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HannahElizabeth -> Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 5:33:19 PM)

My husband has been in a 10-year emotional affair that has moved into the physical realm, and which has progressed to the point that he has finally chosen the other woman over me. His faith is nonexistent, though he claims it is strong. He lives from his gut, and craves "freedom." He's about to turn 40, and shows all signs of a mid-life crisis.

I asked him to leave and he's gone. According to emails I have read, he was plotting with this other woman to leave me soon anyways. She's already sent her husband out of their home. He's talking about a future together with this non-Christian woman, who openly communicates anger towards God. He says, "At least she believes in God." I've started calling her his girlfriend, and he doesn't balk.

I don't know if I'd want him back, he's abused me so badly emotionally to excuse his bad behavior, I don't have much love left. We were a perfect match, but now we only cause each other pain and suffering. It feels really over, after 20 years of being together.

So, what I am asking for is prayer for his soul, that he will be restored to the strong faith I witnessed in him when he was a young man. I don't wish for him to be destroyed; I hope he finds love and peace in God, rather than in a false, sinful fling.

And please pray for my 3-year-old daughter, who adores her daddy and can't possibly understand what has transpired. I try not to cry around her, but she senses something: Daddy comes home to play every day, but he's not sleeping there.

And please pray for me, because some days I fully feel God's arms around me and on others it's like someone died, and it's me.

Finally, please pray for this other woman and her family. Regardless of what happens with my marriage, she has been with her husband for 15 years and they deserve a chance to make things work without my husband egging her on to destroy her marriage. They have two children. This isn't right. Please pray for her to find the peace she's lost after the death of one of her children -- it is this pain that drew her to my husband as her savior, when we know who the true Healer is.

Thank you for your prayers.



kyl -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 6:10:36 PM)

Dear Heavenly Father first I ask you for much healing to begin immediatly in both families. Lord I pray for these marriages.
First I lift up this husband that is going through somes changes. I ask you Lord to remind him of his promises and of his family. May he come to realize the pain he is causing in his relationship and the womans family. May he see the destructive path he is choosing for him self and all he is thrown away. Lord I pray your will be done in this family and that the child will be protected from the discourse that is bound to happen. Lord I pray you call out to this man and draw him near to you. I pray that he will turn to you for the things he is seeking and not bring anymore interference into another family. Lord I pray that he will constantly be reminded of the Love you have for him and the forgiveness that you offer. Help him Lord to turn his eyes upon you before he destroys himself. Take his hand Lord and give him the guidence and direction he needs to come closer to you.
Lord may both of these family be restored if that is your will and may healing come.
Help them Lord with the pain and lonliness of this problem. Give them hope to go forward with your help.
I pray Lord that this situation will turn around somehow which bring glory and praise to you.
Lord I pray that everyone of these people involved will find their relationship with you restored and strengthened through your mighty grace and mercy.
In Jesus Name
Amen



sparks505 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 6:30:29 PM)

Praying



Channah -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 6:45:37 PM)

Dear Father God

I pray right now for Hannah Elizabeth. I know that she in the palm of your hands. I pray Father fill her heart with love and forgiveness and healing. I pray that she may constantly feel your arms around her. God I know you have not given her more than she can bear. God I know you are with her and you love her. God you will not lift her up to let her down!

I am praying for you Hannah. All will be well!
Much love



sparkleingsnow -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 7:27:41 PM)

Father, in agreement with the above prayers. Your will be done in all this. In Jesus name. Amen



Keabird -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 9:09:57 PM)

Oh my heart goes out to you. I remember your threads from earlier in the year about this situation. I am so sorry to hear he has increased it instead of getting rid of it.

Lord, please wrap Your arms around Hannah and her daughter. Comfort and strengthen as only You can. Please bring these two other people to repentance and conviction of sin, Lord. Have mercy Lord.

