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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: shemaromans

In the end, though, is it really that much of a sacrifice to try to please your spouse physically? I've never been married, but I imagine that it would be an honor to make my husband happy in this way.

Excellent post shema.

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ORIGINAL: WalkingwithHim2

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: shemaromans

In the end, though, is it really that much of a sacrifice to try to please your spouse physically? I've never been married, but I imagine that it would be an honor to make my husband happy in this way.

Excellent post shema.

I'll second that!

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***Incoming Message from the Big Giant Head ***

While reading Denise's post, this particular passage came to mind:

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2 Samuel 23:13-17 (NIV)

13 During harvest time, three of the thirty chief men came down to David at the cave of Adullam, while a band of Philistines was encamped in the Valley of Rephaim. 14 At that time David was in the stronghold, and the Philistine garrison was at Bethlehem. 15 David longed for water and said, "Oh, that someone would get me a drink of water from the well near the gate of Bethlehem!" 16 So the three mighty men broke through the Philistine lines, drew water from the well near the gate of Bethlehem and carried it back to David. But he refused to drink it; instead, he poured it out before the LORD. 17 "Far be it from me, O LORD, to do this!" he said. "Is it not the blood of men who went at the risk of their lives?" And David would not drink it.

What David's mighty men did was insane admirable, but the most interesting part of the story is what David did with the water when he realized the depth of what he had asked them to do. I think the lesson of the above passage is this:

Be mindful of what you ask of those who love/trust/respect you. While the request for a wife to maintain long/short hair (or whatever else) may seem trivial on the surface, it may very well be a breaking-through-the-Philistine-lines sort of big deal to her. This could be for reasons that she may not even be able to express or possibly is embarassed to express. Because she loves you and wants to please you, it places an unfair burden on her, especially if you make a point of letting her know that you much prefer for her to look/weigh just so.

So, to give the question a different twist, how hard would you work at making sure that you never find yourself in the position David found himself in with his mighty men, pouring out the "drink offering" that your spouse has brought you?

NiceGuy [sm=icon_smile_super.gif]

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you know your mate wants you to be someway (for a lady that would normally be just like you were on your wedding day) how hard would you work to be that.

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ORIGINAL: elastic

the things that were important to us on our wedding day are not as important to us now....the goals we had for each other on our wedding day have been met and we are on to new and more important goals....the dreams we had then are not the dreams we have now, as those dreams were fulfilled.....we can't go back to the way we were on that day, so why should we both look the same way we looked on that day?

i'm a little fatter, he's a little balder, my hair's a little redder, his belt's a little tighter , but we have changed together and have managed to love each other more and more despite any changes.

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ORIGINAL: elastic

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you know your mate wants you to be someway (for a lady that would normally be just like you were on your wedding day) how hard would you work to be that.

i haven't looked the same as i looked on my wedding day, well, since my wedding day.

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You probably looked about the same for the next several months after your wedding day.

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If I thought my husband wanted a WHAT, I would find him one. How about WHO a person is?