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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 10:46:19 AM
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AdrianaS
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There was a thread the brought up the discussion about different personalities, and how we should all try to assert ourselves and be more "out there" in these forums to be noticed. I thought I'd ask if we are the same online as we are in person? Do our personalities change when we're behind a computer screen, or do we manifest who we are when we posts in these forums. Is there anyone who's not shy in these forums but is actually shy in person? I think this would give us some insights in each other, and perhaps, allow us a greater understanding in how to counsel or encourage, or cheer up each other.
I think I'm about 80% of my true personality online. The reason I say that is it's hard for me to convey my thoughts into words, being English is my second language. Also, I'm not the most articulate person, I'm also not sure how to write in "internet" language. So, often times, my goofy side doesn't show. I have a very serious side that comes out when issues of values, ethics, religion and philosophy are being discussed...which is always the case in most of the threads that I answer to. But for the most part, I'm goofy around the people I work with and around the friends that I hang out with. My 11 year old daughter thinks I'm the coolest mom in the world as I act more like a big sister and she calls me hip and groovy, LOL. I just don't know how to bring that out in written words.
So, how about you guys. Are you the same in person as you are on here, personalitywise?
The way I see internet communication I have to say: Of course not!
How can it be same exchanges as people expressing themselves when the vehicle of expressing is a computer? It just lacks the realility of senses coming out of human exchanges that happens in off line has naturaly. Sure as I type to comunicate I'm using my brains etc but is text communication. Sure it can come out to readers some traits they may perceive one may have. Still as much I do know there are real people behind the texts and some have their faces in pictures that we may put a face in the texts etc, I'm not concluding anything about them as because its text, those who are good in writting and etc may come out lovely by doing so..as in real life they may are not confy to talk and put out side the same thoughts and etc. When one type they have lots of options to respond and think about the way to respond and etc In real life is very much different as you dont speak as you write and etc
Its funny to me as many times my texts comes very long and lots of information as a letter..LOL..because of tempo It does not come naturaly to me to "chat" as in small text exchangings...and many times because mny people are talking at same time is very strange to me as in of line communication if you do that nobody will understand one another and it will be a "cacophonia"/noises and rudeness too. The etiquete on online communication comparing to real life one may "hurt" some tender personalities and we my see it clearly as some complain they are being "ignored" not heard, etc. But as much we all understand or try to understand peoples feelings, because of the way it is online as pages and pages of many expressing thmselves and chatting and etc is something people may have to deal with in the best possible way they can. Because.. who is keeping up with all that everybody is saying? Is natural we tend to focus in some more then the others for one motive or another. As an ADD person I trully cannot, as many times I just enter in a thread and just post it based on the OP and most of the times not reading "old" pages from minutes or hours ag, and carrying informations or exchanges that do not interest myself or whatever? Life is fast pace and we do have many things going on, of course, as when we come online we may choose an stick with whatever the time and mood and need direct us, as individuals to choose to engage or just write to.
Then to me as an expressive person, peoples person with festive personality and observant of peoples faces, reactions and etc the online vehicle and way of writting texts and etc is not a sure way for the reality of what people are really about, not me or others. Because it just lacks all over, in my view, oppinion and perceptions, of course. In real life we are drawn to people because of many motives and we have to choose to engage with some and etc. Online we have a multitude of people exchangings but sure the depth of exchangings is not the same or come close as offline relationship goes, to me.
Then my answer is no, my persona and personality is not the same, as to me is impossibility to flow the same as in real life. 
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 11:01:28 AM
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The Get-Together will be an interesting experience for me because I've never before made friends online first, and then met them in the flesh. I simply don't know whether I'll instantly be at ease or if the "stranger shields" will automatically go up. I'm hoping for the former, obviously, but I can't say - no experience to go off of.
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This is so true. And I do have experience so I can touch on this a little. When I met Lisa I was completely myself around her, until we got around other people. Then I got quiet and just kind of kept to myself. That's only because I didn't know them. Now if one of those people were Gary, or John, or Robb, or Tina, or Fritz, it would be totally different. It just proved to me that I knew Lisa well enough to be myself but not the other people.
So I know at the GT I will be fine and unfortunately you guys will see Tink in full form. 
And she got to see me in MY element with those people, so I'm sure my comments about being introverted aren't believed, but, this was for Brain Bowl, and I adore these folks - so yeah, I was a bit crazy with them. And Tink can attest to this - Stan is too cute. 
VERY cute. And even though I don't like Southern Accents his was quite adorable! 