Please somehow cause what the enemy meant for evil to be turned into good. I pray for the other woman's husband Lord for him to find You in this, to rest in You.
I pray in Jesus Name
amen



HannahElizabeth -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/23/2007 9:47:45 PM)

Just wanted to let you know that your prayers are effecting a change in me. Today was horrific. I was exhausted, and went to take a nap. I kept waking up thinking everything was normal, then remembering, and then my insides would burn like acid. I laid there for hours, grieving, remembering, regretting.

Finally, I got on my computer. I posted my prayer request. While surfing about, I saw someone's user name in these forums: Nehemiah 8:10. I felt lead to look it up.

10 Nehemiah said, "Go and enjoy choice food and sweet drinks, and send some to those who have nothing prepared. This day is sacred to our Lord. Do not grieve, for the joy of the LORD is your strength."

My stomach has been in such knots, and I've had a hard time eating. I've lost at least 15 lbs over the past month, as I have felt my husband pulling away from me. But as I read that verse, I heard God telling me to get up, take a bath and eat something. I spent some time reading my Women's Devotional Bible, and randomly (though God isn't random) came across a entry about a woman finding who she is again after her marriage dissolved. That is what I determined to do. I had some food, and though it tasted a little bitter, I felt its sustenance.

Right now, I feel relaxed and balanced. I know I won't stay this way forever. But I wanted to let you know that the prayers you lifted this afternoon have hit their mark, God heard you, so please keep them coming.

Hannah



feliciacyt -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 8:46:02 AM)

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Dear Heavenly Father first I ask you for much healing to begin immediatly in both families. Lord I pray for these marriages.
First I lift up this husband that is going through somes changes. I ask you Lord to remind him of his promises and of his family. May he come to realize the pain he is causing in his relationship and the womans family. May he see the destructive path he is choosing for him self and all he is thrown away. Lord I pray your will be done in this family and that the child will be protected from the discourse that is bound to happen. Lord I pray you call out to this man and draw him near to you. I pray that he will turn to you for the things he is seeking and not bring anymore interference into another family. Lord I pray that he will constantly be reminded of the Love you have for him and the forgiveness that you offer. Help him Lord to turn his eyes upon you before he destroys himself. Take his hand Lord and give him the guidence and direction he needs to come closer to you.
Lord may both of these family be restored if that is your will and may healing come.
Help them Lord with the pain and lonliness of this problem. Give them hope to go forward with your help.
I pray Lord that this situation will turn around somehow which bring glory and praise to you.
Lord I pray that everyone of these people involved will find their relationship with you restored and strengthened through your mighty grace and mercy.
In Jesus Name
Amen



Praying in agreement with the above prayer. AMEN!



NoDumbBlonde -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 9:59:38 AM)

Dear Hannah,

My heart truly breaks for you and your family. I will certainly be praying for you all. My only suggestion is keep yourself in His word and just trust that God will work all things out for you regardless of what your husband does. My husband had an affair some years ago and left for her. He eventually married her. I had a 5 year old daughter at the time. God was with me through it all and sustained us during our trials and tribulations. Today, God has brought us a wonderful, godly man who is both husband and father. We are so blessed today. God brought us through the hardships and strengthened us in the process. It's only in hardships that we grow in faith.

Father God, I lift up Hannah and her family to you. You know the circumstances and the hearts of all involved. I ask, in the name of Jesus that you will change the hearts of these wayward souls, bring them to redemption and repentence and allow these marriages to be restored. Lord, most of all we pray your will be done. Father, I pray your peace on Hannah and her daughter. Comfort them and keep them close to you. Meet all their needs and bless them in ways that they need most of all. In Jesus' name, AMEN



kyl -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 11:13:19 AM)

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Father God, I lift up Hannah and her family to you. You know the circumstances and the hearts of all involved. I ask, in the name of Jesus that you will change the hearts of these wayward souls, bring them to redemption and repentence and allow these marriages to be restored. Lord, most of all we pray your will be done. Father, I pray your peace on Hannah and her daughter. Comfort them and keep them close to you. Meet all their needs and bless them in ways that they need most of all. In Jesus' name, AMEN




Praying in agreement

Amen



peaceofGod -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 12:43:26 PM)

Father,

Please heal these families. In Jesus' name I pray. Amen.



