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Do you love your husband? Do you respect him?
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| I love my husband but do not respect him |
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| I respect my husband but do not love him |
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| I love my husband AND I respect him |
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| I do not love or respect my husband |
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| other... in case I left something out :) |
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Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 7:20:03 PM
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artemis
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There was a question in the marriage folder that got moved to the Men's Only asking men if their wives loved and/or respected them. I thought I'd see how we respond to the same question about how we feel about our husbands.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 7:24:03 PM
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Absolutely!
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 7:26:25 PM
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Sideways
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Errr, not to be a stick in the mud, but what do you mean by respect? Do you mean obey him as my authority figure, or that I recognize and appreciate his gifts and talents and what he brings to this marriage?
Because I certainly think the world of my husband; he is incredibly intelligent, kind and loving. He's a wonderful husband and father. But we really don't have an authority/underling type relationship.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 7:26:36 PM
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Sure do!
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 7:27:44 PM
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I definately love and respect my husband...he is a wonderful man and I am incredibly fortunate to be his wife!
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 7:49:37 PM
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Sideways
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Well, I feel that I respect my husband, but do I always show my respect to him? No, not all the time. I get snippy, forgetful and sometimes disregard him.
In my heart I feel that respect, but I do get angry or bitter at him sometimes. That's just the honest truth. So.... I'm not entirely sure how to answer you.
He knows I love and respect him, as he loves and respects me, but we don't always show each other that love, respect and appreciation perfectly.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 10:41:27 PM
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I absolutely love my husband. More than that, I genuinely like him and love being with him.
I do respect him. I don't know of one man on this earth who deserves respect more. I would do my best to show respect to him simply because he's my husband. But, it's great to feel that respect and not just have to give it because it's the right thing.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 10:53:08 PM
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I love my husband. I like my husband. I honor my husband. I will never speak ill of him.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 10:53:09 PM
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ta_mosquito
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I both love him and respect him.
I just asked him if he sensed that I respect him. He thought and said, "I don't sense that you DISrespect me." So I guess I don't show him enough that I respect him. Hmmm.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 4/30/2008 10:56:42 PM
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I love my husband. I like my husband. I honor my husband. I will never speak ill of him.
Same here.
I learn more and more about what it means to respect him the longer we're married. I thought I respected him when we were first married (at 18 and 20) but looking back now I didn't always show it very well. I try very hard now to show it.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 2:08:24 AM
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I love my husband. There are times I have to remind myself of that because he's very moody (like I'm not? LOL) and can be very difficult. He expects me to act like a Lebanese. (Why on earth would I do that?) But I do love him.
I respect my husband. He's very intelligent. He works super hard. He's a perfectionist and always gives 100%. He's well-respected at work. He spent 2 years away from us, working hard in support of our country and to better our lives, and he's continuing to do that with us here.
So, yes, I love and respect my husband. I just need to work on how much and how well I show it.
BTW, there's a series on Family Life Today (I think that's right...the one hosted by Dennis Rainey) on this. Just go to www.oneplace.com/ministries and find his ministry listed. You'll get today's episode but you can click on archives under his picture and get a listing for the last few weeks. I like to listen while I'm grading papers.
Enjoy!
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 4:20:11 AM
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Not married tet. But I do not believe that I could marry a man that I did not love and respect.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 8:05:06 AM
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I do. Like Rachel said the longer we are married the more I love and respect him. It is really neat to see how the years go by my love for him, appreciation, respect, and outlook on him gets better and stronger. I have started sending him an email a day that says I love you because.... and he has responded back to everyone and some of his responses were such a blessing to my heart. Marriage definitely gets better as time goes on and I would never want to do that first year over again to be honest.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 10:00:55 AM
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Most definitely!
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 10:04:30 AM
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MrsOliver
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"Love and REspect" is an outstanding book, helping us wives see what our husbands view as respect!
respect is simply acknowledging and allowing GOD to POSITION our husbands above us. Not to hurt us, but to cover and protect us!!! Too many woman view respect as giving into a strong hand and that is wrong. God said, "Wives respect your husbands". That doesn't mean in the way we think we should or for as far or long as we think we should.
