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mutinywxgirl -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 2:03:04 PM)

Okay, folks - let's get this thread back on topic.

If you wish to discuss this particular issue (which, admittedly is a good one), then start a thread on it in Relationships as it is not solely a Singles issue and one that many others can give good insight.

This is the game thread.



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 4:06:34 PM)

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ORIGINAL: PreserveWildlife

Many times when I've overheard a woman's conversation with another (usually in the kitchen at work, in the hallway as I pass by, etc) they are usually sharing intimate details of their personal life. Why? And what happened to discretion?
I have no idea! I have never shared intimate details of my life with another woman. I find that many things; none of them are complimentary. AND, the fact that they're talking about this at work is beyond my comprehension. [&:]



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 4:26:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

OK ladies here's a tough one.

When are we just supposed to listen to your problems and when are we supposed to fix your problems?
I'm very clear about this: if I want a man to listen to me, I will tell him that I need him to listen to me while I rant, opine, contemplate, etc. If I want him to assist me with something, I will ask specifically ask him for his help. But often, that doesn't mean that I want him to fix anything, but rather help me do it or teach me to do it.

As to fixing problems, humans can rarely fix someone else's problems. If I want a man's opinion on how to handle a situation (or even if I want a woman's opinion), I will be very specific in asking for their suggestions. Otherwise, I probably just want their prayers for Our Lord's Wisdom and Guidance in my life. (Oh, and if someone asks me if I want their opinion, I may say yes or I may say no thanks. If I say no thanks, please respect that and not take it personally).



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 5:50:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: CoeurdeLeon

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ORIGINAL: John_O

OK ladies here's a tough one.

When are we just supposed to listen to your problems and when are we supposed to fix your problems?

If it's a relational problem that doesn't involve you, just listen.

If you're the problem, fix it!

If it's going to involve tools, getting dirty or money, fix it!
THIS is a nost excellent answer! [:D]



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 5:52:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jazzlvr

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Question: Why do men like to compete with each other?



Just because it's fun.

How boring would a football game be if everyone was on the same team?


Here's a question: Why do women go to the ladies room in groups?
I have no idea.
I don't do that. If I need to go to the restroom, I simply go.
If I don't need to, I don't.

I actually do not like the "restroom group" mentality.








And now, I think I'm spamming this thread, so I shall come back to it at a later time.


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gracefulgirl -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:17:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

OK ladies here's a tough one.

When are we just supposed to listen to your problems and when are we supposed to fix your problems?



I will be very clear about it as I am talking. I have learned this from telling my best guy friends something or telling my dad something and not getting what I wanted or needed at that moment. I have realized being completely honest is the best policy. So, I would say something along the lines of this: "I want to tell you something, but I need you to just hear me out, it's not something that needs to be fixed. I really just want you to listen to me right now." Or, "I have a problem and I need help knowing what to do to fix it." Then I would state said problem, and then ask: "So, now that you heard me out, what do you think I should do or how can you help me with this?"
This seems to work well for me. [:)]



John_O -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:20:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings
As to fixing problems, humans can rarely fix someone else's problems. If I want a man's opinion on how to handle a situation (or even if I want a woman's opinion), I will be very specific in asking for their suggestions.



I had the strangest thing happen as I was reading this. ANd it's so strange because I know it's not a Shar-Mar sort of thing.

I read the first line "As to fixing problems, humans can rarely fix someone else's problems. If I want a man's opinion" and my mind continued with "I'll beat it out of him"[sm=icon_smile_yikes.gif]



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:23:46 PM)

My word, John! [sm=eek.gif]

WHAT did you put on your oatmeal this morning?!

LOL

[:D]



WaitingforBoaz -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:32:54 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

My word, John! [sm=eek.gif]

WHAT did you put on your oatmeal this morning?!

LOL

[:D]


I read what he wrote and I looked at you in that hat and could just imagine you saying:

What poowa little ole me?



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:38:05 PM)

ROFLOL!!!

And you you've only known me for such a short time, Nadine . . . yet you seem to know me so well.


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John_O -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:47:22 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

My word, John! [sm=eek.gif]

WHAT did you put on your oatmeal this morning?!

LOL

[:D]



I don't eat oatmeal. See I told you it was a strange thing. But then I'm exhausted so maybe that's it.

BTW, Love the hat.

Which brings me to my next questions.

It used to be that a woman wasn't considered well dressed without a hat. Why don't most women wear hats anymore?



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 6:59:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: trainfan

Why do women have a dozen or more colors of nail polish (or insert any other type of cosmetic)?
Man, I know I'm a woman; I just know that I am . . . but all these questions that y'all are asking are so foreign to me. LOL


I have one color of nail polish - bright fuchsia pink. Every now and then I think I'll be daring and get something like glittery royal blue (I only polish my toenails; not my fingernails). So far though, I still have just the one bottle of bright fuchsia pink.

I have 3 colors of eyeshadow . . . and I use all 3 whenever I wear eyeshadow; a sort of tranluscent color that I use as the base. A light pink color that I use underneath my eye brow and a deep mauve-ish pink that I use on my eyelid. I use purple eyeliner and green mascara. I've done this for years. I'm pretty boring when it comes to my makeup.


Maybe this summer, I'll just go wild and get the blue polish and perhaps something really weird for my eyes. [:D]



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 7:03:58 PM)

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ORIGINAL: humbleinspirit

Ok Esther, why is it that the ladies are very curious as to asking questions more than men?
I'm not Esther, but I can't help ya there, Mike.

I've been trying to think of a question I want to ask y'all, but as of yet, haven't been able to come up with one.

I guess I'm just not curious this afternoon.


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WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 7:08:21 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

BTW, Love the hat.

Which brings me to my next questions.

