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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - We now return to our reg... - 6/30/2008 12:58:53 PM
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skreyola
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It's hard to know who is available. I never know if a woman is married (don't want to ask her), bitter/anti-male (men like to avoid having their heads ripped off), going steady, or actually available and open to being approached.
Well, you need to hang out in situations where you get to know people well enough to know these details (work, church, recreational club..like an art club). If you want to meet people on the spot, you have to get up the courage to just ask.
Uh, yeah. Please forgive me if I sound rude, but we were talking about approaching people we don't know. If you are in my circle of movement, then the discussion doesn't apply, because you're not a stranger. And if you're not in my circle of movement, how am I supposed to find out these things?
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - So, uh.... - 6/30/2008 1:21:27 PM
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ShallbeRebuilt
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ORIGINAL: skreyola
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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels
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It's hard to know who is available. I never know if a woman is married (don't want to ask her), bitter/anti-male (men like to avoid having their heads ripped off), going steady, or actually available and open to being approached.
Well, you need to hang out in situations where you get to know people well enough to know these details (work, church, recreational club..like an art club). If you want to meet people on the spot, you have to get up the courage to just ask.
Uh, yeah. Please forgive me if I sound rude, but we were talking about approaching people we don't know. If you are in my circle of movement, then the discussion doesn't apply, because you're not a stranger. And if you're not in my circle of movement, how am I supposed to find out these things?
Ok, let me offer a solution. Let's say you are in proximity with a group of people, some of whom you know and some you don't, and there are a few about whom you would like to find out some of this information. I'm assuming you are in proximity (a party, at work, etc.) or you wouldn't even know you might be interested in that person.
You can try to find someone among your acquaintances in the room and ask them for more information.
You can do the above and also ask for an introduction to the person of interest.
You can simply make your way over to the person and strike up a conversation. I know people who do this in every gathering, not necessarily because they are interested in the person with romance in mind, but simply because they are interested in people in general. Watching these people, I am amazed at the amount of information they can garner in a short period of time from a perfect stranger. My dad is one of them: I've had and have now other friends in my life whom I admire this gift in.
Perhaps you know someone like this. Watch them work...how do they approach the person of interest? What is it that puts the total stranger at ease enough to share this very personal information with another complete stranger?
I personally think this is a really good skill to have because it can often be used as a ministry. People with this skill really care about the people they are talking to, and they want to help. I've been helped by people like this myself.
So, Skrey...what's to lose? Yeah, ok...so you might get your head ripped off by some anti-male-type-female-person. If this happens you can chalk it up to suffering for the cause of Christ, learn from it, and go on. You'll be picking up a skill that will help you minister to others as well as assist you in finding that special lady God has for you.
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - So, uh.... - 6/30/2008 2:05:50 PM
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Happy (belated) Birthday Gary x9(not sure what itto that would be)!
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - Who are you, and what do... - 6/30/2008 2:07:38 PM
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skreyola
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ORIGINAL: besiderself
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ORIGINAL: skreyola
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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels
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It's hard to know who is available. I never know if a woman is married (don't want to ask her), bitter/anti-male (men like to avoid having their heads ripped off), going steady, or actually available and open to being approached.
Well, you need to hang out in situations where you get to know people well enough to know these details (work, church, recreational club..like an art club). If you want to meet people on the spot, you have to get up the courage to just ask.
Uh, yeah. Please forgive me if I sound rude, but we were talking about approaching people we don't know. If you are in my circle of movement, then the discussion doesn't apply, because you're not a stranger. And if you're not in my circle of movement, how am I supposed to find out these things?
Ok, let me offer a solution. Let's say you are in proximity with a group of people, some of whom you know and some you don't, and there are a few about whom you would like to find out some of this information. I'm assuming you are in proximity (a party, at work, etc.) or you wouldn't even know you might be interested in that person.
So, Skrey...what's to lose? Yeah, ok...so you might get your head ripped off by some anti-male-type-female-person. If this happens you can chalk it up to suffering for the cause of Christ, learn from it, and go on. You'll be picking up a skill that will help you minister to others as well as assist you in finding that special lady God has for you.
That solution falls into the category of being in my sphere of movement, i.e., places where I normally go and therefore know people. 
I think the big question is about, for example, people-I-see-at-the-store, whom I don't know and don't have the leisure of observing for any length of time (without the risk of being escorted out by security). How do I find out if that interesting woman is married or available, preferably without seeming like a creep for accosting her without an excuse? (for the benefit of those with limited vocabulary, to accost simply means to approach and speak to first).
Besiderself, I do realize that I am missing out on many possibilities by being such a coward, but I don't think it helps anyone to simply (as some do, not talking about you here) try to play off approaching strangers as easier than we think it is. It's very hard, and it makes us feel foolish.
As to suffering for the cause of Christ,  I have a hard time thinking of getting a date as being the cause of Christ, however it may be for leading to bigger and better and nobler things. hehehe
But mainly, this isn't about me. It's about the difficulty all single-and-looking men and women have in finding other singles. It seems like it would be easier. We know they are out there. It's just hard to find them.
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - Who are you, and what do... - 6/30/2008 2:33:14 PM
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trainfan
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ORIGINAL: skreyola
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ORIGINAL: besiderself
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ORIGINAL: skreyola
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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels
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It's hard to know who is available. I never know if a woman is married (don't want to ask her), bitter/anti-male (men like to avoid having their heads ripped off), going steady, or actually available and open to being approached.
