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LMKH -> My dh really hates Christians (6/11/2008 2:05:57 AM)
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Thing is, when we met, dh and I were both middle of the ground Christians...or so he said. But I was raised with a tolerance for other people's religions and to always be kind and mind myself instead of meddling in others business and so on. My dh, on the other hand, was raised in a very angry home. He was not raised in a home with a lot of drinking, drugs, foul language, gambling, and even sleeping around. He was adopted and his adoptive mother has always held over his head that he owes her for adopting him. She has always made it clear that adoptees are defects and that he will never be able to do enough to pay her back and so on and so forth. I have always been kind to her, but my inside opinion of her is extremely low.
Back to DH. He hates Christian with an extreme passion. He will make the ugliest face and say the word "Christians" in a dramatic strung out way with the utmost hatred and contempt for us. He has informed me that I am not really a "Christian" because there areno such things, just frauds who use the term against others. I can honestly see how his adoptive mother used religion against him. She herself has been having an affair, drinking heaving, using drugs, would beat my dh horribly with a belt when he was growing up and so on. But then she goes to Catholic church and donates money and then informs DH that she will go theaven because she is favored due to giving this money (this is technically not an official teaching of the Catholic church, but she claims it is). She has informed DH of things such as he will go to hell for not obeying or serving her (he and I have been married 14 yrs and it angers her that he does stuff like attends the birth of our child instead of flying off on a vacation with her, etc). She claims God put mother and son together and that I have come between them so I am going to hell. You get the idea. So basically, she has sold him a line of goods that she speaks for God and I believe his rejection of God and Jesus and Christianity has more to do with this than anything else.
No point for family counseling. He also will not step foot in to a church as he feels everyone there is going to hex him or something. He tries to claim, in front of our children, that "Christians" do not believe there is a moon or otherwise but rather that the sky is a tapestry of dots put there to fool us by God. He will pound in to the children that Creationists are fools and so on.
Ok..our children are older and our oldest is tired of hearing him spout off. Our 2nd born knows to be respectful (they both do) but has grown to think her dad is really dumb and rude. Frankly, his behavior is seriously wrong. 3 outof our 4 children are receiving Christian educations. DH refused to smile or be happy for our 6 yr old at his kindergarten graduation recently because he just kept saying how disgusted he was at the "Christians" in the building. Our son was attending a Christian school in a Christian church.
I am so frustrated!! I am most frustrated when dh gets in to my face and yells at me and spouts off his anger toward Christians. I do not see why he has to attack like this.
At this point, I arm my children with plenty of info. I want them to know the facts.
I do want to add that 3 yrs ago, I was a die hard evolutionist. But a kind teenager boy at the bookstore said a few things to me that changed my life around. I heard what he said and thought about it and it was a major turning point in my life. I wish I knew who that boy was. It was a bookstore in Lewisville Texas.
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