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MsSara -> Boob Jobs (5/7/2008 2:07:07 PM)

Hi Ladies. [:)] I am seriously considering having breast augmentation. My boobs have always been something I worry about constantly. I just don't feel very feminine. Before I had my daughter, I always was thin and in great shape so that offset the fact that I was so self consious of my small chest. After Riley was born I have really stuggled with my weight, and have horrible stretch marks and a bit of extra skin on my belly. I've gotten back to a healthy weight now, but am really wanted to go ahead with the boob job now that Riley is almost three. Part of the problem is that I am pretty curvy in the butt and hips (even when I'm in good shape), so I don't feel proportioned at all. This isn't something i am doing for anyone else, and especially not to attract men. I really think physically I would feel better about myself. What do y'all think from a Christian POV???



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/7/2008 2:20:15 PM)

I think not being proportioned is a decent reason for a breast augmentation. I've always believed that (and *I* think God doesn't frown on that).



bluestone -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/7/2008 2:25:53 PM)

Iknow three women who got them, all three had problems with the implants, one involving infections and allergic reaction..the other two had leakage problems. That was years ago however, so perhaps they are better made.

I think motive is the question from a spiritual point of view. If your motive is not to make men lust and have their eyes rolling and tongues hanging out like cartoon characters, or to look unaturally large, then I would not think it would be a problem.

I am not well proportioned, but they don't offer rear end reductions.[8|]



LaurainAL -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/7/2008 3:53:35 PM)

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but they don't offer rear end reductions.


LOL. I need one of those if they do ever offer it.



Auben -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/8/2008 10:53:36 AM)

In my own opinion its unnecessary.

It's surgery. That alone would make me hesitate. Things can happen in any surgery and your chid is very young.

If you have more children you may have difficulty breastfeeding.

You are perfectly healthy, in good shape, and attractive. What would new breasts give you other than reinforcing your need to be 'perfect' or 'better' or 'proportionate?' You'll be happy with it for a while and then you'll pick out something else you don't like to obsess on. This is a heart thing, not really a physical thing.

I have A's myself and am not perfectly proportioned according to fashion. Whatever. I love my small breasts. I can tell you they take the test of time and gravity better than any size C, D, or bigger. Maybe at one time I wondered if I should wish my breasts were bigger (to give me some more curves) but I learned to love my body the way it is and that's much cheaper and better for me than any surgery.

Again, that's my opinion on the matter as a size A gal.



isaacsmom -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/8/2008 10:59:30 AM)

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It's surgery. That alone would make me hesitate. Things can happen in any surgery and your chid is very young.


Yes, very true.

One other thing to remember, is that the implants don't last forever. Like anything else, they experience wear and tear and need maintenance every 10 years or so -- which means more surgeries/procedures in the future. Just make sure you do all research.



HomeSpunLady -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/8/2008 1:41:36 PM)

From a Christians POV? God sees the inside not the outside. And even if you mean not to make yourself more attractive to men the thing is, you will. Is that causing a man to stumble? Even if you don't mean it? "Your beauty should not come from outward adornment, such as braided hair and the wearing of gold jewelry and fine clothes. Instead, it should be that of your inner self, the unfading beauty of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is of great worth in God's sight." Enhancing the inward self will go farther for your self worth.
Since this is an elective thing, something you are going to 'put on' then I would say this counts as outward adornment. And it's taking an unnecessary risk. I wouldn't do it.
After I had my daughter I lost a lot of weight. I had breastfed for 2 years and my breasts were so floppy, it was a downer. I wished I had fuller ones, but I would never get surgery for it. I think it's asking for trouble.

Now, if you want a natural, but nice fix for it, getting pregnant has always boosted my bust. [:D]



I too could go for the butt reduction. However, I just read an article last night that said big butts and hips are better in regards of diabetes. It's like your risk for it is down. Hmmm, not so bad after all!!



csl7037 -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/8/2008 1:47:48 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Auben

In my own opinion its unnecessary.

It's surgery. That alone would make me hesitate. Things can happen in any surgery and your chid is very young.

If you have more children you may have difficulty breastfeeding.

You are perfectly healthy, in good shape, and attractive. What would new breasts give you other than reinforcing your need to be 'perfect' or 'better' or 'proportionate?' You'll be happy with it for a while and then you'll pick out something else you don't like to obsess on. This is a heart thing, not really a physical thing.

