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Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 10:38:11 AM)

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ORIGINAL: stellaluna

Let me encourage everyone to use "willy nilly" in a post today.
[8D]

LOLOLOL!!!!! Now I must wash the apple juice off my montior thank you very much! [8D][8D][8D]



CoeurdeLeon_ -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 10:48:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: stellaluna

Let me encourage everyone to use "willy nilly" in a post today.
[8D]

I accept this mission...[sm=tiefighter.gif]



[8D]



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 11:13:54 AM)

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ORIGINAL: stellaluna

I agree with Trish. In fact, the only folder in which I see any kind of flirting or crossing any lines that I'm not comfortable with is Singles. Yep.

99.9% of the conversations in the other folders are simply that--conversations among a group of people, not cozying up to someone of the opposite sex. I think holing oneself away in one folder gives one a warped perception of the rest of the board. And in the rest of the board, new ideas and perceptions are always welcome. (Indeed, they are often needed. [8|])

I think single people shouldn't be sequestered in the "whoa is me, no one understands what it's like to be a single Christian" camp. You guys should be all over the board! Running willy nilly through the threads! Making yourselves heard to the masses! There are many people you don't know here who could benefit from your insight or expertise. Come out, come out, wherever you are!

John_O, you're raising a daughter alone--you don't have an opinion on Miley Cyrus? Or when co-sleeping should stop? You took care of your wife as she died and you have no words of wisdom to impart on the hurting people in the marriage folder? Please.

Many of you sell yourselves short. [sm=aside.gif]
::Sharon-Marie runs around willy nilly applauding Stellluna's post:: [sm=dance.gif]



.Pammy -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 11:24:55 AM)

[sm=wave.gif] Me, me! I run around posting willy nilly, I do, I do!



John_O -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 11:57:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Above_All
Married people don't come to CW in general to have serious friendships with the opposite sex. You wouldn't do that so you can feel pretty confident that others wouldn't either.


I'm responsible for my behavior, not theirs. I tend to talk a lot. It is very easy for people to be friendly with me and to grow to like me. (It sounds vain but I've found it to be true). I do not believe a single man should be spending any time talking to a married woman in a situation where a friendship could form. She should be talking to her husband and I should not be coming between them. (OK so I'm strange that way. But I never get in trouble of that sort)



JustJeannie -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 12:01:30 PM)

That is an honest post, John. I commend you for putting your feelings and opinions on the matter out there.



John_O -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 12:03:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: stellaluna
99.9% of the conversations in the other folders are simply that--conversations among a group of people, not cozying up to someone of the opposite sex. I think holing oneself away in one folder gives one a warped perception of the rest of the board.


I odn't have a warped opinion of the rest of the board. I have no opinion of it. I don't need one as I seldom if ever go there. Just as I have no opinion of Kansas City. It may be great, it may be a slum. It really doesn't matter to me as I don't go there.

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I think single people shouldn't be sequestered in the "whoa is me, no one understands what it's like to be a single Christian" camp.


It's not like that at all for me. If I'm satisfied here, why go elsewhere?

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You guys should be all over the board! Running willy nilly through the threads! Making yourselves heard to the masses! There are many people you don't know here who could benefit from your insight or expertise. Come out, come out, wherever you are!


Probably true (OUgh. Stop hitting me. OK OOK I'll take it back)

The OH demands that I make known to all that I have little to contribute to any intelligent conversation and talk too much at that.

(There is that better. OUCH! What was that for. Good measure!!!!??? You've got to be kidding me. Ouch. Kidding I said kidding. Not kicking!)

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John_O, you're raising a daughter alone--you don't have an opinion on Miley Cyrus? Or when co-sleeping should stop? You took care of your wife as she died and you have no words of wisdom to impart on the hurting people in the marriage folder? Please.


You should know by not that I've got opinions on everything. But do you really want to unleash me into all those unsullied fora? Where would CDL have left to hide?


(BTW, if by co-sleeping you mean a child in their parent's bed, it should never start)

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Many of you sell yourselves short. [sm=aside.gif]


I'm 6'1" Definitely not short.[:D]



JustJeannie -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 12:06:20 PM)

You're a lil goofy sometimes, John, but always seemingly when I need the laugh. [8D]



stellaluna -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 12:12:11 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O
You should know by not that I've got opinions on everything. But do you really want to unleash me into all those unsullied fora?

