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For me, one of the reasons is that it seems that the vast majority of threads here either start off being about dating, flirting, finding a spouse - or they eventually find their way to those topics.

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I like people. Men, women, young, old, married, single, black, white, red, yellow, purple. That's my focus; people in general.

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However, there are also people here who I consider my friends who I don't see anywhere else on the forums.

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ORIGINAL: John_O

The other forums I've been in here don't have nearly the sense of community that this one does. Of course I've not explored too much as this one suited my needs when I found it. Why go elsewhere when you have what you want at home.

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In fairness, it's a requirement that ALL threads here be about being single. It's VERY limiting and there was quite a bit more variety before, inviting a lot of fun interaction that wasn't solely about dating, etc. but, hey, them's the rules and we gotta play by 'em.

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I could have posted it myself....... well except the parts about being white and at the end of the boomer generation. LOL [8D][8D]

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

Thank you all for your kind replies.

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ORIGINAL: John_O

The other forums I've been in here don't have nearly the sense of community that this one does. Of course I've not explored too much as this one suited my needs when I found it. Why go elsewhere when you have what you want at home.

I have found the PFY threads to be hugely "community-minded" towards it's posters (and when CS died, that was shown to me on a level that was unimaginable. I know that people from other folders were involved in that, but it originated over in Personally For You . . . well actually before that, when it was called General Topics).

Also last year, I found the Southern Gospel folder (and also discovered Southern Gospel music, at the same time). They don't even care if you like Southern Gospel music; they love everybody.

John, I wasn't so much arguing with your statement; rather, I was pointing out 2 folders that are, indeed, quite welcoming.

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

In fairness, it's a requirement that ALL threads here be about being single. It's VERY limiting and there was quite a bit more variety before, inviting a lot of fun interaction that wasn't solely about dating, etc. but, hey, them's the rules and we gotta play by 'em.

Ah, yes. Lioness, I, too, remember those wonderful days. [:D] I'm glad there are other fossils posters around these here parts that remember it as well.

. . . But when did being single equate with the assumption that one is somehow looking (or waiting) for a spouse; that a single's goal is, indeed, to get married (again)?

For example, the thread, "Must Christians Actively Seek a Partner?" has veered from the OP (which posed a very good question for discussion) into now educating women on how to show interest in a man.


. . . And why is it ok for someone who is searching to express their feelings / opinions, but it's not ok for someone who isn't marriage-minded to do the same? I've already encountered this attitude on a personal level; in fact, it happened the very day I ventured back into this folder.

I certainly don't take it as a personal affront that someone is wanting to get married; why should my differing viewpoints be taken as a personal insult?

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ORIGINAL: landabee


I could have posted it myself....... well except the parts about being white and at the end of the boomer generation. LOL [8D][8D]

Jalanda!!! [sm=Llol.gif][sm=Llol.gif][sm=Llol.gif]





Mike's thread, "Single and Not Looking" and Steve's "Cooking for One" is what drew me back into the Singles' folder. Neither one of them have as their focus a topic centered around attaining the goal of marriage.

I also know that if I don't like the way things are here, I am always free to pick up my toys and go elsewhere. Rather than that, I'm simply hoping for a broader area in which to be here than just a couple / three, four threads. I guess time will tell.

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Thank y'all very much for listening to this; I truly appreciate it.
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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

Ah, yes. Lioness, I, too, remember those wonderful days. [:D] I'm glad there are other fossils posters around these here parts that remember it as well.

. . . But when did being single equate with the assumption that one is somehow looking (or waiting) for a spouse; that a single's goal is, indeed, to get married (again)?

For example, the thread, "Must Christians Actively Seek a Partner?" has veered from the OP (which posed a very good question for discussion) into now educating women on how to show interest in a man.


. . . And why is it ok for someone who is searching to express their feelings / opinions, but it's not ok for someone who isn't marriage-minded to do the same? I've already encountered this attitude on a personal level; in fact, it happened the very day I ventured back into this folder.

I certainly don't take it as a personal affront that someone is wanting to get married; why should my differing viewpoints be taken as a personal insult?

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

Ah, yes. Lioness, I, too, remember those wonderful days. [:D] I'm glad there are other fossils posters around these here parts that remember it as well.

. . . But when did being single equate with the assumption that one is somehow looking (or waiting) for a spouse; that a single's goal is, indeed, to get married (again)?

For example, the thread, "Must Christians Actively Seek a Partner?" has veered from the OP (which posed a very good question for discussion) into now educating women on how to show interest in a man.


