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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/23/2008 6:14:25 PM
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SavedByGraceMD
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This may sound like a juvenile question for some of you more mature christians...
But I was wondering if anyone has ever went through a point in your walk with God where nothing you did seemed to work out right? If so how did you overcome it?
Here's my story......I might be losing my Job. My boss told me today that I am so incompetent at what I do, that she believes there may be something medically wrong with me.
I really took this remark hard in that I got this Job only after looking for employment for 4 years and being fired from two of the four temp jobs that worked in the meantime. This is my first real full-time Job.
I am really trying hard but I just can't seem to get this job right. It only makes matters more confusing to know that this is a lower-level job as a bank teller and I hold a Master's Degree. I know i'm not dumb.
But what can I do right? Has anyone ever gone through this. Please enlighten me.
By the way i pay my tithes, read my word, fast etc. I know that I am not cursed. What's wrong with me?
I would say nothing is wrong other than you are buying into what your boss is telling you. I would say that you probably are not where God wants you to be when it comes to your job. You should pray about guidance in what the Lord wants you to do with your life and take comfort in the fact that He has a plan just for you. You just have to hear His words, and follow His guidance, which can be really hard to do at times. Pray about it, do not get down on yourself, I repeat DO NOT GET DOWN ON YOURSELF, and let Him show you the path He has in store for you. We are all meant to do something, and sometimes what we wind up doing is not what we are meant to do, and we fail at it. That doesn't mean anything is wrong with you, it is just that you have not found what God wants for you to do.
Take care and God bless.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/23/2008 6:26:53 PM
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And .......I did look up ADD and really don't know what to think of it. It does sound like me. However, I don't know rather to accept it as a real medical issue or just a symptom of being bored.
Well, I have it, and I've never been bored. Terrified at times, but never bored.  My kid had it (note the past tense) but there is therapy for it. Look up http://www.hope-future.org/ When said kid is finished with college, then it's my turn to get the therapy. It's a Christian outfit.
A big part of the therapy is getting your dominance lined up, either all right or all left: eye, ear, hand and foot. That clears up a lot of the "brain fog." When you see kids running around with ear plugs or eye patches, that's probably what they're doing - forcing the proper ear or eye to be dominant.
My neurodevelopment stopped in several places about age 4-6. It didn't help that my parents were abusive and cold-hearted. God is healing me, and I shall be completely healed someday, and so will you. Our job is to do the next five minutes for Him, and the next five minutes after that, and the next five minutes after that.
God bless you, dear one; God isn't finished with you, and your faith in Him and the actions you take based on that faith bring Him great glory. (((Hugs)))
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/23/2008 10:40:52 PM
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I saw this blog and had to post something...NOONE is a failure, that is only from satan telling people that they are failures...God loves us and he did not create failures...God created good, he also created situations that may come up and things don't turn out the way we things, but he turns everything that is bad into something good....
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/28/2008 3:18:17 PM
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"Lack of attention to detail" ...... I'm no nutritional expert by any means, but I know when I have trouble focusing, it is sometimes a result of not eating enough of the right foods that help your brain function. Just an option....
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/28/2008 3:38:13 PM
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It's all about attitude.
Num 13:26 - 29 (ESV) 26And they came to Moses and Aaron and to all the congregation of the people of Israel in the wilderness of Paran, at Kadesh. They brought back word to them and to all the congregation, and showed them the fruit of the land. 27And they told him, “We came to the land to which you sent us. It flows with milk and honey, and this is its fruit. 28However, the people who dwell in the land are strong, and the cities are fortified and very large. And besides, we saw the descendants of Anak there. 29The Amalekites dwell in the land of the Negeb. The Hittites, the Jebusites, and the Amorites dwell in the hill country. And the Canaanites dwell by the sea, and along the Jordan.”
Num 13:30 - 33 (ESV) 30But Caleb quieted the people before Moses and said, “Let us go up at once and occupy it, for we are well able to overcome it.” 31Then the men who had gone up with him said, “We are not able to go up against the people, for they are stronger than we are.”
God had taken them through the Red Sea, given them manna, and they thought this way?
32So they brought to the people of Israel a bad report of the land that they had spied out, saying, “The land, through which we have gone to spy it out, is a land that devours its inhabitants, and all the people that we saw in it are of great height. 33And there we saw the Nephilim (the sons of Anak, who come from the Nephilim), and we seemed to ourselves like grasshoppers, and so we seemed to them.”
