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gracefulgirl -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (5/26/2008 5:12:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: gaylel1

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ORIGINAL: jaimestarcross

Wow, the conversations still continue!

I'm curious... would any of the singles who are still looking for someone... would you date a Christian of the opposite race that isn't attractive and a little overweight but a mature Christian that loves the Lord?

I rather date someone who has a heart for god and serve him and has charater than someone who can be a cutie and have no heart for Jesus. Everyone says that looks which attract people and you may have those "hot looks," but guess what? Looks is not the total pacakge because God's word says that the looks will fade overtime.

I don't care if people attack me, that is the truth.




I so totally agree. I have very high standards, but not in terms of looks. I have really been attracted to some people that would def. have been ruled out by others. I am not so much one on looks, but on godly character. So what if I sound cliche? So what if I sound trite? That's the honest to goodness truth right there. Some of the people I have met and conversed with that were the hottest looking people in the crowd had the personality of a piece of cardboard. No thanks! I couldn't stand to be in the same room with them for five minutes, let alone consider marrying them and spending my whole life with a person who looks good but has zero personality. Can you say BORING...... I know there are single men out there, really godly single men looking for someone like me. But, I made a vow before God asking that he keep me hidden from those who would destroy my heart and cause me to not be who I am to be in Him. So, needless to say, I have not dated for a while now. There will be a day when he will unveil the essence of who I am as a child in him to the perfect man for me. I just need to live life and be happy as I am. Which I can say for the most part, I am doing. I don't need to be in a relationship romantically with a man to be fulfilled. I have plenty of friends and get along well with others and keep pretty busy. I like my life. Right now, I am single, but I like it that way. [:)]



GraceBro -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (5/26/2008 6:56:24 PM)

I know I am late to this discussion, but will give my opinion. I am a single, Christian man, but there inlies the problem.

What is meant by Christian?

I was raised a Catholic. I am now born again. Both categories, for lack of a better word, will classify themselves as Christian. Throw in all the Baptists, Lutherans, Presbyterians, etc, who all call themselves Christian, but have varying doctrinal differences, and you have a tough time finding somebody of likemindedness you can be comfortable attempting a relationship with. All will say they believe in the death, burial and resurrection of Christ, but in the every day living out of the faith there are a lot of obstacles that can make a harminious relationship difficult, if not, impossible.

Being single is probably the most difficult part of being a christian man for me. Especially, one who knows what it is like to be with a woman, if you know what I mean. Trying to find a like-minded lady is hard enough as it is. Then to throw in trying to stay pure while dating along with sorthing through any differences in the faith that may arise and sometimes I see why Paul said those who marry "will face many troubles in this life (1 Corinthians 7:28)."

Thanks for endulging me for a moment.

Grace and Peace



HellHathNoFuryAtAll -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (5/29/2008 2:52:14 PM)

(Points to self) Right Here!!!



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (5/29/2008 3:03:29 PM)

I find it almost humourous that the men say yes looks matter and then women say no they don't.

I read an article recently (don't have the link so don't ask for it, please) where it said beautiful women are more than likely to marry men less attractive to them. Why? Because women are looking for security, strength...men tend to follow their eyes.

Now, to the gentleman who said he wasn't going to marry an unattractive woman...keep in mind that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Who you find attractive isn't always the same that other men find. Also, physical looks 'change' as you get to know a person. When I first met my ex husband I think he was ugly as sin, but then I got to know him and he became better looking. At least in my eyes.

As far as where all the single Christian men are? Look around ladies...they're everywhere. All you have to do is be receptive. Don't discount a man just because he's not cute enough, or rich enough, or has the job you want him to have. You never know what ace he's holding. [;)]



Ninjaearth -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (5/30/2008 9:06:46 PM)

Thanks for that wonderful encouragement to our sisters-in-Christ. As a SCM (single Christian man) I am encouraged to know that you think this way and helps our sisters really focus on the important aspect of looking for a Christian man. Indeed, each man has his own criteria on what he finds good-looking as far a woman. While I do have my "attractives" I expect, above all, her relationship with God to be the one that's most beautiful; a woman who has a strong and mature satisfying relationship with God and it pours in her life, her speech, and her behavior just as much as it does on her face makes her radiant and even more beautiful just like the princess she is. As long as she has that, looks only get better because God created her to be "very good".



ebony101 -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (6/1/2008 8:10:51 AM)

I am late to this discussion but I can certainly provide one answer as to where the SCM (Single Christian Men) are not. They aren't at my church.

