: offline
|
Recently a relationship fell apart... I thought she was the one... I gave my heart to her... Now I feel betrayed and wondering how all my prayers could be answered and all be taken away... I am wanting to turn away from everything and never let anyone hurt me again... I have no true valid reason why I shouldn't close myself up and never open up to anyone... as the first person I ever opened up to... hurt me.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 9:14:43 AM
|
|
|
crh737
Posts: 629
Joined: 6/1/2005
Status: offline
|
Jerry0308~
Do not give up....... I am sorry about your hurts from this young lady who ended the relationship.
Give yourself sometime with the Lord, He has not given up on you. His own word declares: I have a plan for You (Jeremiah 2911-13)
Maybe your prayers were answered and she is not the one for you. The Lord could be saving you from a lot of future hurts from this young lady.
I am sorry you gave your heart, but take life one day at a time for now and don't lock yourself up inside of you. Nothing good can come from that and you will miss blessings that the Lord wants for your life.
Remember Romans 8:28
I will pray for you
CRH
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 9:19:48 AM
|
|
|
mvic
Posts: 599
Joined: 1/17/2008
Status: offline
|
Hi,
When we love someone we open up to them and make ourselves vulnerable. Sometimes, like in your case, things don't work out and we get hurt. The pain can be intolerable as many who have been hurt like you can testify.
You feel like "closing up" and never make yourself vulnerable again. This too is a natural reaction and understandable.
Believe me; in time the hurt and pain will ease. It won't be quick or easy but it will heal. Hopefully then you'll be able to open up again and love again.
As they say: Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.
You have loved - that is good. Hopefully you'll be able to do so again.
Good luck and God bless.
_____________________________
http://www.holyvisions.co.uk
Welcome to my Blog
MEI VITA INDICO CHRISTUS
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 9:21:12 AM
|
|
|
URForgiven
Posts: 604
Joined: 3/22/2008
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Jerry0308
Recently a relationship fell apart... I thought she was the one... I gave my heart to her... Now I feel betrayed and wondering how all my prayers could be answered and all be taken away... I am wanting to turn away from everything and never let anyone hurt me again... I have no true valid reason why I shouldn't close myself up and never open up to anyone... as the first person I ever opened up to... hurt me.
It may not seem like it right now, but it will get better. Love is risky business, but the alternative is even worse. Give yourself time. If you are in Christ, He will work it all together for your good. Though you cannot see that now, trust Him, He is faithful.
Praying for you.
Peace
_____________________________
The sin of the world is unbelief.
"I am a Believer, it is impossible for me to be an unbeliever."
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 9:39:49 AM
|
|
|
AboundinginHisGrace
Posts: 138
Joined: 4/28/2008
Status: offline
|
My wife and I had some problems early in our marriage (Both of our faults). We ended up seperating for a couple of months(her choice) I was devistated. I couldn't eat, sleep or anything. But I prayed and prayed. I would ask God to show me some verses in the bible that might help. I was especting something about marriage, but what God showed me was not what I espected. I can't remember what the verse was exactly but I can remember the message. The verses I read just spoke of the power, glory, and love of God. It hit me. God was telling me, it's not about me, my wife, my son or anything; its about HIM. From that point on there was a huge difference on my perspective on everything. My wife and I got back together, We are closer now than ever, We are closer to God now and our family is doing great. Don't worry God still loves you and in the end, He is all that trully matters anyway. If you look to people or even yourself you will be let down. But God is always there, with his never changing love. Wow what an awsome/loving God we serve.
< Message edited by AboundinginHisGrace -- 5/16/2008 9:48:26 AM >
_____________________________
" 'O Lord God. You have begun to show Your servant Your greatness and Your Mighty hand, for what god is there in heaven or on earth who can do anything like Your works and Your mighty deeds?" Deuteronomy 3:24
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 12:21:26 PM
|
|
|
CherishedbyGod
Posts: 2824
Status: offline
|
(((((Jerry0308)))))
My heart grieves with you.....
_____________________________
~For God, who commanded the light to shine out of darkness, hath shined in our hearts, to give the light of the knowledge of the glory of God in the face of Jesus Christ~
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 2:19:11 PM
|
|
|
JMCrwd
Posts: 157
Joined: 5/2/2008
Status: offline
|
I know how you feel, but giving up is not the answer. If you give up you let the devil win. I went through just about what you are going through, just like the others have said you can get through this. It won't be easy or quick but you can get through this. Just keep close to God.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 3:03:06 PM
|
|
|
deermousie
Posts: 1263
Joined: 9/26/2007
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: AboundinginHisGrace
The verses I read just spoke of the power, glory, and love of God. It hit me. God was telling me, it's not about me, my wife, my son or anything; its about HIM. From that point on there was a huge difference on my perspective on everything.
WHOO-WOO!!!!! AboundinginHisGrace gets it. You can get it, too!
This is a point that every Christian must come to if they are going to walk with God and not keep tripping over themselves. If breaking your heart gets you to this understanding, you will look back on this and call it the second bargain of a lifetime (besides your salvation).
