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Quayla349 -> bestfriends to dating to bestfriends again.. can it work? (6/16/2008 10:33:25 AM)
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Okay this is kinda like a complicated thing to explain, but I'll try explaining it so you can understand.
My best friend and I have been bestfriends since probably a month before our freshman year started. I have liked him since the end of the 8th. So it wasn't very long after the fact that we became close. Turned about last summer, he felt the same about me. We talked about our relationship and whether or not that was best. I have kept the mindset since I was younger that I didn't want to play the dating game and if I was to go out with somebody, I would want for him to be my husband. He was on the same page as well and wanted for his next gf to be his wife. I talked to my parents about the situation, my mom seemed fine with it, but my dad seemed a little hesitant. One for the fact that I have never talked about liking boys a day in my life. Two, it seemed like my mind was completely submerged in basketball and boys were the very last thing on the list. And Three, he didn't feel as though the timing was right. I was 15 at the time. After a little while, my dad and mom both agreed that it was okay for us to be together. Everything seemed to go okay, but right before we hit 9 months, my parents then felt as though they should establish a "no boyfriend" rule. Its pretty much established til I'm 18... or out the house.. pretty much. I had to be obedient, so I called him the following week, and explained it to him. He perfectly understood, and we agreed about a month later that the decision that my parents have made was best for us because we both noticed that our relationship with God wasn't nearly as strong as it was when we first started going out. So we pretty much settled it. I went through I lot of pain at first. I would cry several times. I've finally adjusted to the situation and I've made the decision that I wasn't going to date anymore, even after the rule my parents have made is no longer held over me. If we get back together, Its better for it to be engagement, when we are actually old enough to marry.
I had said all of that basically to start of with this,
I want to remain close friends with him, but it seems like we are getting more distant as time progresses. Something that I wanted to avoid when I first started liking him and we became close. I never wanted our friendship to be jeoprodized. Now I probably only talk to him two or three times a week. I only see him at church. But when I see him, I maybe only talk to him for like ten minutes then one of us has to go. A few times a only see him but never get the chance to talk to him. I'm not allowed to talk to him on the phone, so its pretty much through instant messaging that we communicate. But when we talk, sometimes it seems as though he doesn't have any interest in talking to me. There were also many times I regret not waiting to go out with him because our friendship is very valuable to me. You know how you find a really good friend, someone who builds you up spiritually, makes you feel like you're the best, and you never want to lose him/her. That's how he is to me. I don't want to lose his friendship. Even if we never get back together.
I want to talk to him about it. But I can't seem to find the words to say, the courage to say them, or the opportunity.
Its something that is driving me off the wall. At first everything was going great since we broke up. My relationship with God has gotten so much stronger. My spiritual eyes have widened. I have gotten to a point where I was addicted to my friend, but then I became delivered from the addiction. Everything was good, but then all of a sudden it collapses on me. I don't know what to do, or how to talk to him. What should I do?
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