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RE: Military wives support - 8/24/2008 11:38:58 PM
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IAMJulie
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Thanks. I think I needed to hear someone confirm my thoughts. Poor thing does look for her Daddy everywhere. Finds him in the strangest places too, like the motorcyclist we saw on the highway the other day and Walmart. I guess you can find everything you need there. 
Right after I posted the first post about the plug I caught my 4 year old sucking his thumb - he's NEVER sucked his thumb EVER! Then as I was thinking about editing my post Zion gagged herself with a plastic spoon she was playing with and actually THREW UP. I was nursing Gideon, of course, so I had to pop him off to clean it up and boy was he mad! Screamed the whole time. *sigh* They are in bed now.  I'm going to make myself a cup of tea and think about tapping into my secret goodie stash.
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RE: Military wives support - 8/25/2008 1:23:03 AM
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IAMJulie
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Ahh, yes I feel much better now. A nice hot cup of orange tea and an orange cupcake (Hostess - hubby mails them to me when he travels because they don't sell them in WA anymore, what a guy!).
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RE: Military wives support - 8/25/2008 7:16:16 PM
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we usually only do bandaids for bleeding boo boos- this was a minor scrape and not bleeding. I'd have told him to put on his big boy scivvies and get over it myself. BUT as 14.5yo is here and in charge those hours it'd be one of those battles that he really shouldn't have to fight- give the silly 5yo 10yo boy a bandaid then put him on the couch.
10yo son #3 will be 11 chronologically in november and on a good day really is =closer to 7 or 8. He is genuinely developmentally delayed
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RE: Military wives support - 8/26/2008 12:06:29 AM
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IAMJulie
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Ezri, do you have a local support group regarding your children with special needs? My sister works for her county's ARC and has been in charge of mentor family's, sib shops, Parent to Parent, that sort of thing. I've had the pleasure of helping out with some of the events that she's put on.
Today I signed us up at the local Y. I was told that they have a 50% discount for military families. Well, it turns out they only have that arrangement with the local base, which is not our parent command, and don't do it for others. Bummer. :( But at least they do waive the sign up fees for all military families so at least I saved $100 there. Now I'm trying to figure out their class schedule and registration system. I think I need at least two college degrees for this.
As for bandaids, my Gabe was terrified of them for a long time. Even if he needed one he would scream and cry if I tried to put one on. The couple of times that I've put them on Zion she just peels them off in a few minutes. Weirdos.
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RE: Military wives support - 8/26/2008 10:24:18 AM
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ezri
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We have the church, and the home school support group. We are an hour from the nearest actual base/post.(sorry, I grew up on navy bases so I label them all thus.)
Honey is back on the Pre-Deployment Site Survey team... again. I figure that will probably change a few more times before they actually get on the plane to go. (9 more days)
Special needs children-
#3 son. We were blessed by God thru the miracle of adoption. #3 son came to us at age 5 with a tackle box full of meds and a list of acronyms as long as my left arm. Night Terrors, Depression, Anxiety disorder, ADHD, ODD... being DXed with Dysthimia(chronic mild depression) myself years ago and being on meds and off meds for depression I looked at this 5yo who had been in "care" since he was 1.5yo and had 6 different foster parents and decided we were going to wean off the meds. ALL the meds. We did and underneath was a little boy.
Yes, hyper- he had come through 5 years with little or no constant boundaries and had learned to "just do it"
Yes, disobedient- again, no consistent parenting.
as for the depression & anxiety... I had a bout where they increased my depression meds and it had caused me to start having panic attacks. If you read the side affects for the med I was taking anxiety was one of those listed. Even more crazy- depression is one of the side affects listed on the anxiety med they gave me. So I prayed that was the issue for this little boy too. We weaned back and what do you know, he was fine without them... better with out them.
night terrors. Again the med they had him on for that had depression as a side so we gave that up. I would say those are associated with stress and security for him. he still has them from time to time but usually only when something major is happening.
I knew he was a young 5 when he came to us. His elder biological sister fostered this behavior by carryin' him around (even at age 5) on her hip like a baby. It was a sad situation.
five years later: he has made progress each year. but not a full years progress. I'd say about a half year. So that'd put him at 7.5yo. A girlfriend asked me once how old he was back in may. I asked her how old she thought he was. Her answer? "I'd say 7 or 8" MmmHmmm.
#4 son is 18 months younger than #3 son, he has mild Cerebral Palsy. He is 9--- he has his own special needs but when I stand them side by side #3 son brings more concern.
We work with #3 son by maintaining strong boundaries with natural consequences, avoiding "toxic" people(folks that fail to understand his need for the boundaries and consequences and allow themselves to be manipulated by him), Keeping a "schedule" of sorts so he knows what is next.
I am currently trying to be more positive. I have been major league stressed myself and had just as soon look at him and snap that he made his bed he has to sleep in it than try to point out the good choice he missed out on making.
I could go on for hours but I am gonna stop now.
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RE: Military wives support - 8/26/2008 2:52:24 PM
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Ezri, we live an hour away from BASE as well. "Post" was a new word for me that I learned through friends who are stationed at Ft. Lewis nearby. We, however, are also Navy (though now we're also Army, it's weird) so I always say "base", too.
Are you familiar with the ARC? I put the link in my previous post. You may get good support from your others sources but like you said, there's something about being around people who understand and are not "toxic". My sister's ARC has things like Lego Club and other activities where the kids can be around others like them and not feel misunderstood or judged. They also put on activities for siblings and, of course, parents. Just a thought.
My parents were foster parents when I was young and we adopted my younger brother through the foster system. He has Fetal Alcohol Syndrome. My parents, sadly, were the type to use medications for everything. Meds to make him calm during the day, meds to make him sleep at night, meds for this, meds for that. Never, ever teaching him how to deal with the symptoms of FAS or how to be a responsible adult. I wish they had been more like you and handled him differently. Anyway, he just turned 25. Love him dearly but boy can he be a challenge to be around sometimes.
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RE: Military wives support - 8/27/2008 5:29:31 PM
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How often do you guys send care packages and letters? Rob has been gone almost a month and I've only sent one package and no letters. I do e-mail sometimes and we get to talk daily so far. Part of me feels that is enough and part of me feels guilty for not getting more in the actual mail.
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RE: Military wives support - 8/27/2008 8:31:51 PM
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ezri
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((((Harvie&Honey)))))
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RE: Military wives support - 8/29/2008 2:10:49 AM
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IAMJulie
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Man, Harvie, I'm sorry. I suppose it's little consolation that it's "only" 3 months. What a bummer.
And, YIKES, Harvey! Seriously, 7 cards and 1-2 packages a WEEK! OK, I officially feel terrible. Before when he was on subs we couldn't communicate that much. I'd write a little on a letter each night and then mail a bunch of them around mail drop time. We only sent packages once per/deployment because that was all we were allowed. Back then I didn't have kids so I probably could have put together a letter a day and a package a week but not now. I hope hubby doesn't feel too bad.
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RE: Military wives support - 8/29/2008 10:30:07 PM
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IAMJulie
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I'll only feel a little bad about not sending him more mail. :)
Sandy, that's exciting news that his deployment was shortened. I hope it doesn't change as well. My DH's orders are written currently for 270 days with, of course, the little disclaimer that it could be up to 420. I hope that his don't change!
Just a question for you guys who blog. What do you write about your hubbies as far as details go? I'm getting mixed messages about what I can reveal. I wouldn't write about dates of movement though DH is on a Provincial Reconstruction Team so it's not as if his movements carry the same significance as others' might. But what about country and area, that sort of thing?
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