Yeah, you hurt, and I'm not making fun of you. I grieve for you. But you're like the old prospector whose donkey just went lame and you're worrying about how you're going to get on. You look down and notice the 2# gold nugget by the donkey's foot. Eureka!!!
When our goal is to live for God and glorify Him in everything we say and do, then the rest follows in God's perfect timing - including His wonderful gift of a wife for you who is your match. God gives good gifts!
You've had a real loss, Jerry, and you gave your heart away. Take the time to grieve, cry as much as you need to, pull up your socks and thank God for protecting you from a woman who wasn't the great match your wife will be. You just dodged a bullet. Then wash your face and get on with your life, glorifying God and living for Him. It's a great life, and there's a good woman somewhere probably asking God to bring her a godly husband. Be one.
God bless you, Jerry, and I give you my blessing, too.
_____________________________
Want to know where a certain word or phrase in the Bible is found? www.biblegateway.com Yay!
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 4:55:09 PM
|
|
|
terryjohn
Posts: 385
Joined: 3/23/2007
Status: offline
|
I have seen the comedies were a guy has just been crushed by having his love rejected by a beautiful woman only to turn and see another he can love within seconds of his having been dumped and it is only funny because it is true.
What you are experiencing is common to all men and now as I look back, I thank God those women had more sense than I had.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 5:41:28 PM
|
|
|
Kath
Posts: 16191
Joined: 2/28/2005
Status: online
|
Moved from General Faith
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 5:54:51 PM
|
|
|
Ganheim
Posts: 101
Joined: 4/25/2008
Status: offline
|
quote:
ORIGINAL: Jerry0308
Recently a relationship fell apart... I thought she was the one... I gave my heart to her... Now I feel betrayed and wondering how all my prayers could be answered and all be taken away... I am wanting to turn away from everything and never let anyone hurt me again... I have no true valid reason why I shouldn't close myself up and never open up to anyone... as the first person I ever opened up to... hurt me.
There will always be those who will hurt you, either intentionally or unintentionally. Closing up so that nobody can hurt you sounds like a nice idea, but it's a fantasy. People are not islands that can survive without anything from the outside.
I'd like to share some useful experience, but I've never found a situation where I can completely trust someone else - nobody ever waited that long before stabbing me in the back.
quote:
ORIGINAL: mvic
As they say: Better to have loved and lost than not to have loved at all.
I hate that saying. It's so easy for people to throw out when they've never had anything happen to them.
quote:
ORIGINAL: JMCrwd
I know how you feel, but giving up is not the answer.
I might disagree. Nobody can chop your head off if you don't stick out your neck.
quote:
ORIGINAL: terryjohn
It is only funny because it is true.
It's not funny because it's true, it's funny because it happened to someone else. "It's a recession if your neighbor loses his house. It's a depression when you lose yours."
_____________________________
Writer on Fiction Press, Fan Fiction, Deviant Art.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/16/2008 6:51:18 PM
|
|
|
SomeDaySoon
Posts: 8
Joined: 5/14/2008
Status: offline
|
I feel for you too. The best thing you can do right now is turn it over to God and trust that He is working something great. He is going to use this to grow you and build your faith.
Instead of looking to whats hurt you, look to the great Healer. And just trust in His purpose.
You are in my prayers!!!
_____________________________
***There is but one good; that is God. Everything else is good when it looks to Him and bad when it turns from Him. ***
-C. S. Lewis
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/19/2008 5:21:50 PM
|
|
|
preserved
Posts: 1222
Joined: 6/12/2007
Status: offline
|
God has not given up on you.....so do not give up on God. God does not give you something and then take it back unless you are not worthy and obedient with what He gives you...
Sometimes we think the answers that we received are all from God..Not necessarily...There are times we operate out of His Will thinking that it is of Him...
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/20/2008 11:13:37 AM
|
|
|
jaimestarcross
Posts: 810
Joined: 11/28/2005
Status: offline
|
We have a Savior that understands and has endured the same betrayal
by those who claimed to love Him.
Yet he chose to bend to the Father's Will and become our Savior/Redeemer -
oh, what a love he showed toward sinful mankind!
May that love he showed toward us strengthen you and bring restoration
to your broken heart.