Shiloh57 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 7:13:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: kyl

Dear Heavenly Father first I ask you for much healing to begin immediatly in both families. Lord I pray for these marriages.
First I lift up this husband that is going through somes changes. I ask you Lord to remind him of his promises and of his family. May he come to realize the pain he is causing in his relationship and the womans family. May he see the destructive path he is choosing for him self and all he is thrown away. Lord I pray your will be done in this family and that the child will be protected from the discourse that is bound to happen. Lord I pray you call out to this man and draw him near to you. I pray that he will turn to you for the things he is seeking and not bring anymore interference into another family. Lord I pray that he will constantly be reminded of the Love you have for him and the forgiveness that you offer. Help him Lord to turn his eyes upon you before he destroys himself. Take his hand Lord and give him the guidence and direction he needs to come closer to you.
Lord may both of these family be restored if that is your will and may healing come.
Help them Lord with the pain and lonliness of this problem. Give them hope to go forward with your help.
I pray Lord that this situation will turn around somehow which bring glory and praise to you.
Lord I pray that everyone of these people involved will find their relationship with you restored and strengthened through your mighty grace and mercy.
In Jesus Name
Amen

Praying In Agreement Lord, with all prayers.....



gracegrace7 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 8:34:36 PM)

HannahElizabeth, I am so sorry you are going through this! My prayers are with you and your daughter. You will get through this because God is with you and He loves you so, so much!



ricegirl -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/24/2007 8:53:05 PM)

Hanna I am pleased that you have found something in your reading today that made you feel better. First of all you need to love yourself You are a special person one of Gods children and he loves you You are a special mother to a special child.. you have done nothing wrong don't feel that you can't find hope again. Right now you need to lean on God. he is right besides you hurting because you hurt. I can't imagine how you are feeling but know it must be painful. Be there for you little girl. She needs you to be mommy and daddy when her dad is not there for her. Laugh with her play with her and hold her tight. Try not let her feel your hurting,. Be sure and get good food. Find something to keep you busy and ease your mind. (easy for us to say when it is not us that is hurting). I am up in years and I have see many marriages break up and people seem to go on and find happiness again but I know that letting go of 20 good years is hard to do. Take it one day at a time maybe your marriage will work out if you both want it too. Maybe it will be stronger who knows. If not you be strong. God gives us nothing we can't endure. Every experience makes us stronger. I will put your name right my my computer and pray for you everyday. Here is some hugs for you for starters. ((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))) I will also pray for your husband and the woman and her husband that she comes to her senses and tries to save her marriage to and let your husband go back ti his family. Let us know how you are doing.



bricole77 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (9/26/2007 4:45:56 PM)

Hannah, i have been keeping up with your posts. Your situation really cries out to me. I don't know what to say but u will be in my prayers for awhile. Please keep us updated on your situation...

lots of love...



godsway -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/2/2007 12:10:23 AM)

