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TomTurn -> Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 9:33:45 AM)

Who is married yet hangs out a good deal in the singles forum. And if here do you hang out with singles in your Church or day to day life?

And why if yes to one or all?



broyce1981 -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 9:49:06 AM)

I am not married, but I suspect the Singles forum is just more fun, so that;s why married people might hang out here! [:)]



ladioffaith -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 2:38:27 PM)

Married people don't bite [:D] and are welcome to hang out and post, as long as they don't take the joint over.

Most of the ones who post here because:

* They used to be single

and

* They have friends who still are.



sharonjef2007 -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 8:18:21 PM)

I'm getting married in August to a guy I actually met here on the single's forum.

I remember all to well how much I hated it when marrieds or almost marrieds came in to give "advice." I come in to say hello to people who are now good friends, but I won't be a regular anymore.



John_O -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 9:54:01 PM)

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ORIGINAL: sharonjef2007

I'm getting married in August to a guy I actually met here on the single's forum.

I remember all to well how much I hated it when marrieds or almost marrieds came in to give "advice." I come in to say hello to people who are now good friends, but I won't be a regular anymore.



Would that make you irregular? You can take something for that now you know?[:D]



ta_mosquito -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 10:28:29 PM)

Define "hanging out."

I hang out in the ABC Reunion thread, but that's about it.

I was a single on the CW forums from about 1999 to late 2005. I met my husband here. [;)]

As for in my day-to-day life, I don't hang out with many people at all. But (trying to think...) I don't know many adult singles that I would be able to hang out with.



ladioffaith -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 11:04:26 PM)

But I'm sure you would if you did, Tricia!

A friend of mine was single for a very long time. One of her friends suddenly dropped out of her life when she got married. A month or so after her wedding, she announced that she and her DH were going out with this friend and her DH. So I said, "So now that you're married, you're suddenly good enough to hang out with?"

Moral of the story: Just because you're married, it does not mean that your single friend feels like a "third wheel." If you were good enough to hang out with BEFORE the wedding, you should be good enough to hang out with AFTER.

(In Tricia's case, not only did she marry, but she also relocated ... so that would change a lot of dynamics in her case!)



dsfuva -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 11:14:25 PM)

I haven't been around too much lately, but it has nothing to do with any change in my marital status.

I've appreciated the wise counsel some married folks have dispensed in this forum over the years. However, I wasn't too pleased when a married person came into the Singles forum a couple of years ago and started a controversial thread about singleness and sin. [>:]



humbleinspirit -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 11:14:54 PM)

And another Country to boot!



ta_mosquito -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 11:16:50 PM)

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(In Tricia's case, not only did she marry, but she also relocated ... so that would change a lot of dynamics in her case!)


Yep yep - sorry I didn't mention that. I'd love to hang out with my single friends from back home - but it's hard to do when they're 1000 miles away. [;)]



TomTurn -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/20/2008 11:32:38 PM)

quote:

Married people don't bite and are welcome to hang out and post, as long as they don't take the joint over.


quote:

Define "hanging out."


Am not saying they cannot or should not be here. Just wanted to know who is married yet hangs out, visits, passes through, partcipates, throws darts at the screen when it is on the singles forum, you name it.

Just an innocent question as to who and why.

And at the same time wondering about the singles in their life off line.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/21/2008 8:22:06 AM)

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ORIGINAL: TomTurn

quote:

Married people don't bite and are welcome to hang out and post, as long as they don't take the joint over.


quote:

Define "hanging out."


Am not saying they cannot or should not be here. Just wanted to know who is married yet hangs out, visits, passes through, partcipates, throws darts at the screen when it is on the singles forum, you name it.

Just an innocent question as to who and why.

And at the same time wondering about the singles in their life off line.

There's life off line!?!?!?!?! [sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif][sm=icon_smile_faint.gif]



ShallbeRebuilt -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/21/2008 11:33:12 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PrincessGiselle

quote:

ORIGINAL: TomTurn

quote:

Married people don't bite and are welcome to hang out and post, as long as they don't take the joint over.


quote:

Define "hanging out."


Am not saying they cannot or should not be here. Just wanted to know who is married yet hangs out, visits, passes through, partcipates, throws darts at the screen when it is on the singles forum, you name it.

Just an innocent question as to who and why.

And at the same time wondering about the singles in their life off line.

There's life off line!?!?!?!?! [sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif][sm=icon_smile_faint.gif]


[sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif][sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif]{sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif]

WHAT!!!????

