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hisglory7 -> pregnant wife angry husband (6/16/2008 7:01:44 PM)

hello everyone, i just need some opinions from you guys here. My husband and i have been back together since february of this year after a 17 mnth seperation. We have a 4 yr old and he will be 5 next month. We were not trying to get pregnant,but I got pregnant. my husband seems to be very angry because he thinks that this is gonna slow our plans down for the future. He make me feel like its my fault that we got pregnant. im at a place where i am just extremlely disappointed with him because i thought he grown to a point where we understand that these things are completely left up to God. Im hurt yes but more than anything disappointed because im starting to feel like this is really going to bring more strife in our marriage. It been a week since we found out and he is barely speeking to me. i just feel like this brought a side out in him that i thought was gone but apparently its still here. i just need some advice has anyone ever experienced this?



manda59 -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (6/16/2008 7:13:35 PM)

Have you two received, or are you receiving, any counselling?



betterisoneday -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (6/16/2008 8:25:24 PM)

Sorry, no advice really. I've lived through almost this exact situation, so here's a hug ((((hisglory7)))). Remember to take care of yourself, ie eat right and such to keep the baby and you healthy.



PrincessDonna -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (6/16/2008 8:54:05 PM)

Just trying to get more info to help us give our thoughts and ideas...

Why were you separated in the first place?

Did you have an agreement that pregnancy would be left to God (no birth control) or did your husband want you to try to prevent?

What are his reasons for having wanted you to not be pregnant?

And Manda's question...have you had any counseling at all?



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3tulips -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (6/17/2008 4:37:01 PM)

It is a shock to him and he needs time to get used to it, is my guess. Give him that time. Love him and pray for him.



KPOP -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (7/4/2008 6:23:40 AM)

HI THERE.

I AM IN DANGER HERE -- THEY MIGHT KICK ME OUT

BUT THIS IS WHAT I THINK

I THINK YOUR HUSBAND IS CONCERN THAT THE BABY WILL TAKE HIS PLACE

I MEAN YOU WERE SEPARATED AND NOW BACK TOGETHER AND NOW YOUR ARE PREGNAT

PROBABLY HE IS STILL TRYING TO GET USED TO YOU AGAIN

BUT WHY DON'T YOU ASK HIM

DO NOT BLAME EACH OTHER THAT YOU ARE BOTH PREGNANT

JUST ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE PREGNANT

YOU CANNOT ABORT FOR SURE -- IT IS LEGAL TO ABORT-- BUT YOU WILL NOT LIKE TO ABORT YOUR BABY UNLESS IT IS A LIFETHRENING ISSUE AND IT IN DANGERS YOUR LIFE

SO BOTH YOU AND HIM NEED TO ACCEPT THAT YOU ARE BOTH PREGNANT AND FACE RESPONSIBILITY OVER THE BABY

BUT IF YOU ARE WORRIED ABOUT FINANCES -- THEN THAT IS A PROBLEM

IT IS GOOD -- TO FIGHT THIS TOGETHER -- THE FINANCIAL PART

ME AND MY HUSBAND LEARNED TO TRUST IN GOD TO FIGHT OUR FINANCES

SOMETIMES GOT HELPS US VIA RELATIVES --

LATELY THOUGH WE HAD TO RELY ON OUR OWN AND WITH WHATEVER MONEY WE HAVE

AND GOD PROVIDED

WE ARE NOT YET AT THE POINT TO RUN TO MOMMY AND DADDY IF WE HAVE PROBLEMS

MY HUSBAND AND I ARE STILL TRYING TO WORK ON OUR OWN WITH LITTLE HELPS AND A LOT OF HELP FROM GOD

SO THAT IS ONE THING PERHAPS YOUR HUSBAND IS CONCERN AS WELL IS FINANCIALS

AND ALSO PERHAPS HE FEELS THAT YOU ALREADY HAVE ENOUGH KIDS

BUT YOU CANNOT YOUR NEW BABY BE ADOPTED

SO IF YOU ARE AT THE STAGE TO RUN TO MOMMY AND DADDY FOR FINANCES OR HELP

THEN THAT IS WHAT YOU NEED TO DO

BUT THAT IS THE LAST RESORT

BUT YOU NEED TO ASK YOUR HUSBAND WHILE HE IS BLAMING YOU FOR BEING PREGNANT

HE MIGHT HAVE SOME INSECURITIES

AND PRAY

I WILL PRAY FOR YOU

TAKE CARE

KATHY



jaimestarcross -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (7/8/2008 3:15:56 PM)

That side of him is never gone(while in this body) --- it's controlled by him relying upon God to be at the stirring wheel of his life... and he (your husband) is focused on
living out his life by following the Lord.

I experience the "me" wanting to be in control/charge instead
of me depending/relying upon the Lord and trusting Him to
make things work out for good and to His Glory!

*See the real problem - he's not trusting God, Pray for your husband
and show him love and grace... trust the Lord and continue walking in Faith
and stay close to our Heavenly Father.

Enjoy your blessing of another pregnancy - there are many women who'd love
to be expecting a child!

Keep your eyes on the Lord - and stay in his Word(Bible) and pray without ceasing!

*Do not be afraid to seek help from others (family/friends/church/ local help agencies etc...) around you for what you need during this trying time.



crankius -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (7/8/2008 3:27:46 PM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: KPOP

HI THERE.

KATHY



Kathy, I just wanted to let you know that your ALL CAPS is considered shouting. [:)]



jaimestarcross -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (7/10/2008 5:47:36 PM)

Oops! sorry... should be steering wheel not stirring wheel LOL!



NoShow -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (7/11/2008 11:25:59 AM)

quote:

ORIGINAL: hisglory7

We were not trying to get pregnant,but I got pregnant. my husband seems to be very angry because he thinks that this is gonna slow our plans down for the future.


What kind of plans?



DaveW -> RE: pregnant wife angry husband (7/14/2008 7:40:17 AM)

It has been almost a month and the OP has not responded.

I agree with Manda. There is too much we don't know. Why the seperation? How did the first pregnancy impact their relationship? Are both committed to biblical principles? A good counselor can look at much more detail than we have here and lay out a plan of action.



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