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/29/2008 11:46:24 PM
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Your letter should hit home to many of us. I suspect most people feel as you do at times, such as......
Noah. He preached for over a hundred years of God's comung judgement and NOT ONE person believed him! But we know he was right, and we remember him.
Jerimiah was one of the most powerful prophets in the Old Testament, but his wprds were unheeded and the Jewish people went into bondage. Over seventy years later the man Daniel read Jerimiah's writings and knew the wait was almost over.
Jesus, himself, taught and preached enough to get the attention of both the government and relegious crowd, but when He stood trial, He stood alone.
I guess we have to believe that even if we don't get to see the end result, we should trust our Heavenly Father that He would have not created us, called us and saved us if He didn't have soem idea that we were worth it.
I'dtrust Him if I was you. God Bless.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/30/2008 1:45:45 AM
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ORIGINAL: womanoffire1
This may sound like a juvenile question for some of you more mature christians...
But I was wondering if anyone has ever went through a point in your walk with God where nothing you did seemed to work out right? If so how did you overcome it?
Here's my story......I might be losing my Job. My boss told me today that I am so incompetent at what I do, that she believes there may be something medically wrong with me.
I really took this remark hard in that I got this Job only after looking for employment for 4 years and being fired from two of the four temp jobs that worked in the meantime. This is my first real full-time Job.
I am really trying hard but I just can't seem to get this job right. It only makes matters more confusing to know that this is a lower-level job as a bank teller and I hold a Master's Degree. I know i'm not dumb.
But what can I do right? Has anyone ever gone through this. Please enlighten me.
By the way i pay my tithes, read my word, fast etc. I know that I am not cursed. What's wrong with me?
Hey Womanoffire1,
I've read through your thread, and I'll tell you what- it ain't your attitude. I read you're keeping your chin up, and you are still in the game. This is good.
I'm wondering who's on your team... do you have parents nearby that you can talk to? Relatives that know you well? I'd circle your wagons and try to pinpoint if there's a time in the day that things just go downhill, or when it is you felt things were all in their proper place and the world was wonderful. Imagine that! Ask those who know and love you most what they'd reccommend you do. Explain to them you are really concerned about keeping your car, and things aren't what you expected since college. If you look to medical testing, you may want a second opinion. Don't write off your job as being so absurdly simple. There you are, and there's all that money, and you've got to account for it at the end of the day... . You are likely on your feet all day? Follow all the advice you can get about that... comfort insoles, whatever.
What really came to mind as I've read your OP is that you are in search of something to go Right for a change, and there's one hitch to things like that. When something is Right, it's easy to spend less time on it, less energy, it becomes more of a less-maintenance thing. Practice makes perfect... or at least makes the tough a lot easier. You don't have to love baseball to imagine that the home run kings of old... well, their other big number in their records was the strike outs. They wanted it over the fence so much they were willing to take on that other stat on their record. I'd be willing to wager you (but not in your bank) that if you take your eye away from who you think the perfect teller is and try to do just a little better each day- that you'd surprise yourself after two weeks of not looking for a Total Transformation Makeover all at once.
PS- I'll start counting my withdrawls in my bank, and if the teller gives me too much, I'll give it back to her/him... unless I'm treated really rudely. : )
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/30/2008 11:24:43 AM
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I once heard said, find something you ENJOY doing & then find a way to get paid doing it.
I'll go a step further,
find something you ENJOY doing & pray about a way to get paid doing it & reflect God's light & love to others through it.
God cares about the big things & the small things & absolutely NOTHING is impossible for Him.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 6/30/2008 11:09:26 PM
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womanoffire1
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Wow, I didn't know this post would get such a response. I want to thank everyone who's taken the time to encourage me.
ONEJOHN quote:
I'd be willing to wager you (but not in your bank) that if you take your eye away from who you think the perfect teller is and try to do just a little better each day- that you'd surprise yourself after two weeks of not looking for a Total Transformation Makeover all at once.
That's exactly what I'm doing. I've been taking it one day at a time. I've been praying and fasting and I notice that my core has become more solid. I don't get as frazzled any more when the bank is packed with customers and I've gotta get them out of there fast! I take my time and focus on each customer's need.
My boss and I talked again and she seems more hopeful this time around. She let me know that I wasn't up for a firing just yet; but that she wants me to improve more.
