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CoeurdeLeon_ -> RE: The PFY Book Club (7/26/2008 7:32:10 PM)
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One of the worst years of my life was the one in which I couldn't even talk to my best friend much less confide in her. I was trying desperately to hold my marriage together while my husband headed further and further down the road toward adultery. I could see it coming and was helpless to stop it. My best friend dealt with my husband at work and she could see what was happening, too. But I couldn't talk to her about it because I knew what she'd say (and she'd have been right, too) and I was trying so hard to hold everything together, including myself. There was no where to put the pain and I did emotional damage to myself by keeping it bottled up.
I'll never keep quiet like that again. I think one of the hardest things for Christian women to deal with is the guilt they feel for having pain. If we really were a good Christian, there would be nothing but joy, right? Wrong. Telling someone else lets us confirm that there's a legitimate reason for the hurt and that we aren't a lousy Christian. And once we are healed, we have untold depths of empathy for others. We can be a safe place for someone else to lay down the burden of their pain. That's one of the many ways God turns our pain into something good that glorifies Him.
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