I have A's myself and am not perfectly proportioned according to fashion. Whatever. I love my small breasts. I can tell you they take the test of time and gravity better than any size C, D, or bigger. Maybe at one time I wondered if I should wish my breasts were bigger (to give me some more curves) but I learned to love my body the way it is and that's much cheaper and better for me than any surgery.

Again, that's my opinion on the matter as a size A gal.


This pretty much sums up what I've always thought. But there's also the expense. I know moms who've blown crazy money on plastic surgery that really would've done a lot more good in a mutual fund for college! I've not even had lasik, which I really need, because I'm a chicke to boot!

But I've been thinking more and more about doing this myself. I'm not disproportioned top and bottom - I'm just lopsided! I know no one is perfectly symmetrical but I'm freakishly lopsided in the chest and it seems to be getting worse. It's truly disturbing so I'm certainly thinking of looking into doing something about it.



MsSara -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/12/2008 1:09:05 PM)

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And even if you mean not to make yourself more attractive to men the thing is, you will. Is that causing a man to stumble?


Since I was young men have looked at me in passing. As tons of men do with tons of women. This has always been slightly annoying to me. I do not dress provacatively in my opinion, but I do take care of myself and present myself well. My breast enlargement has nothing to do with men. Are you saying that any time a man looks at a woman and lusts, which probably happens about a billion times a minute around the world, it is the women who are to blame? I'm trying to understand what you said.



bluestone -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/12/2008 1:15:44 PM)

I think it is wrong to do something to cause men to lust. However, the lust is their sin, and if a woman is not trying to cause it, she is not responsible. HE is.



MsSara -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/12/2008 1:26:57 PM)

Thanks everyone for your insight and advice. I know there are women who are comfortable with their bodies and that is a great gift! As for it being a heart thing... I love God and have a heart for serving God's children. I am compassionate and loving and take care of my child. I am, however, still a person. I'm not confident in my looks because of my chest size, and honestly, I am just tired of the fact that being selfconsious can directly affect your mood day to day. I take pride in the fact that I take care of my body (in fact, I think having a surgery to improve the way you look is much less of an issue than letting your health go and staying overweight and not taking control of your exercise and eating...this is much more risky to your health than plastic surgery) , but the size of my breasts has always been an issue for me. As for money. I would never have this procedure if it was going to take food off the table or out of my child's college education! This is absurd. I've been blessed. I got an education and am a successful young woman with a great job and I alone provide financialy for my daughter and myself. I tithe and give to needs I feel called to give to.



LaurainAL -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/12/2008 1:32:03 PM)

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Are you saying that any time a man looks at a woman and lusts, which probably happens about a billion times a minute around the world, it is the women who are to blame?


I hope not. We should not try to entice men, but if they are lustful it is on them.



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/12/2008 1:43:45 PM)

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And even if you mean not to make yourself more attractive to men the thing is, you will. Is that causing a man to stumble?


Yeah, but what about the other stuff women do that makes themselves more attractive to men (which I don't think is a sin anyway)? Some men like lipstick on women or blush, so if we choose to wear those things for ourselves (even if they have the effect of looking more attractive to men), is that a sin? And what about the fetishes that men have? If a woman does something to make a body part look more attractive for HERSELF, should we worry about all of the hundreds of things that every man finds attractive? Don't flaunt it/show it off, etc; otherwise a man's stumbling isn't really having to do with the woman. Women aren't always to blame for men's issues.



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/12/2008 1:57:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: MsSara

I know there are women who are comfortable with their bodies and that is a great gift! I am compassionate and loving and take care of my child. I am, however, still a person. I'm not confident in my looks because of my chest size, and honestly, I am just tired of the fact that being selfconsious can directly affect your mood day to day. I take pride in the fact that I take care of my body (in fact, I think having a surgery to improve the way you look is much less of an issue than letting your health go and staying overweight and not taking control of your exercise and eating...this is much more risky to your health than plastic surgery) , but the size of my breasts has always been an issue for me.