It used to be that a woman wasn't considered well dressed without a hat. Why don't most women wear hats anymore?
Thanks, on the compliment!

As to your question, I absolutely love hats . . . but rarely wear them.

Some of the reasons that come to mind are:

- Good quality hats are expensive. Cheaply made hats are horrid;
- Hats take up a lot of room in closets and such;
- I currently live in a very windy area; I would constantly be chasing my hat after it had blown of my head.



vikingfan -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 7:15:58 PM)

Hmm...some questions for the ladies here.

1) why do ladies need so many pairs of shoes? I know girls who have a TON...and it makes no sense to me!

2) why is it that a girl will say one thing and do another? For example, I had one girl saying that she wasn't interested in dating at all, and then within a week she basically straight-out hinted. I wasn't interested, but it left me wondering why that happens.



WhiteRoseBlessings -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 7:44:33 PM)

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ORIGINAL: vikingfan

Why do ladies need so many pairs of shoes? I know girls who have a TON...and it makes no sense to me!
I have 6 pairs of shoes . . . and for me, that's a LOT.

I have my Birks which I prefer over anything;

I have my Chaco sandals that I wear when I'm out riding my trike or walking around doing errands (my Birks are for casual walking; my Chacos are for errands and such);

I have a pair of felt clogs that I really don't like (color), so I'm waiting to figure out who to give them to;

I have a pair of loafers that I wear when it's too cold to wear my Chacos or Birks;

I have a pair of insulated snow boots (which is probably self-explanatory as to why I have them);

And last, but not least, I have a pair of brown suede Mukluks (Indian-style "snow boots")



Focusing -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 9:06:28 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Jazzlvr

Why do women go to the ladies room in groups?


Like SharMar, I'm okay being independent. Not to mention that it's much quicker.

However, my observation has been that women like to chat and primp together.



ShallbeRebuilt -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 11:18:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: vikingfan

Hmm...some questions for the ladies here.

1) why do ladies need so many pairs of shoes? I know girls who have a TON...and it makes no sense to me!

2) why is it that a girl will say one thing and do another? For example, I had one girl saying that she wasn't interested in dating at all, and then within a week she basically straight-out hinted. I wasn't interested, but it left me wondering why that happens.


Viking, I can't answer question #1, because I don't have that many. Depends, I guess, on what you deem excessive.

But #2--answer is she was fishing the first time, you just missed the hint.[;)]

besiderself



BugLady -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/18/2008 11:48:15 PM)

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ORIGINAL: WhiteRoseBlessings

quote:

ORIGINAL: PreserveWildlife

Many times when I've overheard a woman's conversation with another (usually in the kitchen at work, in the hallway as I pass by, etc) they are usually sharing intimate details of their personal life. Why? And what happened to discretion?
I have no idea! I have never shared intimate details of my life with another woman. I find that many things; none of them are complimentary. AND, the fact that they're talking about this at work is beyond my comprehension. [&:]


Eek! These kind of conversations make me cringe. Especially when I'm a captive audience.



BugLady -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/19/2008 12:30:35 AM)

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ORIGINAL: PreserveWildlife

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I think what they are looking for is, can you tell me the truth, in a way I can receive it? Can you compose an appropriate answer that is both truthful and loving?
OK, then why do we get punished if we make a mistake in coming up with the perfect answer? Why not look to the meaning of what's said instead of merely the words?


Hmm... maybe it's because men often tell us they really do mean exactly what they say, and we shouldn't read into it? <shrug> Just a guess. I don't know for sure.



WaitingforBoaz -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/20/2008 8:05:34 PM)

Question for the guys:

We all know what a man desires most in a relationship/marriage is respect.

When dating, what are the qualities you look for, that would make you feel that a given woman, would respect you in marriage?



vikingfan -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/20/2008 8:43:08 PM)

In response to Nadine:
Does she listen intently to what I have to say or is she distracted by anything and everything?
Does she bounce back to me what I'm saying?
Does she thank me when I do something for her?
Does she ask me how she can pray for me? (and then follows up on it, prays, and then comes back and asks the next time what happened with the prayer request. also, if I ask her how I can pray for her, if she opens up and shares SOMETHING, that is also nice. doesn't need to be something deep.)
Does she badmouth me to her friends? (that will usually get back to people)
Does she encourage me and make me a better person?



Pauley464 -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/20/2008 9:13:20 PM)

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ORIGINAL: followtheLeader

Question for the guys:

We all know what a man desires most in a relationship/marriage is respect.

When dating, what are the qualities you look for, that would make you feel that a given woman, would respect you in marriage?




When she asks for my advice, does she listen to me and seriously consider my advice or does she come up with one excuse after another as to why my suggestion won't work?

When I tell her how I'm feeling, does she dismiss my feelings as unimportant/wrong, or does she allow me the freedom to feel the way I do?

Do my mistakes/failures/personal failings/quirks become the butt of jokes when she's with her friends or do they remain behind closed doors?

Does she get angry with me because I don't know what she's thinking/feeling without her telling me or does she acknowledge that I can't know what she's thinking/feeling unless she does tell me?

Does she assume hidden meanings in every innocent remark or does she accept what I say as it's offered?



Jess77 -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/20/2008 11:13:50 PM)

I've always wanted to know why guys take a perfectly nice pickup truck, put huge shocks on it and big tires and ruin the poor thing? I always feel so sorry for the poor cars.

And why do most guys like sports?



BugLady -> RE: He says/She says for Singles (May Game Thread) (5/20/2008 11:15:51 PM)

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When I tell her how I'm feeling, does she dismiss my feelings as unimportant/wrong, or does she allow me the freedom to feel the way I do?


Hmm... sounds like me wondering about him.



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