My church is filled with married women & their husbands, divorced & widowed women, elderly en, elderly widowers, elderly single men, single unmarried) women and young men (not within my age bracket). So it does no good saying I'm not looking or not actively doing my part. There are NO single men within my age bracket at my church.

I talk and chat with the men at my church but they are not eligible. If someone can tell me where I can hang out to meet eligble SCM I would try my best to accommodate their advice.



SemperReformanda -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (6/4/2008 2:26:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Tinkerbell_

I find it almost humourous that the men say yes looks matter and then women say no they don't.

I read an article recently (don't have the link so don't ask for it, please) where it said beautiful women are more than likely to marry men less attractive to them. Why? Because women are looking for security, strength...men tend to follow their eyes.

Now, to the gentleman who said he wasn't going to marry an unattractive woman...keep in mind that beauty truly is in the eye of the beholder. Who you find attractive isn't always the same that other men find. Also, physical looks 'change' as you get to know a person. When I first met my ex husband I think he was ugly as sin, but then I got to know him and he became better looking. At least in my eyes.

As far as where all the single Christian men are? Look around ladies...they're everywhere. All you have to do is be receptive. Don't discount a man just because he's not cute enough, or rich enough, or has the job you want him to have. You never know what ace he's holding. [;)]


Yeah, i forgot to put that in there. I agree. What i find attractive is not the same for all other men. That is what i meant. I need to be attracted to her, but it doesnt mean that she is attractive by the worlds standards...I have tried the Eharmony stuff, it is not very useful to me. It justs gets frustrating to me seeing that all of my best friends are married and i dont have many people to hang out with anymore because they all do the "married" thing (hang with other couples)



jaimestarcross -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (6/5/2008 11:36:29 PM)

Some of you may recall I met my man/hubby online at Christiancafe.com in 2002 ---
they had this compatibility meter and it lined up the men most compatible for me (just so you know the man I eventually met and married wasn't even in the top 50 per cent!) According to their calculations we weren't even compatible!



hispanicnyc -> RE: Where are the Christian men? (6/6/2008 12:46:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Robin1b

WOW! I guess I'm not an expert since I'm still single. I wonder the same thing. Not only where are the Christian guys but where are the Saved, sanctified men of God who are excited about the Lord and are looking for a woman who is excited about the Lord as well. A woman who is not only "pretty" but a woman who is smart and God centered.

I own my own business offering cooking lessons and meal planning and once in a while I will cater for friends. One of my friend's husband suggested that I cook for their men's night. He said that I would surely find a husband once they tasted my cooking. I was so offended. I believe I have so much more to offer than just cooking.

All that said - I wait patiently for the Lord. He knows my needs and He will provide in His time. I just have to be patient and open to the move of His Spirit. If not, I may end up even worse off - in a bad marriage!

Stay encouraged.

Robin[sm=chef.gif]


You do have so much more to offer than cooking...AMEN! Just hold tight He will work in strange ways to put the right man for you right in your path. Usually our problem is not having enough faith in HIM so he can do His work.

Single Christian Man [:D]



nuclear_sidewalk -> RE: Where are the Christian men? (6/8/2008 1:49:41 PM)

That's funny, I was just about to ask where all the single Christian women were...

All of the girls my age (mid-20s) seem to be already married, not what I'm attracted to, or caught up in the party lifestyle. The Singles group I go to once a month at church is mostly older people, i.e., 40+. Not exactly what a 25yr old is looking for.

So I've grown accustomed to tongue-in-cheekly remarking that women are like Parking Spaces these days... [sm=popsigh.gif]



sign4Him316 -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (6/16/2008 10:54:31 PM)

I would say stay active in the church... but do not become tooo active that you neglect to say hello to the girl!



abrocks22 -> RE: Where are the Single Christian men? (6/17/2008 3:34:18 PM)

i guess both sexes are everywhere you are...just that there are few who catch our attention



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