Sure, why not?

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(BTW, if by co-sleeping you mean a child in their parent's bed, it should never start)

Well there are plenty of people saying it's okay. You'd better get up there! [:D]



elastic -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 12:14:24 PM)

well, i'm married and i rarely post in here. usually the only reason is if i notice an interesting thread title pop up on the main page....(such as this thread title[;)])

i will say that IRL, most of my friends are single. it's really weird. i have very few married friends. and even fewer friends who are friends with both my dh and myself. he has a set of friends, i have a set of friends, we have a couple of married friends that we rarely see. I have found myself trying to play matchmaker with my single friends, and have actually managed to get quite a few of them together. strangely, once they are coupled, they marry and move away, or marry and become too busy for me...but i'm happy that i was able to put them together.

i have a pet project in the works right now with a couple of my single friends...they are just about to start dating. i must prepare to bid them adieu. [&:][8D]



Mrs.Dawgfan -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 3:37:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: Above_All
Married people don't come to CW in general to have serious friendships with the opposite sex. You wouldn't do that so you can feel pretty confident that others wouldn't either.


I'm responsible for my behavior, not theirs. I tend to talk a lot. It is very easy for people to be friendly with me and to grow to like me. (It sounds vain but I've found it to be true). I do not believe a single man should be spending any time talking to a married woman in a situation where a friendship could form. She should be talking to her husband and I should not be coming between them. (OK so I'm strange that way. But I never get in trouble of that sort)


Oh common now John...I am sure you have the ability to turn your wonderfulness (my own word. Ha) down a notch a little. [:D] Or maybe not then?

Just kidding around with ya dude.



John_O -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 4:19:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Above_All

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: Above_All
Married people don't come to CW in general to have serious friendships with the opposite sex. You wouldn't do that so you can feel pretty confident that others wouldn't either.


I'm responsible for my behavior, not theirs. I tend to talk a lot. It is very easy for people to be friendly with me and to grow to like me. (It sounds vain but I've found it to be true). I do not believe a single man should be spending any time talking to a married woman in a situation where a friendship could form. She should be talking to her husband and I should not be coming between them. (OK so I'm strange that way. But I never get in trouble of that sort)


Oh common now John...I am sure you have the ability to turn your wonderfulness (my own word. Ha) down a notch a little. [:D] Or maybe not then?

Just kidding around with ya dude.


I tried that once but the pressure built up and it all exploded out of me just as I was passing a shopping mall. I had to run for hours until the last little granny finally gave up the chase. (Who'd of thought that they could move those walkers that fast!!)



ShallbeRebuilt -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/29/2008 7:10:52 PM)

Just popping into this discussion to say that I kind of agree with some of John's thoughts on this.

Frankly, I have been around this community...and the only place I really enjoy hanging out is the singles forum. It's not so much because I'm "woe is me" about being single, although I do find that people here get me better. But it is because for the most part what I've found in the other folders is either shallowness or aggressiveness.

I love a good, deep discussion about the real issues that I'm interested in. Therefore in those threads that I've visited and found shallow, I'm not interested. In those threads where I've found tackiness, snarkiness, agressiveness and flaming between Christians, I've left in sadness.

I would spend more time in the parenting forum except I spent many, many years on another list on that particular topic, and I've covered it all...BTDT.

So...I hang out here.

I love it here.

besiderself



doinkdom -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/30/2008 4:34:48 PM)

I flip between lurk and reveal around here since I'm married.

About half of my friends are single offline, prolly the same online (who knows[8|]).

I don't hang out in the singles forum for reasons other than not being single.

I also don't hang out (well, not too much anyways) in the marriage folder.

I don't see the separation of marital status in the bible as though it were a status set apart from the body - married or single. I also believe there is more growth, love and "living" when we are more inclusive than exclusive.

And, I don't really find that much difference in the topics in here. I mean, some are funny, some are serious, some are ... well, just weird. [:D]



stellaluna -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 11:45:11 AM)

I just popped in to say that Tinkerbell_ has been running amok throughout the threads today and her observations are excellent and appreciated!

(How many of you used willy nilly? Today's phrase: running amok! [8D])



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 11:47:16 AM)

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ORIGINAL: stellaluna

I just popped in to say that Tinkerbell_ has been running amok throughout the threads today and her observations are excellent and appreciated!