I can relate to what you are going through. The same thing happened to me just about ten years ago. I was 32 years of age. At the prime of my life, so I thought. I never felt better about myself. Always ate healthy and physically fit. My husband always complimented me. Go figure? Little did I know that he had been having this affair with a 17 year old. He was 38 at the time. We, fortunately, did not have any children together. He was very selfish and did not want any children. Anyway, I moved out of the house and she moved right in. He ended up divorcing me. I thought I was going to die. It was so painful for me. Listen...............I'm telling you this for a reason. You will see at the end of my story how good God is. Anyway, if I never married again it would have been OK with me, that's how devasted I was. I could not even laugh anymore. I completely died inside. I met my current husband, we dated for awhile, and I ended up pregnant. I finally moved in with him. Wasn't proud of that, but it was the best I could offer him, since I was never going to marry again. I was so confused, I didn't know if I was coming or going. All I knew is........ that I cried all the time. I was so afraid to love again. I kept crying to the Lord to give me life again. Then I got pregnant with my daughter. Can you imagine being pregnant from a man you don't even love. I didn't even know what love was anymore. When I was five months pregnant with my daughter, I got a call at work from a mutual friend of my ex-husand and I. She went on to tell me that my ex had married that young girl. I ran into the bathroom crying. My co-worker walked in and asked what was the matter? I told her that my ex had remarried. My co-worker was in complete disbelief that I still cared for him. Anyway, I cleaned myself up and went back to my desk. I just sat there. All of a sudden, a warm feeling draped over me and I knew at that moment that those were God's arms holding me in my time of mourning. Then I heard God say................"It is finished, this is your closure. It is time for you to be happy" . Wow, those words were so profound to me. After that, God allowed me to open my heart to love my current husband. It took a little while, but remember............God's timing is perfect. My broken heart was finally healed. We ended up having a huge beautiful wedding. My 3 yr old son gave me away since my father died when I was 7. My daughter was the flower girl (2 years old). The rest is history. My anniversary is Nov. 2 (5 yr anniv.) I don't know what God will do in your life, because remember...........Our thoughts are not "His" thoughts, neither are our ways "His"ways. I do know this..............Whatever His plan is for your life, it will be just absolutely perfect. I pray that he will restore your marriage and that it will be better than it has ever been before. "Forgiveness" is a wonderful thing.

This is my testimony of how I came to know Christ. Out of everything bad, comes good things, and in overflowing abundance. God used my circumstances to bring me to "Himself". This to me........... way overcompensated for my pain and suffering of the loss of my marriage. Afterall, everything was restored fourfold and God never gives us any more than we can handle.



Caseyp57 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/2/2007 12:38:29 AM)

(((Hannah)))) I hope and pray that you are still experiencing God's peace and healing in the midst of this heartache. That is an awesome testimony about the scripture verse in Nehemiah; what Godsway has shared here seems like a confirmation of what you felt God telling you.

Godsway, that was a wonderful testimony too! Thanks for sharing it.

Thank you Lord for what you have done for Godsway and also what you've begun to do for Hannah. May the healing continue for her and bring something beautiful out of the midst of her trouble, for both her and her little girl. In Jesus name amen.



HannahElizabeth -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/3/2007 1:37:10 AM)

I am so touched that you are continuing to pray for my family. Your sweet words are healing.

Here is an update, and a request for more prayer.

On Sunday night we met with the minister who married us. He is also a very wise and dear friend, who has known us for nearly 20 years. We have been trying to figure how best to manage our finances and parent our daughter during our separation, and we wanted him to help us negotiate the areas where we couldn't come up with a solution. He started off by asking us our purpose: to figure out things while we considered reconciling, or to just figure some preliminaries because we're planning to divorce. My husband piped up immediately that we're definitely going to divorce. It felt surreal to hear him say that, and so coldly, but God gave me a peace and acceptance. He charged forward into a discussion about selling our house, and I imagined in my heart that he'd strategized with his girlfriend, and they were probably planning to buy their own place with the equity. That's because she's also pressured her husband to sell their home.

After we figured things out, it was clear that we are going to be in a financial mess, in short order. And, clear that our daughter was going to suffer loss in the future, being raised by a single, most likely low-income, mom. After his initial bravado, my husband was an emotional wreck. I remained calm -- I'd already thought about these issues before, but apparently he had not, in haze of adultery.

Our friend gave us some practical tasks, because divorcing sooner rather than later would be the most financially prudent. He wanted us to get these tasks done by the end of the week. I said I would do mine. My husband, whose tasks had to do with the home sale, said he wasn't capable, and began to tear up. I asked our friend to pray for us, and we cried some more. But he still went out that door, determined to break us up.

