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deermousie -> RE: Soliciting encouragement (6/14/2008 12:02:51 PM)
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OK, so the guy is a lying, porn-grubbing adulterer who doesn't provide for his family - God says:
1 Timothy 5:8
But if anyone does not provide for his own, and especially for those of his household, he has denied the faith and is worse than an unbeliever.
What does God do with unbelievers? Uh-huh. Now what will He do with someone WORSE than an unbeliever? Think that through.
Now look at God's "bad list":
Now the works of the flesh are evident, which are: adultery, fornication, uncleanness, lewdness, 20 idolatry, sorcery, hatred, contentions, jealousies, outbursts of wrath, selfish ambitions, dissensions, heresies, 21 envy, murders, drunkenness, revelries, and the like; of which I tell you beforehand, just as I also told you in time past, that those who practice such things will not inherit the kingdom of God.
Gal. 5
This guy is in deep trouble. I think the "beautiful, Christian woman" is probably not what she appears (or is this just his report? He's a liar, remember); it's possible and very likely she's as much as a fraud as he is and he's finally found his match. And it wasn't made in heaven.
If he hasn't confessed his sin to you and told you he had turned from it and returned to being a good husband to you, and quit the porn, lying, financial mismanagement and not taking care of your kid, then you have good reason to believe he's still in deep sin and denying it. Oh, ho, there *will* be justice. And consequences, but they will be in God's timing. Ta_mosquito nailed it with Psalm 73, so go read it if you haven't already.
God bless you, dear one. Even if you were struggling with issues that were hard for him, TOUGH! That's why he made vows to you before God "in good times and bad times, in sickness and in health, for better or worse." You meant them, he flagrantly violated them over and over. His new wife has great misery ahead.
And you got your heart broken. (((Hugs))) Cry, grieve, mourn that your husband was an unfaithful excuse of a man. Then thank God for His goodness even if no one else is good to you. Pull up your socks, hug that kid who lost her father and has had to watch her mother die a little inside, and the two of you make a good life together. Get a big bad lawyer and sue the guy for support. Cut off his visitation if you can, as his sexual problems can contaminate here.
Pray that God will heal you and heal your broken little kid, because it has been worse for her: her life split apart, she lost dad and for a while lost her mom. Lean heavily on your family to help you if you can, or on your church family. Get counseling from your pastor if he's good at it, and join a divorce recovery group. Solicit help for your kid, and ask moms to let her come play with their kids. Take interesting trips or visit places she likes. Give your heart and hers time to mend. Your focus is now a fatherless child and she needs you desparately; help her all you can.
Look at 1 Corinthians 7, especially verse 15.
God bless you, dear one. May He heal you and raise you up, glorious in His love and grace. And may He provide a *real* Christian husband for you when you've healed. I am praying for you today. (((Hugs)))
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