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This year at the GT - I will be much more comfortable than last year - since I won't be one of the last ones arriving and feeling like I was barging in on people AND feeling like I was under scrutiny from the second I walked through the door.
This is where I'm different. I loooove to be the centre of attention, with people I know. Last night I went out with a bunch of people from work and we don't work together per se, but we have the same employer and I was with two or three people I felt comfortable with and just talked to them. But if I know someone, (or someones) I'm VERY comfortable and very much in my element.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 11:04:35 AM
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Tink - BTW - his team is in St Louis right now competing in ANOTHER tournament this weekend. They better win!!!!! I'm calling to find out how they're doing.... I'm so bad.
THAT'S my personality - to support and encourage folks.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 11:20:46 AM
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I'm kinda introverted in person until I get comfortable with people. I'm not sure how I come across on forums, but it is easier to type out things instead of speaking. I think it's the self-editing. I tend to self-edit when I speak, so it takes longer to say something. When typing thoughts out, no one really knows how long you think out your responses.
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This year at the GT - I will be much more comfortable than last year - since I won't be one of the last ones arriving and feeling like I was barging in on people AND feeling like I was under scrutiny from the second I walked through the door.
I'm kinda like that too, Lisa. I try to be one of the first people to arrive at things, otherwise all eyes turn on you when you come in late. *shudder*
You also have a chance to create a rapport with a couple of people to make yourself comfy, for when the rest arrive.
Ok, all that was an attempt to make sense on a Saturday morning.
Makes sense, shawke!! You all would probably be shocked at how often I will backspace,type,backspace,and type again till it finally suits me!! And then sometimes when I don't I will end up editing or deleting! 
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 11:31:11 AM
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~IRL I stick up for anyone who is being mistreated verbally (i.e. Several times I've banned customers because of the way they talked to/treated my employees.). That just isn't cool and I won't let it slide.
That's so cool!
I had a really difficult boss years ago that I bent over backwards to work for, and he had a client come in one time who was incredibly rude to me. In my job, I need to be courteous to the clients, but this guy was something else. My boss called me into the conference room with the client, and insisted the client apologize to me. The client refused. And my boss told him he would not represent him, and to pick up his stuff and leave. He tried to get another in the firm to represent him, but they all refused. Way to go!!
I have never forgotten that kindness, and while I don't have the ability to do what my former boss did, I will step in and stick up for another.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 1:32:06 PM
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I should say, regarding the difference between the real life me and the online me, I am A LOT less serious IRL. My PFY thread is the most accurate representation of my personality and if you've read my blog you know more about the inner me than 98% of the people who know me IRL.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 2:18:25 PM
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I would have to say yes. I'm a very controlled person. I only let people see of me what I want them to see. I'm slow to warm up and am very shy (but once you get to know me watch out!). I try to stay cool and calm when angered, not let people see me upset, because then my wall is down. If you cross the wall in a good way i'll be loyal to you for life. I guess you can say i'm kind of like a dog....lol
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 6:31:21 PM
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I dunno, I'm really not sure how I come across online. I personally believe that one cannot make the best judgement about a person until you actually meet them, or either God supernaturally reveals it to you--or it is discerned. Nevertheless, I do get the idea behind "knowing" something of a person online. Some personalities are evident online, some are not. I think the more a person posts, the more that is revealled. I think it's kinda like that IRL. People who don't say much, or don't interact with others, it's just not possible to get to know them. Friends of mine have pointed out that I "bring people out" when I chat with them, but I've met some VERY shy souls in which, having a conversation with them was like trying to pull teeth. I could even see that they wanted to interact, but were too afraid to do so. Generally it comes from trying to controll how you are percieved, feelings of rejection, or fear of rejection (fear of man). People who are introverted, but are not shy, usually don't care how they are percieved, do not feel a sense of rejection or fear it and can engage: and generally they do not envy those in the "limelight" nor aspire to do so. I guess it means being comfortable with who you are. All that I know, is that I post what I think and believe, try to stay as biblical as possible, keep a positive attitude and try to honor God.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 8:02:18 PM
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My online and offline personalities both include all the same elements in a slightly different balance.
I'm a little more outspoken online, largely because when writing I have time to consider a response, develop my ideas and present them as I'd like. IRL, by the time I've done that, the conversation has passed me by.
But I'm a one-liner artist IRL, too.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 8:07:17 PM
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Yes, I am the same online as offline. Too difficult to do anything else (and dishonest). The difference is in what I choose to reveal about myself and that in person my grammar and diction is not so precise.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/12/2008 8:50:53 PM
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In real life I am absolutely nothing like I am on CW .... I am much more 3-dimentional IRL
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/13/2008 12:18:20 PM
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I don't think coming aross a little differently online is necessarily dishonest. Some shy people can be outgoing online because it may remove, what ever it is, that keeps them from being that way in real life.
