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otis11 -> Need help from strong christian on husband's past infidelity. (5/12/2008 3:17:02 AM)

I need spirtual advice on how to forgive and forget. I have a very interesting story of how I found out about my husban's affair and how I belive God wanted me to Know. Need someone to talk to that's been through it too.



AnnieLaurieLie -> RE: Need help from strong christian on husband's past infidelity. (5/12/2008 2:43:38 PM)

I don't know about giving any guidance, I'm going through this issue myself. But I will pray for you. And I am sorry that you are having to deal with this issue. I don't doubt you'll get a lot of assistance from plenty of people on this site. And I know it helped me to know that I was not alone...and neither are you!



ChoirDJ -> RE: Need help from strong christian on husband's past infidelity. (5/12/2008 3:41:55 PM)

For starters, you'll never be able to forget what happened. However, forgiveness is a fruit of God's Spirit and He gives you the ability to do that. Are you planning on trying to salvage the marriage are do you feel it's time to let go?



mvic -> RE: Need help from strong christian on husband's past infidelity. (5/12/2008 4:45:45 PM)

I very rarely visit the Marriage section of this Forum. Today however I felt drawn to visit and read your post in particular. I don't know why.

First of all I'm truly sorry about the situation you're in. I'm sure all reading your post will pray for you, as I will.

My advice: for what it's worth, is: seek professional help and advice. From a pastor maybe, or marriage guidance counsellor or such like. These people can truly help.

You'll get plenty of advice from friends, relatives, people on this Forum and so on. Some good advice, some not so good. But at the end of the day remember that the decision on what to do next is yours and yours alone.

Forgiving and forgetting will be very difficult. Believe me. But with constant prayers and time the hurt caused to you will ease.

Good luck and God bless.



futuremartyr -> RE: Need help from strong christian on husband's past infidelity. (5/12/2008 4:53:48 PM)

Forgiveness is a commandment. Although from my own life it's hard to forgive at times. Hope these resources will help you.
Has his sin been made known to the elders of your church?
Is he still living at home with you?
Do you want to restore?
Is he repentant?
link=http://marital separation :is it ever biblical?]cafebiblia.com/?cat=23[/link]
www.desiringgod.org/ResourceLibrary/Sermons/ByTopic/45/2000_Marriage_Forgiving_and_Forbearing/
Your husband needs to get your trust back, if he plans to save this marriage. You need to have access to all phone bills, emails he has access to. If he is repentant he will not have a problem with winning back your trust.
Guess I should ask is he a believer?
It is very important for you both to go to biblical marriage counseling whether he is a believer or not.
pm if you have any questions.
www.familylife.com/weekend



midwestmom26 -> RE: Need help from strong christian on husband's past infidelity. (5/12/2008 5:29:30 PM)

I share a similar situation and wondered if you felt like sharing the "interesting" story of how you found out. I kept finding out over and over again, and a relative told me that I was on a need to know basis and that I needed to know. I do believe it was God's will for me to keep stumbling onto things.

You must remember that with prayer and commitment, and MUCH patience and forgiveness, your marriage can be healed and be even stronger than it was before.

PRAY, PRAY, PRAY!

God Bless you!



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