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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/13/2008 5:39:51 PM
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moon_mouse
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If anyone has tips on working the graveyard shift, working with T/W off, or working with no lunch breaks I would love to hear them.[/color]
It's been quite some time since I worked graveyard. I did the midnight-8AM master control shift at a cable network for a while right after college. I also didn't have a formal lunch break. I had to eat at the control panel. I found that strategic grazing was good for me, rather than a meal. Dried fruit, nuts, whole wheat crackers, and string cheese were a big part of my diet. I wish I had worked out more. Getting my blood going right after I woke up would have been helpful. And, I had to moderate my caffeine intake. It can become a vicious cycle if I don't watch out, even now.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/13/2008 8:37:16 PM
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not_the_first
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Ok, I'm going to do it. I'm going to get up early tomorrow and work out before I go to work. My husband has a fitness center at his work and he's been going in at around 6:00. It's quite comical just getting to the fitness center. My husband works in a building with very high security. I have to go in with him, get a guest pass, have a security door unlocked by the guard, go through this gate that looks like it's for a prison (like a revolving door, but it has thick steel bars instead of glass) and wear safety goggles to walk through the plant until I get to the fitness center in the back. Sounds like fun first thing in the morning, huh? We'll see if I actually go through with it tomorrow!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/13/2008 9:18:26 PM
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I will be waiting to see how that goes for you Not the first. If I work out I prefer to just do it in my basement or outside on a bicycle if the weather permits. I will have time after work in the Summer for some biking but for now I must settle for workout DVD's in the basement. I just don't like getting up early to do it! Good for you!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/13/2008 9:52:05 PM
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Thanks moon-mouse and peculiar-lady. It seems everyone I work with snacks all shift, I just have a problem remembering to do that. lol I was on graveyards for a few weeks last time and didn't keep the same schedule on my off days so well. Ended up sicker than a dog... yuck. I'll definitely have to do better at that this time.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/13/2008 10:45:51 PM
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I am all ready for the week. We got our shopping done today, laundry is done, I know what I am wearing tomorrow, the car has gas for the week, my lunch is packed and the house is sort of clean and picked up. I might just get up early and exercise too tomorrow morning!
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 8:10:47 AM
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I won't be participating in this thread
Then don't. There are many many threads here that I think will strike your fancy. You can ignore threads that bug you.
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I think we should all give each other a bit of a break.
Exactly. And that includes refraining from bashing working moms for letting daycare "raise" their child. I am smelling a double standard here.
I think Sideways said it earlier but I wanted to say it again. Crosswalk if very slanted toward SAHM, natural childbirth homeschoolers. This in one thread. If you think it is bothersome just stay away, ok?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 9:06:41 AM
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The problem comes when several women who are working for pay are "natural childbirth homeschoolers" They want to come here for support but this thread isn't really open to all working women.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 9:22:00 AM
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The problem comes when several women who are working for pay are "natural childbirth homeschoolers" They want to come here for support but this thread isn't really open to all working women.
Maybe this thread is not for them. But, there are numerous threads on Crosswalk that are supportive of these women. Does everything have to be about them???
No, but if your going to title it for "working women/mothers" then it should include those that homeschool, those that desire to be at home but still have to work, etc...
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 9:22:02 AM
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No it doesn't but then maybe the audience of this thread needs to be redefined. Is this thread only for working mothers who don't believe in natural childbirth and use public schools?
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 9:29:56 AM
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LaurainAL
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The problem comes when several women who are working for pay are "natural childbirth homeschoolers" They want to come here for support but this thread isn't really open to all working women.
Maybe this thread is not for them. But, there are numerous threads on Crosswalk that are supportive of these women. Does everything have to be about them???
No, but if your going to title it for "working women/mothers" then it should include those that homeschool, those that desire to be at home but still have to work, etc...
Maybe there should be a thread for SAHM and those who wish they could be SAHMs. I think that's the crux of it all. It is the opinion of many SAHMs that women should WANT to stay home, but some can't. Those who can't but want to are ok. Those that want to work are not ok.
I have no issue with natural childbirth or homeschooling. I don't know why this thread took that direction because it has nothing to do with whether a woman works outside of the home or not.