. . . And why is it ok for someone who is searching to express their feelings / opinions, but it's not ok for someone who isn't marriage-minded to do the same? I've already encountered this attitude on a personal level; in fact, it happened the very day I ventured back into this folder.

I certainly don't take it as a personal affront that someone is wanting to get married; why should my differing viewpoints be taken as a personal insult?

I dunno. 'Cause people are touchy and, if you don't want what they want, they think you're saying that what they want is bad?

'Cause, around here and IRL, some singles get so slapped about with "God is ALL you need! Why are you whining? You must not have any faith or you wouldn't feel that way." that they have hair-triggers?

<shrugs> I have no idea, that's why I don't post here much.[&:]

So maybe I should keep my mouth shut?[;)]

I do know what you're saying about threads veering off a non-mate-finding OP and going off on another tangent entirely. That happens a lot.

"Fossil", eh?[8D]

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'Cause, around here and IRL, some singles get so slapped about with "God is ALL you need! Why are you whining? You must not have any faith or you wouldn't feel that way." that they have hair-triggers?

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

Ah, yes. Lioness, I, too, remember those wonderful days. [:D] I'm glad there are other fossils posters around these here parts that remember it as well.

. . . But when did being single equate with the assumption that one is somehow looking (or waiting) for a spouse; that a single's goal is, indeed, to get married (again)?

For example, the thread, "Must Christians Actively Seek a Partner?" has veered from the OP (which posed a very good question for discussion) into now educating women on how to show interest in a man.


. . . And why is it ok for someone who is searching to express their feelings / opinions, but it's not ok for someone who isn't marriage-minded to do the same? I've already encountered this attitude on a personal level; in fact, it happened the very day I ventured back into this folder.

I certainly don't take it as a personal affront that someone is wanting to get married; why should my differing viewpoints be taken as a personal insult?

I dunno. 'Cause people are touchy and, if you don't want what they want, they think you're saying that what they want is bad?

'Cause, around here and IRL, some singles get so slapped about with "God is ALL you need! Why are you whining? You must not have any faith or you wouldn't feel that way." that they have hair-triggers?

<shrugs> I have no idea, that's why I don't post here much.[&:]

So maybe I should keep my mouth shut?[;)]

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I do know what you're saying about threads veering off a non-mate-finding OP and going off on another tangent entirely. That happens a lot.

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Being single, this folder should be my home base as it is for some of you, but honestly, I often feel more at home in

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

"Fossil", eh?[8D]

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ORIGINAL: BloominPhariseeWoman

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

"Fossil", eh?[8D]

Just a little "wuv tap"; except in verbal form.

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ORIGINAL: John_O

The other forums I've been in here don't have nearly the sense of community that this one does. Of course I've not explored too much as this one suited my needs when I found it. Why go elsewhere when you have what you want at home.

I have found the PFY threads to be hugely "community-minded" towards it's posters (and when CS died, that was shown to me on a level that was unimaginable. I know that people from other folders were involved in that, but it originated over in Personally For You . . . well actually before that, when it was called General Topics).

Also last year, I found the Southern Gospel folder (and also discovered Southern Gospel music, at the same time). They don't even care if you like Southern Gospel music; they love everybody.

John, I wasn't so much arguing with your statement; rather, I was pointing out 2 folders that are, indeed, quite welcoming.

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

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ORIGINAL: John_O

The other forums I've been in here don't have nearly the sense of community that this one does. Of course I've not explored too much as this one suited my needs when I found it. Why go elsewhere when you have what you want at home.

I have found the PFY threads to be hugely "community-minded" towards it's posters (and when CS died, that was shown to me on a level that was unimaginable. I know that people from other folders were involved in that, but it originated over in Personally For You . . . well actually before that, when it was called General Topics).

Also last year, I found the Southern Gospel folder (and also discovered Southern Gospel music, at the same time). They don't even care if you like Southern Gospel music; they love everybody.

John, I wasn't so much arguing with your statement; rather, I was pointing out 2 folders that are, indeed, quite welcoming.

I'm certain they are. But since I found this place I've no need to go elsewhere.

Of course I couldn't go to the Southern Gospel music forum anyway. The Catholics believe there is a place called purgatory where people would have to 'work off' or be punished for their non-mortal sins. I firmly believe that if there is such a place they constantly play Southern Gospel music there. (OK so maybe it's not that bad, but some singers sure make it sound close)