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Jenny-Fair -> RE: Husband doing things with a CHRISTIAN female friend who is married (4/10/2008 3:07:03 PM)
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Why don't you go hiking with them?
See, I had a friend, from childhood, who was married to a woman who, when he proposed to her, had just hiked up a mountain with him. However, she apparently still did not realize that outdoor activities meant a lot to him. As the years went by, she separated herself from his hobbies, and then of course, restricted his participation in them somewhat. When my boys were young and he saw that they needed a male influence in their life (his father had died when he was young, and my boys' dad had left when they were young) he offered to take them on various outings. Being someone who enjoys that sort of thing myself, I sometimes went along. Nothing inappropriate, just hiking, swimming at his mom's (his wife refused to swim), etc.
Eventually, though, even though I had known this man from the time I was TWELVE, a mutual attraction did develop (as is common when people spend time together enjoying things). Neither of us ever acted on it but his wife picked up on it and then we realized it (because she threw a fit and pointed it out--until then I think neither of us was willing to admit we felt anything beyond the friendship we'd always had), and our friendship was ended by mutual consent.
Nowadays, he doesn't get to go do the things he likes, because she won't let him. A lesser man would have left her long ago. But, a better woman would have gone hiking with her husband, and would have had nothing to worry about.
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