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willfs -> How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 11:43:38 AM)

Any one have some experience with something like this?



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 12:04:45 PM)

Not very. [sm=aside.gif]

Too many red flags IMO.



CoeurdeLeon -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 3:31:43 PM)

Bad idea! Bad....just bad.[sm=icon_smile_boggled.gif]



BugLady -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 3:53:52 PM)

Don't. Do. It. [sm=shakinghead.gif]



trainfan -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 3:54:59 PM)

I'll ditto the other 3 responses. Bad idea.



willfs -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 5:02:11 PM)

Why?



trainfan -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 5:29:45 PM)

It is a conflict of interest for your father. What if he had to let her go or she messed up at work and he had to repremand her for it? She may expect special treatment b/c she is dating the bosses son. What if you dated for a while and then broke up with her? What if she broke up with you? Would your father take it out on her if she did?

Like Tink said, too many red flags.



CoeurdeLeon -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 5:51:17 PM)

Like Trainfan said, too much potential for problems for everyone...you, her, your dad. It's almost inevitable that something bad will come out of it.



utilityfielder -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 6:40:07 PM)

I agree with the everybody else.

This has disaster written all over it.



BugLady -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 6:51:46 PM)

That's right. Disaster. It has all the earmarks of made for tv movie. [;)]



IceQueen15 -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 7:01:40 PM)

my mom is a secretary.



BugLady -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 7:08:49 PM)

As long as she doesn't work for willfs' dad, she can go out with him. We're not advocating any kind of widespread ban on dating secretaries. Are we?



IceQueen15 -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 7:12:25 PM)

my mom is a secretary and my dad is a pastor ^_^
<-- Pastor's Kid/Daughter [:)]



BugLady -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 7:14:30 PM)

Well, that clears that up then, HBA. Willfs cannot date your mother. But he can date a secretary as long as she doesn't work for his father.



utilityfielder -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 7:26:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: BugLady

Well, that clears that up then, HBA. Willfs cannot date your mother. But he can date a secretary as long as she doesn't work for his father.



And he cannot date a secretary if she is married.



BugLady -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 7:31:45 PM)

Right. But we have nothing against secretaries in general. [:)]



IceQueen15 -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/16/2008 8:02:24 PM)

i might be a seacatary next when i get older. heh heh well actually i might be driving first watch out everybody i might be on the road next year or this year. but only the Lord knows.. heh heh.



willfs -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/17/2008 12:13:13 AM)

Thanks. All of the concerns mentioned in this thread are very valid.... maybe if she moves on to work for someone else... maybe.



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/17/2008 1:56:36 AM)

Well, I guess I am going to be the lone ranger here. On the one hand, I think all the concerns are legitimate. On the other hand, I have met plenty of happily married couples who have met in such a way. I would hate for you to lose out on "TRUE LOVE" just because it's politically correct.

I wonder if you could date her, but establish some guidelines, keep work and dating separate/don't send flowers at work, etc.



iwillfearnoevil -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/18/2008 11:38:00 AM)

i wouldn't say no right away as i didnt' see enough info for me to give a suggestion. does she work in your dad's office and secretary to the whole office? if so, how big is the office? or is it your dad's personal secretary? does your dad own the company or just work there. what does your dad say or do you only have a crush? if it's a big company, it's possible she could even transfer to another department, etc if a relationship ever developed. i wouldn't necessarily rule it out right away :)



willfs -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/19/2008 10:13:49 AM)

She is my Dad's personal secretary. Those two are the only ones that really work there, except for a few part time. My Dad is the Ceo. She isn't there permanently though.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/19/2008 10:14:49 AM)

My suggestion would be, wait until she's gone then persue her if you're still interested. Definitely a conflict of interests until them. *huggles*



Focusing -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (6/19/2008 11:16:08 AM)

I don't have any experience with this ... but I don't think it would be wise.



willfs -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (8/7/2008 12:23:39 PM)

For those who think it unwise, could you give the reasons. She will be quitting my dad's job this winter to move on to another career (after graduating college). I don't know if I want to wait because I fear she might be snactched up by another guy while I wait around for her to quit my dad's office.



iwillfearnoevil -> RE: How smart is it to date my father's secretary? (8/7/2008 2:28:56 PM)

seriously go for it will! it's been almost two months, have you learned any more about her?



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