I am not a mod, but I do have a suggestion. Can we just stay away from those topics and just talk about our careers and families, etc....
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 10:19:03 AM
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 When I started this thread I thought I carefully worded the OP, TRYING not to be offensive to anyone. I put the "(outside the home)" because I didnt want to imply that SAHM/W didnt "work." I made sure to use "moms/wives" and not just one of the other because its not just for mom's and its not just for wives.
For the record I am a homeschooling support (undecided on what I'll do with my kids), I"m a homeschooling graduate actually. Also for the record I am very supportive of natural childbirth, at this point thats in my plan.
I started this thread because many many of the other threads seem to be targeted mainly at SAHM/W. And true, there are more of those out there. I love Sarah's Daily Life thread, however, I feel out of place there sometimes because the 9-5 portion of my day is at the office. Nothing wrong with the thread, I just felt like the women who work should have a place to talk about stuff like "how you get your hosework done while working outside the home" "dealing with your daycare" "dealing with co-workers" and topics like that that really dont apply in a thread that is mainly SAHM/W. Not that there is anything wrong with any of that. Not that SAHM/W can't post here, I'd love it if they did, thats why it is a "SUPPORT" thread.
I'm sorry if the thread got off to a rocky start, sorry if some folks got offended, but hey, we are on page 8, now, lets all move on. Its a new day, a new week. Please please dont make this thread a bash anyone thread. No bashing allowed! 
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 10:25:17 AM
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moon_mouse
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I am not a mod, but I do have a suggestion. Can we just stay away from those topics and just talk about our careers and families, etc....
Well, see, here's the problem with that...Part of the challenge I face as a working woman is living in a subculture (practicing protestant evangelical Christianity) that often upholds the SAHM as the ideal of womanhood, and living in an area where the Desperate Housewives, SUV, "soccer mom" culture is very, very strong. In the area where I live SAH is not just a lifestyle choice made for the best interests of the family. It is sometimes worn as a badge of privilege. Sad, but true. Being a working woman, particularly one without kids, one of the areas I need support for is dealing with those elements of SAH culture that choose to put me down. If I can't talk about my interactions with SAHM's, I can't get the support I need.
Rather than making a proliferation of threads for every little set of sensitivities, perhaps we can set some ground rules for addressing these issues. I would suggest the following:
Speak from your own personal experience. Recognize that your own experience is anecdotal. Just because you have experienced things one way doesn't mean that's the way it is universally, and just because you haven't experienced it doesn't mean it doesn't exist.
Refrain from name-calling. Describe specific behaviors or incidents.
If you aren't interested in a certain line of discussion, leave it be. Start your own line of discussion for you particular challenges.
Does that sound reasonable? I'm particularly interested if those guidelines would fall into Erin's intentions for the thread.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 10:47:53 AM
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I live in suburbia Atlanta. It's the Bible belt, but still a major city. We're about 50/50 here. But outside of the city, there are plenty of places where you would have to provide written proof that your children would starve to death if you weren't working.
I'd say, here it's acceptable to stay home if your children are young, but the road goes uphill if you stay home with older children.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 11:07:42 AM
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moon_mouse
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I have a question about the night shift, for those of you who work it. Do you have a harder time controlling your weight because of it?
YES! The early morning (4AM-noon) shift that I worked for a broadcast station was worse for me personally than the overnight, but I still had a hard time on the overnight with my weight. We're programmed for a diurnal (daylight) cycle, and it's tough enough to reverse that, even without living in a diurnal society. I'd recommend something along the lines of the Weight Watchers points plan, where you don't necessarily have to eat 3 meals a day, but you still have a cap on the total of what you eat. Snacking is more efficient for night shift workers, but if you don't measure out your snack portion, it is very easy to lose track of what you've eaten. It takes some planning and some time to learn, but eventually it becomes more automatic.
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RE: Working (outside the home) Wives/Moms Support Thread - 1/14/2008 11:23:02 AM
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Mrs.Wifey
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Actually, as far as formula feeding goes I haven't really felt judged at all for that on CW...
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