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StottyFan -> Is this too little time? (4/28/2008 3:42:42 PM)

Hey all,

There's a young lady at my church that I'd be quite interested in pursuing. I don't know her tremendously well, and would rather ask her to something not terrifically "datelike" - getting coffee or something together (although I'm fairly sure she'd "get" that there was an ulterior motive of some sort behind that, which is no real problem.)

The problem is that we currently live in the same city, but one or more of us are likely to move from it in around 2 months. We're both starting something new in September, and the last time I heard she was coincidentally considering moving to the same city I am, but I'm not sure she is any longer - I haven't spoken to her in a few weeks, but I've heard on the grapevine that she's a bit unclear about what'll be happening to her after she finishes her studies.

How would you ladies feel about this situation if something like this happened, and she was not (or indeed was, I suppose) going to move to the same place as I, or if she wasn't clear?




shadowspring -> RE: Is this too little time? (4/28/2008 8:18:54 PM)

Invite her to coffee, to say good-bye, good luck and find out if you're still moving to the same city.

If the conversation goes well, you've had a pleasant afternoon.

If she is moving to the same city you are, you can make plans for more coffee in the new place.

If it doesn't go well, then enjoy the coffee anyway. [:D]




genla -> RE: Is this too little time? (4/29/2008 12:12:37 AM)

Great advice, I agree.




car2ner -> RE: Is this too little time? (4/29/2008 6:19:28 AM)

IF she is not sure, then there isn't much you can do other than enjoy that coffee and share your dreams about what might be next, individually. Might make for a pleasant conversation. Trade numbers if you want but I agree with the advice, just enjoy the day.




AlwaysR8chel -> RE: Is this too little time? (5/1/2008 12:43:40 PM)

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........ we can't plan our lives according to what 'might happen' in the future... because we don't really know.

Pursue her and let God work on the details... [;)]




ladyamythist -> RE: Is this too little time? (5/3/2008 1:00:19 PM)

I agree with ShadowSpring!!!!




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