Nobody really knows how you feel except for yourself-- no matter what people say. I truly believe that some women see their chest size as a kind of abnormality, and that can really mess someone up emotionally; nobody wants to feel that way, and not everyone understands the toll it can take on you as you. Some women can deal with it wel; some women just can't. (This, I do know from experience, but every woman, even if they are in the same boat, have different reactions to it.) I understand that you can be getting implants strictly for yourself, and I find that others sometimes can't see that women might get implants for reasons other than male attention and flaunting.

You know how you feel (we don't); if you think this will help you, I say go for it. God knows your motives; he looks inwardly and sees what you intend by getting this surgery. People tend to want to say *I* all the time, as if you should feel the way that they do about their bodies (or small chest, since that's what this thread is about). That is just not true. We may have the same problem, but we all have different feelings and levels of emotion that go along with it.

I'm having some surgery done to improve a part of my body. I don't need it, and no one can really tell it bothers me or is wrong. It affects how I feel as a woman, and no one can understand what that does to me (some women are in the same boat however). I'm doing this for myself, not for anyone else. Albeit, I got this way because of a necessary botched surgery, but if it did not bother me emotionally the way it does, I'd not worry about it and let it go.



HomeSpunLady -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/14/2008 10:21:21 AM)

I am not saying that all women do this intentionally, I'm saying that we need to be careful in how we dress and present ourselves. I realize that the sin is on their part, however, scripture mentions, although I cannot remember where, about causing a weaker brother to stumble. A lot of men are weaker in this point. I had no idea how so, until I had some discussions with my husband. So if we knowingly do something that could cause a weaker brother to stumble, are we sinning then too? I think it's something that needs considered. Just giving you things to consider.



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/14/2008 12:38:59 PM)

If a woman has big breasts and keeps them covered, but weak men still stumble because they are tempted by breasts, there's not much the woman can do about that. (I'm just making a point; I'm not saying that's what you're saying Kathryn.) If a woman wants bigger breasts for whatever reason but keeps them covered, I see it as the same situation. There's a point at which the woman doesn't have fault. Some men find anything attractive (small breasts, large breasts, feet, makeup, etc), but if a woman were to try to accommodate every man's weakness we'd just be in a sack without our faces showing. Just have class with what you have or what you choose to get done.



lilyofthefield -> RE: Boob Jobs (5/14/2008 4:11:52 PM)

Honestly, I don't know. I do think it is very important to make sure the surgery would in no way be to make up for issues that may not really be related to breast size. I think if someone has it done while not emotionally healthy it can often be viewed as any other body dysmorphic disorder.

However, I don't see anything wrong with someone who is self-conscious b/c of very large breasts having a reduction. I don't see anything wrong with someone who is self-conscious b/c of two different sized breasts having surgery. So, really I don't know why this would be any different.



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/15/2008 4:42:07 PM)

I think about that myself. If a woman wants a reduction for non-medical reasons (for aestheic reasons) people don't usually seem to think about it much, but I notice if a woman wants to go bigger (for aesthetic reasons) people do have a problem or think it's for attention, etc. I know not everyone is that way, but a lot of people think about it that way.



Stronger2day -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/16/2008 1:18:02 PM)

While I am sure they exist, I have never met a woman that had a breast reduction for *aesthetic* reasons. It is a MAJOR surgery that is VERY pricey- much more healing time than an augmentation and insurance does not generally cover the procedure. I worry that we sometimes look to the world for our guidelines on looks- everyone is getting one. What happens when small breasts are in style? Take it from somebody whose DDs are hitting her knees! [:)]



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/16/2008 1:21:02 PM)

Maybe not; I do know women who weren't having health problems but just got the reduction simply because they were too big. They had $$ to do so though, and were fine with the risks.



TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/16/2008 3:59:55 PM)

Probably depends on what you consider health problems. If they were just too big, I'm sure they still were hard on the back, even if it wasn't officially a health problem, kwim?



solo_soprano22 -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/16/2008 6:31:25 PM)

I know what you're saying. :) That's why I said it the way I did. There are women who don't have pain or back problems; they just don't like having breasts that are too big (in their opinion). I consider pain from heavy breasts to be a health problem, lol.



TammyIsBlessed -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/16/2008 7:32:40 PM)

Me too!



slushie -> RE: Boob Jobs (6/19/2008 1:38:14 PM)

Oh... what you do is up to you. Just make sure you're well researched, are sure what you're stepping into, and remember you're beautiful no matter what. [:D]


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