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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 4:57:51 PM
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TammyIsBlessed
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Rachel, I love your avator picture!
Can you believe we forgot to take pictures on Mother's Day? 
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:40:10 PM
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Sandy, I was just thinking about you, thinking i hadn't seen you around very much.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:46:55 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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((Sandy)) That must be rough with having the kids. I know when my mom forgets a day or two she becomes quite wonky.
I am not so patiently waiting for an iPod Auction to end 
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:48:38 PM
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I just got off the phone from hubby, the poor guy just seems to get picked on wherever he goes. He is a hard worker, he does things by the book and to others who don't care about their jobs he is a "brown noser" and he makes them look bad because he is working and they aren't. He moved jobs at the start of this year and thought it was going to be wonderful, then they moved him to the workshop where he is encountering a really horrible guy who is telling the boss that he is taking too long on jobs etc etc. I told hubby to not worry about what he is saying and that his boss doens't believe the other guy but he doesn't want to work in that section anymore. He wants to go to the mine section and do shift work 5 days on 5 off, but I don't want him doing night shifts, I see how it ruins family life and church life. What would you do? Would you encourage your hubby to stick it out or would you let him do what he wants to do? I just feel guilty sometimes that he is working hard and he thinks I am doing nothing here at home. 
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:50:13 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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I would let him go where he wants to go, but I also don't think that night shifts ruin family or church life.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:53:30 PM
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Night shift can be rough, Nicole, but so can being at a job you hate. You could remind him that he may just as well find someone even worse at the new shift. Running isn't always the answer. Is there any way he can try to deal with this guy where he is?
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:54:03 PM
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I would let him go where he wants to go, but I also don't think that night shifts ruin family or church life.
i have about 5 friends in church who would beg to differ...
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 7:59:54 PM
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Well, being a godly wife can also mean encouraging him not to run from his problems. He may feel like more of a man if he stands and faces the thorn in his side. If he's emotionally reacting to this guy, then his judgment may not be clear or trustworthy. I think you are being a good wife by raising concerns before he makes the leap to night shift.
My dad worked nights for a time in my childhood. It is not something I'd recommend to most people.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:00:04 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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I would let him go where he wants to go, but I also don't think that night shifts ruin family or church life.
i have about 5 friends in church who would beg to differ...
Having lived that life for the past year, and having Micah work a 12 night, 12 days schedule before that it is definitely doable. What matters the most is the man's determination to do what is best for his family and his relationship with God.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:00:22 PM
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I can see your points about being happier, but like Ruth I think that he is always running from these types of people and running from people who push his buttons without looking at the situation and dealing with whatever needs to be dealt. I have said before that I think God is trying to teach him something about himself, and make him more like Jesus, that didn't help.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:02:40 PM
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Mrs.Wifey
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I have said before that I think God is trying to teach him something about himself, and make him more like Jesus, that didn't help.
You can encourage him not to "run" but you also have to remember that the flip side to that is being willing to support him if he does not make the decision you want for him. We cannot be God to our husbands and we can't force Him down their throats.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:08:50 PM
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Yep I know that Ryanne which is why I am thinking I just need to let him do what he thinks is best, but I am having a hard time with that as I can see more clearly because I am not in the situation. And then there is this part of me that is thinking "he is going to be home during the day and see what I do and pick on me or say I have it easy and make me feel even worse".
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:11:23 PM
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I would let him go where he wants to go, but I also don't think that night shifts ruin family or church life.
i have about 5 friends in church who would beg to differ...
Put me on that list. I hated working nights, although the job duties of the night shift were more peacefull in my profession.
Maybe you can help him write a pro's and con's list if he'd be willing to do that?
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:14:05 PM
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And then there is this part of me that is thinking "he is going to be home during the day and see what I do and pick on me or say I have it easy and make me feel even worse".
Well maybe. And maybe he'll see how much you really do and appreciate you more. I think you are right that nights will not be a good idea. Keeping the kids quiet while he is trying to sleep will be hard.
But try to think positively. If you can't change his mind, then do your best to approach it with a cheerful spirit, 'cause the alternative will only make a bad situation worse.
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RE: SAHM Support Part II - 5/15/2008 8:17:02 PM
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I also don't think that night shifts ruin family or church life.
It depends on the person, I think. Brian has a sleep disorder and cannot tolerate working overnights. Nor can I tolerate him when he does. 
Nicole, I don't know what is best for your family, but if he can tolerate night shift, then 5 days on, 5 off sounds kind of nice.
((((((((((((((Sandy)))))))))))))) Definitely get your refill tomorrow. Sorry for the rotten day.
My mom called and told me my brother is going to county jail for 60 days and has a hefty fine and restitution to pay. This was for a theft charge, and he has two other such charges pending in two other towns so he will probably end up with more time. Mom wants me to go with them to the next court date, when they will probably take him to jail, to plead with the DA to order drug rehab for him. If he doesn't get help, he will do the same thing the second he gets out. And he has a beautiful, innocent daughter who will be 2 in September. I think he is finally seeing the mess he is making of his life though. He's been in trouble for about 10 years now and this is the first jail time he will see. Now I have to tell my kids that Uncle Matt is going to jail. I'm not sorry he is going to jail. He needs to go. It's just hard to see how many people he hurts with this lifestyle.
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