(How many of you used willy nilly? Today's phrase: running amok! [8D])

Awww..thanks! *blush*

I liek to run amok!!!! [:D]



trainfan -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 1:42:40 PM)

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I would like to see more people in the singles folder posting in other areas of the board, though.


I have posted in other folders in the past and got slammed, sometimes so badly I would get upset by it and not post for a few days. So I rarely venture out of singles anymore.



pruned -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 7:50:36 PM)

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ORIGINAL: trainfan

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I would like to see more people in the singles folder posting in other areas of the board, though.


I have posted in other folders in the past and got slammed, sometimes so badly I would get upset by it and not post for a few days. So I rarely venture out of singles anymore.


Maybe you just didn't find the right ones to contribute to. Obviously, here in Singles, we actually like each other! Some of those folks in some of those places... well... we just have to agree to disagree.

I found the forums to begin with because of Ministry Leaders. I still post there occasionally. Other places like Community Lounge, Humor & Games, Health & Fitness, Sports & Hobbies, etc. as well as PFY threads are much more welcoming and friendly.

I wish I had more time to be here instead of elsewhere.



mutinywxgirl -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 8:21:44 PM)

I certainly hope I'm allowed back in here if/when I ever get married.

[:D]



Grace-N-Mercy -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 8:23:06 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

I certainly hope I'm allowed back in here if/when I ever get married.

[:D]


Well, we have to get you married first, THEN we'll cross that bridge. [;)] (I'm sure you'll be welcomed in here regardless of your marital status!)



mutinywxgirl -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 8:24:04 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy

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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

I certainly hope I'm allowed back in here if/when I ever get married.

[:D]


Well, we have to get you married first, THEN we'll cross that bridge. [;)]

Details, details...........[8D] Besides, I said IF. [8D]



Grace-N-Mercy -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 8:25:23 PM)

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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy

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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

I certainly hope I'm allowed back in here if/when I ever get married.

[:D]


Well, we have to get you married first, THEN we'll cross that bridge. [;)]

Details, details...........[8D] Besides, I said IF. [8D]


You're too quick!! See my edit! [:D]



mutinywxgirl -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/1/2008 8:26:16 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy

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ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy

quote:

ORIGINAL: mutinywxgirl

I certainly hope I'm allowed back in here if/when I ever get married.

[:D]


Well, we have to get you married first, THEN we'll cross that bridge. [;)]

Details, details...........[8D] Besides, I said IF. [8D]


You're too quick!! See my edit! [:D]

Gotcha - thanks. [:)]



the_captain -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/26/2008 12:32:04 AM)

I've read through part of this thread, but not all. That may affect the way you read this, so...

I have been a member of Crosswalk since 1999. I was a part of the original flirt thread, computer thread, singles cafe thread... I think you understand.

This was my home for the longest time. Many people I knew during that time have long since left, either they got married, or they simply stopped checking in. A few I have met IRL, but not many. Some, but very few of the members now remember when I was engaged and my fiance passed away in '03 of brain cancer. A few more might remember me getting married in '05.

I did check in after I was married, but I stopped for while. I been through several forum changes, mergers, thread clean ups, and other things at this site. I've posted some in movies, writers round table, and sports.

And I occasionally post here. Specifically the Star Trek thread which was started after I got married. ( I know that no one has posted in the last month.) I really can't speak to anyone else's opinion about married's posting here, and since I spend so little time here, I don't think my opinion is really relevant.

I only wanted to point out, that the forum has changed in almost ten years, people I truly came to like and respect have disappeared from the site, and I miss them. I will be posting in the Star Trek thread again, as time allowes this summer, once school is out, but I doubt that I will make any opinions known in any other thread.

And for those of you who missed them, Krikit, Jen, Mark, Owen, Tracy...

They were great people, I miss their wisdom and grace, and this forum is less now than it was since they are no longer a part of it.



mutinywxgirl -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (5/26/2008 7:45:14 AM)

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They were great people, I miss their wisdom and grace, and this forum is less now than it was since they are no longer a part of it.


And that is the goal we should all have as we move on from here as we get married or just decide we no longer have the need to be in here.

Thanks, Capt! You're welcomed here ANY time; you are still part of us.



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