I think it may be unfair to make a blanket statement, that if you are a different person on line you are being dishonest.
That said, I think I am "me" online. Different facets of my personality come out stronger IRL., and some are stronger online. But they are all me.
I am almost incapable of small talk. In real life it is no big deal unless I am trying to make a new friend. All my friends have known me for 20 years or more so the conversation is usually about a mutual interest that is deeper and more meaningful.
Online, I have a hard time in the chat thread because I am not interested in most of what is discussed. I really want to try to get to know others here, so I do push myself into going on and trying to have a conversation using one of three topics, cookies, weather or my garden. My conversations sound lame to me there. Other than when I talk about my garden, which I am passionate about. The topics I am interested in would not be appropriate in that thread. So...I gravitate to other threads where I can discuss things that I am passionate about. This for some may come across as being arguementative which in real life I definitely am not, just passionate.
A few things are really lacking in online conversations and that is facial expressions and body language not to mention tone of voice. I think the lack of these can cause misunderstandings. My husband used to say my face said everything because I had so many expressions. (not that words were ever lacking. )
IRL I am very comfortable in groups large or small. I think ministry taught me this. If there is a large group of you chatting in the chat thread, however, I usually go and thread hop somewhere else if I don't feel that my addition to the conversation is needed.
I'm new to this whole thing, but being online has taught me alot about myself. (other people too)
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/13/2008 12:23:53 PM
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Pretty much. I'm blunt, direct, argumentative, analytical just as I am here.
I also ask questions and am inquisitive in person.
And, I've got a pretty good memory - I remember what others say here just as I remember what people I know in person have done and said.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/13/2008 12:42:10 PM
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Nadine - the chat thread is just that - chat - it's about ANYTHING!!!!! Bring up your topics and we'll discuss them....unless they seem to be of something that deserves their own thread, and then we'll do that too.
A few things you said stood out for me - I am full of personality in person - even my pastor joked that "wow, she'd go far if she had just a bit more personality". I am formidable in person and evidently on here too. My uncomfortableness with groups comes from my own lack of self-esteem - which God is changing as I type this right now. God is doing some incredible work in my life. So, while I don't think that I am necessarily the same online and off, I guess maybe that I am - for the most part. It's just that I really am an introvert at heart and do need that "me" time to recharge. Being with people too much absolutely just drains me. At last year's GT, within 30 minutes of arriving, I had to go outside and get alone - I felt like every ounce of energy had been sucked from my body and soul.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/13/2008 12:44:54 PM
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I am the same offline as online.. I enjoy meeting people, chatting, and understanding people's perspectives on life, on Christ, on everything. I appreciate all of the insights I get from you guys..
I can empathize with those who are more introverted. It's good to have an outlet for those who may not be so open in public- otherwise, you'd never know anything about them.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/13/2008 1:47:22 PM
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Nadine - the chat thread is just that - chat - it's about ANYTHING!!!!! Bring up your topics and we'll discuss them
I still show up and really have never been offended or hurt. If someone skips my posts, in favor of anothers, because the topic interests them more, fine I do the same thing. It is nearly impossible to offend me, frustrate me, yes, offend me, probably not.
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....unless they seem to be of something that deserves their own thread, and then we'll do that too.
Yeah, we all saw how that worked out with my last thread. LOL
The "fun" threads go over much better. (Hey, I enjoy them too.)
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/14/2008 9:08:11 AM
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........... I think Humble is more funny IRL.
Am I the same? I'd say mostly - maybe a little more animated.
Maybe others might perceive me differently. Especially people who don't truly know me well.
It's a toss up....
You can ask others about me.... Joy2Give2U, HumbleinSpirit and even Doer... they know me best.
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RE: Is your online personality the same when you're off... - 4/14/2008 10:20:02 AM
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in general i'm more outgoing online but that's been changing the past couple of years as i become less self-conscious. i've been interacting online for years so am a lot more confident in that regards when it comes to meeting new people. also i feel that i can much better organize my thoughts online (editing post before submitting) versus irl where i feel my thoughts comes out too quickly in my mind to explain something as coherently, lol.
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I also think I am funnier in person than I am on-line. I have a kind of dry sarcastic sense of humor that is hard to express on-line. Things I would say could easily be taken the wrong way since people on line can't hear the tone of voice I am using.