*My heavenly Father comfort, encourage and bring healing to Jerry who's hurting
due to betrayal... Amen.
|
|
|
|
|
RE: Wanting to Give Up??? - 5/20/2008 12:42:35 PM
|
|
|
Ninjaearth
Posts: 30
Joined: 2/16/2008
From: Washington, D.C. - Maryland
Status: offline
|
I completely understand. I remember years, ago, in my teen years when I first fell in love with an incredible but strange and weired that helped me open up and have fun with life (in a good way). Slowly, I began noticing her and her the influence she had on me. I soon wanted to be with her whenever I could; I was even willing to walk several miles from my home to her home, despite dangerous obstacles that blocked my path. To me, it didn't matter because she was all I wanted to know; I wanted to see her and be with her, no matter what. After she broke it off several months later, I felt my heart shatter and for the first time ever I cried intensely. For weeks and months I shut myself up in my room, blamming everyone, and wishing her to come back to me. Well, I wasn't saved at that time, but two months after this I was. After that, though, I had prayed to the Lord about her coming back to me. I sooooo much wanted to be with her because I believed that she and I were meant to be together! One day, I thought my prayers were answered when she called to tell me that she loves me. I shouted and jumped for joy. Of course, in this, there were times where I wasn't quite sure whether or not we were completely on the same page, but eventually going through my second year of college, I realized how different she was. She was only a grade lower than me, so the year I transferred to my second college (for my second year) she graduated high school. So, the day after I attended her graduation, that's when I noticed a slight change in behavior, which is normal. However....she went to take an entry test into college in Baltimore and that's when she really started changing. I noticed that her heart became cold, ever time I called her you could her the unpleasant tone in her voice that said "Just go away and leave me alone" and she even said "Hey Reggie" in a callous sort of way. In the end, we went our separate ways; she claimed that she had met someone at the college and that they were meant to be due to "signs" that indicated it was from God. The most interesting thing was....so did I! I thought the same thing when it came to her. So...was I wrong? Was God wrong? No, God was right, I was wrong. So, was my prayer answered? No.
I said all of that to say this: when we are praying for something everything that is good and perfect comes from God. This is not to say that if something goes wrong, then it's not God, because God uses anything to discipline and teach us what He desires for us to do in glorifying Him. In fact, He has a perfect reason for letting things go awry in the relationship. The good thing that may come from loosing a relationship is that we get to experience something else God has in store for us. But as I once thought: "We good is a broken heart?" or "What in the world could be perfect about praying about something, getting the so-called answer to it, and then loosing it again!?" Good question. I don't know. At best, this is all that I can say: God's ways are not ours and His thoughts are higher than ours. As a result, He will do somethings that we will not understand (at first) and as such will seem like it's nothing and pointless. In truth, it has a big point and a purpose. That purpose is that God uses suffering, like a broken heart, to help strengthen our desire for Him and the will He has for our lives. The best part about the broken heart is that we get to experience God in a whole new way of life that we couldn't have realized with our heart whole. Furthermore, God may intend to use this situation to help you encourage others (like I am doing now) all due to the fact that you have experienced a painful event that left you in of need of God's wisdom and restoration. The pain of a broken heart is so great that you will feel the need to isolate yourself, thinking it will protect you. It won't. In truth, it only gets worse. For the rest of your life, this pain (the memory anyway) is going to be with you. What you can do now, is use it to your advantage.
How do you do that? You use your broken heart in a such a way that you begin to evaluate yourself in how you can serve God during this time of pain and turmoil. Also, use this time to draw near to God (Hebrews 10) and use it as an opportunity to express your shortcomings to him. Also, remember this: If God's means for you have something, it will be yours and you will not loose it. James said that all good and perfect gifts come from above from the Father of lights (God) and He doesn't change His mind (James 1:17). Thus, trust in God to fulfill His promise of having a mate for you and that when you receive her you shall be full of rejoicing. In the meantime, be patient and keep running the race that is set before you (Hebrews 12) with patience and endurance. Remember those who were before you who desired something great, but in the end received something greater. Even if you keep running and God decides not to give you a wife (a scenario that I'd have to think about myself) then that shouldn't stop you from running the race. Even moreso, do not isolate yourself but get together with some close brothers-in-Christ and lay your burdens on them; let them encourage you and build you up, as long as they can provide Godly wisdom and encouragement to you. The most important thing to do: take it to God in prayer. Philippians 4:6 tells us that we are to make our request known to God, with ALL prayer and petition (talking and asking) so that we may discern the good, perfect will of God in our lives. So, be bold and believe in what God will do for you, as long as you remain faithful in serving Him. So, again, I encourage you. Pray, cry, talk about it, do what you need to that is good so that you can recover from a broken heart. I know that it took me years to recover; it has affected my ability to recognize whether I "love" a woman or not. How you define that, is crucial, but remember to look for a woman who is a Godly and has a strong relationship with God (strong knowledge in prayer and the Word of God and is pure and modest and she's characterized by her love for God and a good reputation). So, I understand, my brother, about your pain. Just remember that God may use you to encourage and comfort others who have experienced the same thing (1 Cor 10:13). God bless you and you'll be in my prayers!!!
_____________________________
Reggie "Ninjaearth" Fredericks
Washington Bible College
6511 Princess Garden Pkwy #181
Lanham, MD 20706
980-322-3708
|
|
|
|
 New Messages |
 No New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/ New Messages |
 Hot Topic w/o New Messages |
 Locked w/ New Messages |
 Locked w/o New Messages |
|
 Post New Thread
Reply to Message
Post New Poll
Submit Vote
Delete My Own Post
Delete My Own Thread
Rate Posts |
|
|
Forum Tools
Printable Version
