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calalaram -> Am I handling this well? (6/16/2008 9:17:51 PM)
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I know this is my first post, but what better place to get opinion then from a bunch of Christian women who like to help :). *Sorry in advance for the length
I have met a woman and I have determined the interest is mutual (we are both early 30's). Here is the background.
Over the last 10 weeks we got to know each other while participating in a venture in which we would see each other 2-3 days a week with in a group of friends. During this time we would talk when the occasion arose, and flirt as much as possible (or at least I made my feeble attempts at flirting and she returned the favor). As our venture came to an end I decided to make my interest known. I asked her out and she said yes, but she couldn't do anything on the day I had originally planned because she had a prior engagement. So we decided on an alternative date a week later.
As the time grew closer I called her to confirm our plans and chat for a bit (last Wednesday). At this time she apologized for having to cancel, but she had received word, that morning, her sister-in-law had been in a pretty bad car accident and things didn't look good. Her plan was to leave town (last Thursday) and return (this Sunday possibly). Again she apologized for having to put off going out and I told her there would be plenty of time to go out later she needed to be with her family. I told her I understood (which I did and still do), wished her a safe trip and that I would be praying for her and her family.
To be clear I'm very aware this isn't about me. She, and her family are possibly going through an extremely difficult time and I can only imagine what she is feeling. I had hoped to stay in touch in some way, but didn't expect anything extreme. So on Saturday morning I sent her a simple text "Are you doing ok? You and your family are in my prayers." At this time I've had no response.
I'm confused on how to proceed. My gut tells me I just need to be patient give her time to handle family issues. My curious george and concern side says I want to know how things are. At the time she left she had no info but that her sil was in real bad shape. The problem is that I don't think I know her well enough to just call. I don't want her to think I'm trying to hard, I just want to be a friend and show that I care.
I'm thinking I'll just wait until Thursday or Friday and try to give her a call. I mean worst case scenario she's still half way across the country dealing with a funeral. I certainly don't want to get in the way of her grieving.
Am I making any sense?
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