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GroupW -> RE: All I can say is.. I'm in need of prayer. (2/15/2008 4:24:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BethAnnaM.

My things are packed, I just took a hot bath, I'm going to get a good night's sleep, apply for a second job tomorrow, and be out of the house Sunday. I had a friend in highschool, a very sweet friend. She left for the Navy right after we all graduated and I had not talked to her since (4 years ago)- she got in touch with me today-- we had coffee-- she is living with her parents right now in a home they just built, and in about a month or two when she gets on her feet, she is moving out. She talked to her parents, and they have decided to take me in!!!!! What an answer to prayer!!!! As soon as we both are ready, we are finding a place together.. which my cousin- hers is going to come available March 27th because she just bought a place. Perfect. Thank you for all your prayers. I'm not leaning towards divorce right now, but a long separation until he GETS help from the church- until the pastor lets him 'date' me later on. If he refuses, yes... it's done. There is one minor issue........................................................ I'm feeling very.. pregnant right now. again. I have this gut feeling and I am literally just exhausted. After being pregnant and losing it, I have felt such an emptiness and loss-- but I just may be again! It's scary, but I know everything would be okay and I WILL make it through with or without him! I think I will take a blood test tomorrow to find out for sure. Who knows, maybe my body is just going through things. Thanks for all your prayers in this- we'll see where all this takes me. Please keep praying that I can find the strength. I'm okay one minute, then the next I'm an emotional wreck.


You're delaying, my dear. If I could, I'd personally come pick you up and deliver you to a shelter or a friend. If you love your husband, I think the best thing you can do for him is to leave. If you love yourself and your future child, the best thing you can do is leave.

This is not a thing to take care of on Sunday, tomorrow, next week or whenever. This is something to take care of NOW. Now, as in right now. As in "as fast as you can put a bag together." If you wait an hour, you've waited an hour too long.

Am I being clear? ;)



GroupW -> RE: All I can say is.. I'm in need of prayer. (2/15/2008 4:33:09 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BethAnnaM.I'm so against divorce!


You're delaying, my dear.

I know you're against it, as am I (cases like yours though are a HUGE exception). Right at the moment though, let's not think about the bid D-word. Right at the moment, let's just deal with one thing at a time. Right now, it's important to get some immediate physical distance between you and your husband AND MAINTAIN IT. Your husband has a lot of work to do to get healthy. He'll need to work through it on his own. There's not much you can do other than get in the way. So let's make a deal that for at least the next year, you're going to live apart.

So let's figure out the divorce thing later. That may come next year or 5 years from now or maybe never (if husband can get his head together). We can talk about a legal separation, so you're not on the hook for any of his future debts, but again that's not something that has to be done today.

Today, we just need to leave. Tomorrow, we can figure out the rest.



mbgb -> RE: All I can say is.. I'm in need of prayer. (2/18/2008 10:07:44 PM)

I agree with bterpstra, no one said you have to divorce...but you are not loving him by staying. You are enabling him to keep sinning...not saying it's all your fault...it's definitely his and he's sinning and being plain mean to you.

Loving him is setting standards and boundaries for yourself, and showing him he can't disrespect you. If he doesn't see it with you in the house, he'll never know any true love (the way God wants us to love) as long as you keep letting him abuse you. God will guide you, but I can tell you right now God doesn't want you to stay in that house in that situation. I am praying about it and He is even telling me what to say on this post. Please leave.

I can give you plenty of information on how to stay strong once you're out. I'm standing for my marriage right now. It was not easy leaving, but once you're out...it's much easier to protect yourself. And then all he can do is TALK he can't hit you anymore...ever again if you don't want him to. Please leave...we love you as a sister in Christ. This is not how God wants you to live. Please PM me and I will find someway to get someone to come get you. There are plenty of Women's shelters around. You will be fine. You are not alone, and we will be with you the entire time...please do not let the devil convince you that You have to stay in that house, he is using this to scare you into staying. Please leave, we'll be here for you!



Interceder -> RE: All I can say is.. I'm in need of prayer. (4/19/2008 3:33:56 PM)

Hi everyone, the last post i see from Bethanna is Feb. 9. Does anyone know how this situation is now?



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