Well, you need to hang out in situations where you get to know people well enough to know these details (work, church, recreational club..like an art club). If you want to meet people on the spot, you have to get up the courage to just ask.
Uh, yeah. Please forgive me if I sound rude, but we were talking about approaching people we don't know. If you are in my circle of movement, then the discussion doesn't apply, because you're not a stranger. And if you're not in my circle of movement, how am I supposed to find out these things?
Ok, let me offer a solution. Let's say you are in proximity with a group of people, some of whom you know and some you don't, and there are a few about whom you would like to find out some of this information. I'm assuming you are in proximity (a party, at work, etc.) or you wouldn't even know you might be interested in that person.
So, Skrey...what's to lose? Yeah, ok...so you might get your head ripped off by some anti-male-type-female-person. If this happens you can chalk it up to suffering for the cause of Christ, learn from it, and go on. You'll be picking up a skill that will help you minister to others as well as assist you in finding that special lady God has for you.
That solution falls into the category of being in my sphere of movement, i.e., places where I normally go and therefore know people.
I think the big question is about, for example, people-I-see-at-the-store, whom I don't know and don't have the leisure of observing for any length of time (without the risk of being escorted out by security). How do I find out if that interesting woman is married or available, preferably without seeming like a creep for accosting her without an excuse? (for the benefit of those with limited vocabulary, to accost simply means to approach and speak to first).
Besiderself, I do realize that I am missing out on many possibilities by being such a coward, but I don't think it helps anyone to simply (as some do, not talking about you here) try to play off approaching strangers as easier than we think it is. It's very hard, and it makes us feel foolish.
As to suffering for the cause of Christ, I have a hard time thinking of getting a date as being the cause of Christ, however it may be for leading to bigger and better and nobler things. hehehe
But mainly, this isn't about me. It's about the difficulty all single-and-looking men and women have in finding other singles. It seems like it would be easier. We know they are out there. It's just hard to find them.
I have to agree with Skrey on this one. I can talk to anyone in my store male or female regardless of how attractive (or not) they are. I could do the same thing at my old job b/c I had something to talk about in both venues. Approaching a woman ouotside of my comfort zone is skeery, I have no idea what to say. This maybe a good idea for a new thread. 
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - Who are you, and what do... - 6/30/2008 8:19:21 PM
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Sorry I'm so late on the birthday greetings Gary.....but......
Happy Happy!!!!
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - So, uh.... - 6/30/2008 8:58:53 PM
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i DO have hotpads........but only cuz i exchanged a more domestic gift my mom got me for christmas (with her permission, of course). they are a beautiful red...to match the placemats i bought (which was really all i cared about....cuz they're pretty mexican-y striped and make my nasty 70s kitchen look more tolerable).
i also have.........are you sitting down?..............2....no, ladies and gentlemen....not one...but 2.... pans now! one super-sized skillet w/ a glass lid (as if i know how to cook anything that would need covered. that stumped me tonight even. but i covered my 1 piece of chicken just for fun.) and a itty-bitty "display" pot (1 qt maybe?.....my mom works at an appliance store, so she gave it to me after they were done with it).
at least this apartment came with a stove. the last little farmhouse i rented had no appliances. i didn't buy a stove til i'd lived there 3 months! lol (and i didn't even really buy it....my mom couldn't stand it any more, so they brought a used one out one night...as a surprise.)
just call me betty!
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - So, uh.... - 6/30/2008 9:25:09 PM
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you live near your momma?
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RE: June Singles Chat Thread - So, uh.... - 6/30/2008 9:27:25 PM
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humbleinspirit
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Good evening everyone!
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ORIGINAL: Grace-N-Mercy
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ORIGINAL: skreyola
It's hard to know who is available. I never know if a woman is married (don't want to ask her), bitter/anti-male (men like to avoid having their heads ripped off), going steady, or actually available and open to being approached.
A lot of women make a sport out of battering men, so a lot of us tend to not approach women we don't know.
Yes, I know that's cowardly, but that's life. So sometimes, we need a little nudge that our advances would be welcomed.
True, but that only works when the guy WANTS to make advances. How do WE know when to give you guys a nudge? It's not easy when you guys run for the hills every time we smile at ya!!!  But this is a topic for another thread... forgive me.
Run for the hills, are you serious? I love it when a woman smiles at me!
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To comment on to the topic of yesterday. I am now 58 years old. I have never been married and I do no know if I will ever be. But I intend to enjoy everything God gives me and enjoy life. This trip this weekend and the Singles GT earlier in the month were opportunities that arouse and I took advantage of them to meet some people from the threads, go to some country I have not been to before and to enjoy myself.
Really Gary, you're 58? I thought that you were younger for some reason. Also, since I missed your birthday let me wish you a very Happy Belated Birthday as well!
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will y'all join me in a moment of silence?
i just used my stove for the 3rd time since i moved in here...in mid-december! (giggle)
thank you.
Now Kimberly, you're bad, lol!
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That's funny Kimberly! Do you at least have hot pads? A few years ago I tried to help a male friend of mine learn the art of hosting a party at his home. I had a whole bunch of hot potatoes baking in the oven and I go looking for a hot pad to take them out and he didn't have any because I was the first person who ever used his oven....after living there for 3 years! He had to give my his snowmobile gloves to use as hot pads. That memory always cracks me up!
Oh my, I still do not have any hot pads! I have learned in the past that they are very handy to have though.
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