I never knew this. There is a life offline?

Huh. Go figure...

besiderself



Mrs.Above_All -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/23/2008 4:45:39 AM)

When I get married I most likely will post here to say hey to old friends or chime in every once in awhile to threads that could benefit from my posts.



mmartiandt -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/24/2008 2:11:32 PM)

I'm married. I lurk here. Mostly because I've only been married a month, and I've been a member of this forum for nearly 2 years. I'm still transitioning. Plus, sometimes I like to say hey to my buddies. [:)]



.Pammy -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/24/2008 2:44:53 PM)

"HEY" Denise!



mmartiandt -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/24/2008 3:34:51 PM)

Hey Pam!!! [sm=wave.gif]



FunBetty -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/24/2008 5:33:43 PM)

Heeeey Denise!!!!



humbleinspirit -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/26/2008 1:10:32 PM)

Life is what you do when you are not posting in forums.[8D]



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/26/2008 8:13:53 PM)

I don't necessarily see anything wrong with it . . . but maybe if I were married, I'd be a little curious if my hubby were "hanging out" in the singles forums.



pruned -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/27/2008 8:50:39 PM)

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Who is married yet hangs out a good deal in the singles forum


I think this is a valid question. A few of you have responded that you met your (future) mate here. It could be difficult for someone who is looking and / or hoping for that to occur in their own life as a result of this forum. To have to sift through who is single and who is not could be time consuming to click on everyone's profile, and even then that information might or might not be public.

Now, the OP is entirely different than the question, Should marrieds be allowed to post here?



ta_mosquito -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/28/2008 9:05:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: pruned

quote:

Who is married yet hangs out a good deal in the singles forum


I think this is a valid question. A few of you have responded that you met your (future) mate here. It could be difficult for someone who is looking and / or hoping for that to occur in their own life as a result of this forum. To have to sift through who is single and who is not could be time consuming to click on everyone's profile, and even then that information might or might not be public.

Now, the OP is entirely different than the question, Should marrieds be allowed to post here?


I would think that if someone hung around enough, they'd figure out who was coupled off and who wasn't. [;)]



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/28/2008 10:06:08 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: pruned

quote:

Who is married yet hangs out a good deal in the singles forum


I think this is a valid question. A few of you have responded that you met your (future) mate here. It could be difficult for someone who is looking and / or hoping for that to occur in their own life as a result of this forum. To have to sift through who is single and who is not could be time consuming to click on everyone's profile, and even then that information might or might not be public.

Now, the OP is entirely different than the question, Should marrieds be allowed to post here?
People do meet and marry from here, yes. But that is not the purpose of this Singles forum; in fact, it's against TOS to use this forum for that expressed purpose. That being the case, why would someone need to sift through people's profiles to determine their marital status?

Man, I really want to elaborate, but to do so would definitely take this thread off-topic

[sm=icon_smile_idea.gif] . . . So I started a thread for that.


As to this specific OP, I'm not married.



ladioffaith -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/28/2008 10:27:15 AM)

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I would think that if someone hung around enough, they'd figure out who was coupled off and who wasn't.


Exactly ... and one of the happiest marriages I know of consisted of an introduction by a third party, who fixed these two up on the forums.



WaitingforBoaz -> RE: Married but hanging out in singles forum (4/28/2008 1:20:52 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

quote:

ORIGINAL: pruned

quote:

Who is married yet hangs out a good deal in the singles forum


I think this is a valid question. A few of you have responded that you met your (future) mate here. It could be difficult for someone who is looking and / or hoping for that to occur in their own life as a result of this forum. To have to sift through who is single and who is not could be time consuming to click on everyone's profile, and even then that information might or might not be public.

Now, the OP is entirely different than the question, Should marrieds be allowed to post here?
People do meet and marry from here, yes. But that is not the purpose of this Singles forum; in fact, it's against TOS to use this forum for that expressed purpose. That being the case, why would someone need to sift through people's profiles to determine their marital status?



One reason to check if someone is married, is so you know how to respond to them appropriately. We should and do speak to marrieds differently. I would never want something I said misconstrued. I would not flirt online anyway, but I would not have light hearted banter with a married man; this would be inappropriate.

That said, I am glad the marrieds come into the singles threads. If they feel they have something worthwhile to add, this is the only place on the forum that they know their audience is mostly single.
I may not be the person to ask on the subject though since I still feel more like a married person than a single one.



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