My husband comes over every day to visit our daughter. On Monday, he avoided me. Today, he was warm and attentive to things around the house, and kept engaging me in conversation, finally wearing down my guardedness. When he initially left our home, we were in the middle of remodeling, and it was cold from the stress between us. Now that he's moved out, and our house is coming together, he's mentioned several times how comfortable it is, and how his apartment is the place that is lonely and cold. But I know he got it so he can have privacy with his mistress during their workday and on Sundays, so I don't have sympathy. I am asking that you will pray that it will become an unbearable place of sin and disgust, in short order.

I can't trust him any further than I can throw him, and in fact, at one point he was digging around in our records and then went quickly out to the car to put something away. Or, maybe he was just rushing out to answer her call before I heard it. I told him I would NEVER tolerate him contacting her in this home ever again. Who knows -- it was something sneaky.

But he was kinder to me today than he has been in months and months, and that gave me a measure of peace. It was encouraging to see him really want to be here, and to mourn his loss as he left. Please keep praying that God will soften his heart, and bring him to a place of repentance. It is hard to imagine that he would EVER give up his relationship with the other woman, as she is his addiction. But I know that God is capable. Please keep praying. I know her husband loves her, and would take her back in a minute -- and I continue to pray that they will have their marriage restored.

And also please pray for my fragile heart. Today, I was closer than I ever have been before to filing our divorce paperwork -- not out of spite, but to protect my daughter and I financially. But now my heart is softened and I feel vulnerable. Even knowing the deception and manipulation of which he is capable, I know I saw a glimpse of the humble, attentive man I married tonight. Please help me to discern whether to 1) soften, 2) stay tough or 3) give up.



HannahElizabeth -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/3/2007 8:49:42 AM)

After a good night's sleep, I have reflected upon yesterday afternoon. Or, people have been praying that I will have wisdom, as I requested at the bottom of my last post.

I just can't get out of my mind the sound of him digging around downstairs, and leaving the house quickly for a moment. As I came down the staircase right afterwards, he looked at me with a guilty expression and said, "What?" I know that face. He found or did something. And given the fact that his interest is with protecting himself and his mistress' future in the event of a divorce, I feel squeamish.

Because after that was when all the warmth began. I feel bamboozled. I'm scared and my stomach is in knots.

I do believe that he'd rather be in this comfortable house with our daughter, instead of his apartment. But I think he can take or leave me. I need to keep remembering that. Please pray that I will. Over the past few weeks, he's put everything that matters to him at risk to be with this other woman, not me. Please pray that I will accept that, and act in the best interests of my daughter.

Also, please pray that whatever he took out of here, whatever record, whatever property, will not assist him in any way to bring harm to myself or my daughter. Please pray against Satan's machinations, his wiley plotting, and his destructiveness, that has been revealed through my husband's actions in the past. Please let God have the victory.

I really hope that it was just the laundry that he took out of here. It's possible. But I've seen this pattern too many times. He feels caught, wonders what I know, and then he acts warm to snow me. Please, please, please pray that I will have wisdom, and confidence in God's ability to protect.

I'm already resting in Him at the thought. He can protect us.



Caseyp57 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/3/2007 9:16:00 AM)

Please help me to discern whether to 1) soften, 2) stay tough or 3) give up.


Praying for these things and the other requests you've made Hannah. What a tough spot to be in....remember God is with you and will help you. Do take steps you feel you need to to protect yourself and your daughter though.



HannahElizabeth -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/5/2007 12:54:20 AM)

I have been asking my friends specifically to pray for my husband in the area of demonic influence. Those who have tried to speak to him about the horrible mistakes he is making tell me that they are looking in his eyes, but they don't even recognize him, like something has taken over. I saw that on Sunday, when he was so determined about the divorce, and then broke down and said he couldn't take the preliminary steps.

