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Women do you find this weird - 3/6/2008 12:34:46 AM
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johnnie2g
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If a guy you didn't even know came up out of the blue and started talking to you or hitting on you? For example places school, mall, work and church
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/6/2008 9:58:34 AM
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Depends on the guy and his approach.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/6/2008 11:27:28 AM
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If I was single and guy came up to me and started talking to me would be fine...even compliments are okay but for some guy to come up and just start hitting on me...would make me want to walk away in most cases.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/6/2008 1:26:38 PM
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If they just come up and start hitting on me, it's a total turnoff. But if they're just talking, I'll probably be interested in what they have to say.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/6/2008 4:42:43 PM
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It's not weird, it just happens. It may not be welcome, but...
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/6/2008 4:59:55 PM
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It all depends on the situation. If we were in line for a baseball game or a concert and he just decided to chat, that is fine. Or at church, no problem. Or if we were looking at the same thing at the mall.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/7/2008 10:07:13 AM
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I just wanted to know because people keep telling me that men need to take the lead and ask women out but how can this be if it creeps a women out?
well alot of women usually dont feel that they should ask men out that men should ask them out..not all women feel that way though... but get to know her, even talk to her on phone for awhile before you ask her on a date.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/7/2008 3:28:13 PM
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I would creep me out if he just started hitting on me. Just take the approach and make small talk. If she doesnt seem warm and friendly back-move on my friend!
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/7/2008 6:42:22 PM
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If a guy you didn't even know came up out of the blue and started talking to you or hitting on you? For example places school, mall, work and church
I dont find weird people talk, as small talking goes for a start, when they dont know others..people do it millions of time a day all over the place. Its just natural as how you are going to meet someone you dont know yet ? Some do it more naturaly and graceful then others and that is that. Plus, the way burocracy goes in my countries people spend long time in line...waiting to be the next and then go their own ways and etc While in the line chat with your line neighboor as we/you all wait..? LOL 
About hitting situation some do it with grace and real curiosity as does not come around as "hitting", because the hitting ways to me can be cheap, tasteless and ewwww...but many women can reckon the difference between a timid guy going beyond their confort zone and trying to get her attention - and a player, profissional, womanizer guy who enjoys to hit woman as a sport or something else and etc.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/7/2008 8:36:47 PM
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ORIGINAL: johnnie2g
If a guy you didn't even know came up out of the blue and started talking to you or hitting on you? For example places school, mall, work and church quote:
ORIGINAL: johnnie2g
I just wanted to know because people keep telling me that men need to take the lead and ask women out but how can this be if it creeps a women out?  I may not be the best person to answer this because my views on dating are usually opposite from the norm.
However, I'm still gonna answer.
Sincere unconditional compliments are nice and can actually boost my day.
It also depends on what the compliment it and how it's delivered.
Making small talk is ok, but I don't stand in lines for the potential of meeting someone to date.
It's definitely a turnoff to be hit on by a total stranger, or to be asked out, or to be probed for personal contact information.
Last week, the manager of a restaurant I was eating at, came over and sat down at my booth and started talking all about himself and occasionally asked me some very personal questions. I doubt I will go back to that restaurant again, because I don't want to take the chance of running into him. Pity too; I like their food, but his behavior gave me the creeps.
As far as asking women out, do you belong to any organizations that are opened to women also? Perhaps as you get to know some of them, you might feel more comfortable asking one of them out.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/7/2008 11:18:56 PM
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Well, that's where I differ vastly from other people in regards to dating.
I don't date to get to know someone; I date because I have gotten to know them.
Case in point; I met my late husband at a coffee shop. We had many wonderful conversations in that coffee shop. 5 months later, we went on our first date together.
Do you have a hang-out place? Do you go to church? What about some of your classes? Any of these places have any women that you could get to know?
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/8/2008 8:13:47 AM
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Just enjoy some small talk. Some gals are so clueless that it takes another gal to tell her, "did you notice that he was hitting on you?" Just some nice natural banter will accomplish that.
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RE:(2) Women do you find this weird - 3/13/2008 10:33:15 AM
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In following this thread, I personally have been turned off when someone that is a total stranger starts off with a very personal question or asking you out. If someone is just making small talk and even uses humor, it is usually taken well. I personally think that asking someone out is not the first step to use as an ice-breaker if you are approaching a total stranger. In this society, unfortunately, it is not very safe to go out one on one with a total stranger even in a church setting because not everyone who goes to church has the right motive. Just my two cents:)
I am all for men leading, but you can do it in a way where you don't scare women off, at least some women.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/15/2008 10:29:57 PM
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SaraChristine
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agreed. it depends on the guy and his approach, and of course if i am single or not.
One thing that REALLY irks me is when guys SEE that I'm with my boyfriend [we'll be holding hands or standing too close to be just friends, you know?] and the other guy still hits on me. >.< grrr
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/16/2008 8:50:50 PM
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GeorgiaNerd
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friendly talking- not weird
hitting on me- weird, makes me run away as fast as I can
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/17/2008 10:20:20 AM
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Just talking - School, church, work, no. Mall, yes.
Hitting - yes, definitely weird, no matter where it is.
I think a lot of relationships happen by a man and woman/boy and girl becoming friends, and then it kind of goes from there.
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RE: Women do you find this weird - 3/21/2008 3:43:33 AM
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saycheeeeeeese
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i've given my number out to strangers who had courage to come up and ask for my number. i take it as a compliment.
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RE:(2) Women do you find this weird - 3/24/2008 2:31:31 PM
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Osano
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I don't think anyone on this thread is saying that there is one way to start a relationship. I think for me personally "asking someone out" is a little soon. Again, as in your case you seem to be ok with it. I personally think a secondary issue with single women is safety. Unfornately, we live in a fallen world where we do have to be careful. The bible even tells us to use wisdom and discernment. King David said that he will only allow those that are trustworth, faithfull etc... to be his closes friends (paraphrasing because I don't remember the verse:)
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RE: RE:(2) Women do you find this weird - 3/24/2008 4:49:05 PM
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It's hard to say...it depends on the guy who's talking to me, what he says, and how he says it. I usually love meeting new people and the randomness that comes with an unfamiliar face striking up some good conversation with me. I've probably met more interesting people just sitting at the bus station than anywhere else.
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The hardest thing is to get her attention in the class so the whole process can begin. 
then take a hint and move on.