Also, for those wives who have boundaries on their "respect/submissive" role, you are standing in the way of God developing your husband. For those ladies that struggle in this area, and I know a lot, you have to line up under your husband or you make his role as the 'leader" of your home very difficult.
I can speak on this personally because i WAS one of those wives who 'thought' they were respecting to the boundary point, fearing being controlled and the 'strong hand'. But by the power of GRace by God, I have learned respect/submission/humilty 101!!! Because I CHANGED and understood what God's calling on me as a wife, it freed my husband to be the man of God he was called to be!
The order is beautiful and when we fall in line of the covering/authority/protection of our husbands, we become the 'blessing' described in Proverbs 31.
Anyway, just my experience in a nutshell, I pray it blesses some one and maybe causes some one else to consider that you may be standing in the way of your husbands blessings by not understanding what God calls for us as wives!
My husband is a true Man of God!! But he didn't start really getting their, until i lined up!!! Praise HIM who sits on the throne of GRACE!!!!
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 10:24:56 AM
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Sideways
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So, I guess I'm the only one who feels respect but sometimes has trouble acting out that respect?
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 10:34:29 AM
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Sideways
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Now, I think that respect doesn't mean just following the husband no matter what, especially if it's a serious health or financial issue. But there are ways of hashing out an issue where both spouses respect the other's intelligence and opinion.
But again, while dH is the technical leader of the family, we make all major decisions together. Nothing is done without our mutual agreement. I don't think this shows disrespect for him. Actually he appreciates when I respectfully challenge his ideas, as it gives him a chance to refine them or even toss them completely out.
I can't phantom how I would even be supportive of an idea I felt was really wrong, especially if it had a major impact on the family. But there are ways of challenging him that don't insult his intellect.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 10:36:17 AM
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Georgia-Peach
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I agree. We make all decisions together mutually and sometimes it is with one of us changing the others opinion of the situation. I may have not been looking at the situation objectively or vice versa.
Love and Respect sounds like a really good book 
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 11:01:06 AM
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But again, while dH is the technical leader of the family, we make all major decisions together. Nothing is done without our mutual agreement. I don't think this shows disrespect for him. Actually he appreciates when I respectfully challenge his ideas, as it gives him a chance to refine them or even toss them completely out.
Funny as it may seem  , that's how it works for us. Dh wants my opinion and suggestions and always discusses decisions with me.
However, that didn't happen until I learned to respect him and trust his leadership, which meant that I did end up submitting to decisions that i disagreed with. Until that point, he assumed (with good reason and experience, unfortunately) that all disagreement from me was because I wanted my way and nothing else, ever.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 11:13:32 AM
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karlie
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But there are ways of hashing out an issue where both spouses respect the other's intelligence and opinion.
But again, while dH is the technical leader of the family, we make all major decisions together
I agree totally! My husband never, ever makes a big decision without us talking about it. He wants and values my opinion, and often has taken my advice when we were unsure of how to handle something. He wants to know if I see red flags or really have a problem with a direction we're going in. I think the difference in respect and disrespect in those situations is how we respond. Saying "I think that's a really stupid idea and I won't go along with it" is a whole different story than saying "What would you think about us trying______?" We can definitely make our thoughts and opinions known and not cross the boundaries of respect.
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RE: Do you love your husband? Do you respect him? - 5/1/2008 11:20:01 AM
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This one is difficult. I try to always treat him with love and respect (not always successfully). However, I have definitely had times where I struggled to feel love and respect for him.
Over the years, God has shown me that I do not always have to respect his behavior in order to respect HIM as a son of God and as my husband. The same with love. I think real love is being kind, gentle, humble, etc. even when you don't feel like it! I find that loving and respecting him (with my actions) whether I feel like it or not actually help build those feeling over time as well.
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It has taken me a number of years to learn to trust his judgement and respect his thought processes, and I still mess up occasionally on that front.