This afternoon he called me, talking all over the place, nervous. He was supposed to visit our daughter, but said he had to stop by his place first to pick up his basketball gear. Oh, and by the way, he'd called an agent to sell our house, he said. My stomach dropped. The first concrete step toward divorce, and he'd told me on Sunday he was unable to take it. Perhaps his "inspiration" was propelling him forward.

Sure enough. He was much later than he probably should have been, and then my stomach dropped again. I remembered all the times he'd served me lies about his lateness, and then he admitted later, on the day of his confession, that he'd actually been making out with this woman in their office building. Perhaps she was giving him his reward for calling the agent.

But you know what, God is good. As soon as I felt the queasiness, I felt relief. What he does with her is not my problem anymore. I decided that I would be my true, authentic self: kind and open, not the hurt, closed woman I often am when he comes over. The only thing that made me sad was my daughter's repeated, "Where's Daddy?"

When he arrived, he was uncomfortable around me, and couldn't wait to take my daughter out of the house. Meanwhile, whenever he was around, I kept looking him in the eyes, communicating warmth and acceptance. I don't know if I want him to be my husband anymore, but I want to be myself. I could sense him responding, and looking for opportunities to engage me.

I had gotten him a tiny cake and a gift from our daughter earlier in the day, as his birthday is tomorrow. He was surprised and clearly overjoyed when I brought it out. He held onto my hand as I gave the cake to him. He is not happy about turning 40, and in fact, I think this birthday is a big reason why he descended into the crisis that broke up our family. I think this birthday is why he was so desperate to meet with the agent TO-MOR-ROW, if I didn't have to work. I think he was seeking the symbolism of starting over, trying to be young again with a younger woman. They egg each other on, getting a boost at each self-destructive act they take.

Instead of that thrill he got his wife, despite everything, showing him unconditional love through my actions, and his daughter giving him the gift of a blanket to keep him warm, away from us. He asked her tenderly, "Do you want me to sleep with this tonight?" It made me sad, thinking of him being all alone. But this was his choice. And I doubt he will be alone tomorrow.

So, please pray for my wayward husband, as he enters his 40th year, under the influence of the evil one. Let it not be the destructive occasion that Satan is preparing for it to be. By some miracle, let it be the beginning of his restoration.

I realized something today. For months he's been crying for freedom. Now he has it -- but has immediately become tied down, in a relationship with a troubled woman, with two kids, and a violent husband who hates him. Yet, I'm free. Free to love. Free to just be. I'm finding me again, my authentic self in Christ. I am free.



Caseyp57 -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/6/2007 12:57:41 PM)

(((Hannah))))

Sorry for all you are going through.

Lord please bring -- continue to bring some good out of all of this mess. GIve Hannah's daughter the comfort of knowing her father loves her and thank you that Hannah is finding her peace in you. Guide and direct her and restore her husband to yourself and draw this woman too and I pray protection from her violent husband. Please help Hannah to continually find her strength in you in all of this and give her your joy and blessings. In Jesus name amen.



hollyisforgiven -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/6/2007 1:14:51 PM)

My Father My God,

My hearts crys as I hear this truly unwelcoming story. God you are awesome and I have to continually tell you that every day as I weep inside for this woman. Lord, you know my situation and I ask that you open the eyes of not only my husband but also the distress of what HannahElizabeth's husband has done to her. Even though our circustances want to tell us different, there is no greater God than you.

In Jesus name,

Amen



feliciacyt -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/7/2007 5:14:56 AM)

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My Father My God,

My hearts crys as I hear this truly unwelcoming story. God you are awesome and I have to continually tell you that every day as I weep inside for this woman. Lord, you know my situation and I ask that you open the eyes of not only my husband but also the distress of what HannahElizabeth's husband has done to her. Even though our circustances want to tell us different, there is no greater God than you.

In Jesus name,

Amen







In agreement with the above prayers. AMEN!



HannahElizabeth -> RE: Prayers for Unfaithful Husband (10/22/2007 9:54:01 AM)

decided to edit this



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