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Elena1030 -> RE: The Meet Market (2/25/2008 3:46:03 PM)
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One thing I paid close attention to was the answer to "What was the last book you read?"
If the answer was "I don't read much, except for the Bible," I closed the match.
If the answer was "I don't like to read," I closed the match.
If there was a book title but no comments on the book, I wasn't as interested...but at least he put something other than the Bible.
That's been a pet peeve of mine for a long time among Christianity oriented meet-people type sites.
Yes, reading our Bibles is important, but it's like going to a church's Web site and seeing that their nursery's goal is "to provide a caring and nurturing environment for children from birth to X years." Okay, but all I know from that is the age range. The rest is not informative, because every church nursery should be that way.
The same with the Bible. It's a magnificent book, but another answer will tell me something about the person. The Bible as an answer doesn't tell me anything, because I don't know if the person is just saying that as the default answer so they'll look spiritual, or if they read voraciously but really like the stories in the Bible better than the stories in the novels on their bookshelf.
The same for meeting one historical figure. Yes, Jesus is a nice-sounding answer, but it's meaningless in the context of a group of Christians, both for its cliche level and for the fact that if you're a Christian, you've already met Jesus, at least in a sense.
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Sorry for the rant. Anyway, yeah. Good advice. One of my profs said that under interests on a resume/application, you shouldn't put skiing, boating, or the like, but rather things that are unique about you, for example, I should mention there that I've taught English in Poland, that I've been to Costa Rica, and that I've written novels.
Incidentally, I love to read. I don't have time to these days, but I listen to recorded books on my commute to school (I'm in Jane Eyre right now). [:)]
Being a Christian is much more than attending "church" or "in name only." And this is what people need to realize.
When you are looking for a mate, you are looking for someone is in the faith, who is living it out and is involved in a local church body. I believe this is important. You have to watch his/her's life and if this person is living a life of a servant.
People should be looking first and foremost for that charataristic. I'm not saying that everyone is perfect, and I realize that everyone is on a different growth level in their christian walk, but we should be looking for people who are going to be potential leaders in our home, who you can pray with, rasing children up to the lord (if God's wills it) and people who are willing to lay down their life for their mates.
All the other stuff should fall into place as well.
This (the part in bold) is probably THE most important thing to do.... given that one is evaluating a fellow Christian..... wherever you see the person: observe patterns of speech and actions; those will reflect what is going on in a person: the values, attitudes, beliefs, goals, and vision.
You should be able to detect the heart of a servant.... perhaps not a perfect servant... but one who is growing in that direction.
A dear friend of mine is evidencing this. He DOES more than he talks about it. He's going to make a wonderful husband and father some day.
What might be harder to detect is how strong a Christian a new acquaintance is. I've asked to be introduced to Christian single men that a married couple (friends of mine) knows through the husband's work. I now virtually nothing about these men. I figure an introduction cannot hurt. It's not a marriage proposal!
But sure as the 'morrow isn't promised to us, I am keeping my radar up to spot both the good things and the not-so-good about these men. I will be cunning as a serpent and innocent as a lamb in this process!!!
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