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RE: ...the wife - 3/12/2008 3:24:52 PM
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coach_bob1
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I would never, EVER, call my wife "the wife." It is not worth the bills I would have to pay as a result of removing her foot from my hindquarters.
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RE: ...the wife - 3/13/2008 6:38:23 AM
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car2ner
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I guess, the wife, is better than this: "sweetheart, love, wonderful, counselor, all mighty....." eeek! To which I reply, "STOP Right There!"
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RE: ...the wife - 3/13/2008 4:13:33 PM
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ORIGINAL: ajlewis
~ Ladies ~
First of all, happy valentines!
next, how do you feel when a guy refers to his spouse as "...the wife"? As a (very) longtime single I've always considered it to be slightly disrespectful; like "...the car" or "...the house"
I see it as being disrespectful just the way you explained the way you see it. When people ask my husband "how is the wife doing" he lets them know that my name is Nicole and not "the wife". It bothers him when men say that.
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RE: ...the wife - 3/14/2008 6:21:52 AM
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car2ner
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What I find interesting is that, so simple a statement brings out such a variety of emotions, depending on the person. And they are strong emotions, too. I think that is half the reason we get on each other's nerves. One says a statement that would make them proud and the other gives them the hairy eyeball for even thinking such a thing.
BTW, my husband has taken to not even saying The...it is just WIFE. Of course I fire back, Yes Sir...and it is all in jest. Heaven help anyone who over hears our conversations sometimes, without understanding the underlying humor going on.
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RE: ...the wife - 3/18/2008 2:58:31 PM
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My husband occasionally refers to me as "The Social Director" or his "better half". I don't think I've ever heard him call me "The Wife", but it really wouldn't bother me one bit.
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RE: ...the wife - 3/18/2008 3:15:16 PM
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coach_bob1
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I have been known to call my wife "my dayplanner".
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RE: ...the wife - 3/21/2008 1:55:30 AM
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ebony101
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I don't think that it's derogatory. It all depends on;
a) the tone of voice;
b) the topic of conversation &
c) the relationship you have with the individuals to whom you're speaking.
Everything is relative.
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RE: ...the wife - 3/27/2008 11:30:52 PM
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I haven't read all the replies, but here are my two cents - I HATE it!!!
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RE: ...the wife - 3/28/2008 4:02:44 PM
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rgod
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I don't like it. It reminds me of a guy I knew who was cheating on his wife and would only refer to her as "SHE" and "HER" It burned me up. (Eventually their marriage was able to be reconciled, but it took a long time.) Now "my wife" is nice :) But this is just my personal opinion. Other's might feel differently.
< Message edited by rgod -- 3/28/2008 4:08:44 PM >
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RE: ...the wife - 4/1/2008 8:07:56 PM
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zarazara
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ORIGINAL: Wabi-Sabi
Words aren't disrespectful, the intention is.
You could even take it to mean a compliment. She's THE wife. Epitome. One and only. Not a, not mine as opposed to yours, but THE wife.
/shrugs
I've never thought about it before this thread. Obviously, with a certain intonation and/or physical gesture, it could be disrespectful. Eye rolling, "It's the wife calling." Grimacing, whatever. Or it could be exclaimed with pleasure. "It's the wife calling!"
The phrase on it's own isn't inherently insulting, to me.
Yes. you're right. It's probably a personal thing. I know I wouldn't want to be referred to as 'the wife'. It sounds too impersonal like the couch, the radio, the kitchen. But then again, my sister's husband calls her 'bird' and 'sweet' and she loves it. I wouldnt want anyone calling me 'bird'. Hello, do I have wings? But it's the state of the relationship that determines how people react to things. My sis and husband are obviously happy together and happy enough to give each other insane pet names.
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RE: ...the wife - 4/6/2008 8:05:11 PM
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the wife? I don't care for it personally, but I don't know that is bad or good to say. It depends on how it is said and whether the actual wife of the person saying it likes it or not.
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RE: ...the wife - 4/6/2008 8:17:04 PM
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OLEEguacamole
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"the president", "the king", "the queen", "the wife". sounds dignified and respectful enough for me, although it would be better if a military band broke out in "hail to the wife" whenever "the wife" was uttered.
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RE: ...the wife - 4/7/2008 9:04:42 AM
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I think that would bother be... no, I know that would bother me!!
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