In the grand scope of things.....I've been doing some soul searching and I realize this is not the industry for me (goes wayyy beyond the "attention" thing). I hate seeing people in almost tears when they find there's not enough money in their account to feed their kids...That's just too deep for me right now.
I decided to try and do my best while I am working at this bank and in the meantime I am agressively looking for something more in my field.
Oh...and that right-brain thing was definitely true about me.
I have accepted that whatever will happen, will happen. I am in the Lord's hands.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/1/2008 2:57:59 PM
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WOW it has been a blessing just to read how people care for each other . I can really feel what you are going thur .I Pray things will chance for you. You have a good start The best time to look for a new job is when you have one. Starting networking each day try to make a contact in some way with something you may enjoy. I know Jobs are far and hard to find in most areas but thing of things you like and maybe eve two PT jobs. Look in to caree enter in your area, Check on website .It sound like you be agreat person to work in a libary, etc, God Bless and Let us know how things are going!
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/6/2008 4:57:38 AM
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Womanoffire... I am so sorry that you are going through this. I truly know how you feel.
You know, when I was young the things that I was good at (creative kind of stuff... art, drama, music, etc.) was discouraged because I was told that it would be "too competitive". The problem was that I couldn't see myself doing "regular" jobs.
I really agree with everyone that talked about finding your niche. And there's a market for anything. I believe that when you do what you love, there will be people who love what you do. If you do what you're passionate about, there's a way to make money doing it.
Take your poems for example. You said that poetry doesn't pay the bills... but it could. Try starting a poetry website. Maybe you could have a forum for poetry lovers, and you could have advertising on the site. I read about a woman that started a recipe website and put ads on it (I don't know if I'm allowed to use specific company names here). At any rate, it didn't happen overnight, but it's been five years and right now she says she spends about two hours a day updating her content and she is bringing in about 100K per year.
If you're interested and need help, I do websites. I'd be willing to help you with this as an offering... no charge. Just PM me and we can talk about it.
Also, I totally know what it's like to have a bad track record with jobs. I have an entrepreneurial spirit and they say that entrepreneurs make lousy employees. But it still hurts when you're told that you're a lousy employee - especially when you feel you're really trying.
God bless!!!
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/7/2008 1:22:19 PM
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If I may, I'll tell you my story.
I have a degree in music education and was, of course, planning to teach music. I graduated with a 4.0 in my major. I knew I was a good teacher.
My first teaching job was a blessing and a curse. Kids/parents/board loved me. Principal LOATHED me and made every day I came into work a living nightmare.
I left after 1 year and couldn't find another job. Each answer was the same: "Not enough experience." Sadly, I'd taught/written curriculum since I was 18 in some capacity.
I ended up in a totally different line of work, in a call center for the world's largest disability company. Boy did I feel like a LOSER with a capital, bold-faced L.
Even after I got that job, I still tried to find teaching jobs, every time receiving the same response..."Not enough experience."
I felt like a complete and total failure. I had this degree that was completely pointless. I was clearly not as good as I thought.
It didn't help that I hated the call center gig.
On the way to work the day following my last rejection, God spoke to me. He said, "I gave you your music for me. I gave you your brain to earn a living." A few months later, He moved me to my current position within my company and I love it. I get to work Mon-Fri, leave at 3:45, and sing with my quartet. The best of both worlds.
God didn't want me teaching because it was such a strain on my voice. He wanted to save that for Himself (and to keep me from getting killed, I think).
He's trying to show you or teach you something...or both. Everything happens for a reason, and while it may be very difficult, remember that you are in His hands....and it's better than Allstate.
Please PM me if you'd like to talk further.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/11/2008 5:24:35 PM
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What's wrong with me?
You're human.
Humanity is imperfection. That imperfection is magnified by sins, lies, and false assumptions.
Do not convince yourself that you was born a failure. Convince yourself that God is magnified in His own perfection and through Him, we are a new, unblemished creation with a purpose.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/12/2008 11:14:21 AM
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ORIGINAL: womanoffire1
This may sound like a juvenile question for some of you more mature christians...
But I was wondering if anyone has ever went through a point in your walk with God where nothing you did seemed to work out right? If so how did you overcome it?
But what can I do right? Has anyone ever gone through this. Please enlighten me.
By the way i pay my tithes, read my word, fast etc. I know that I am not cursed. What's wrong with me?
Up to this point I've lost every job I've had and I've lost every relationship I've ever had...most (not all) have not been my fault.
I've been dealing with this for over 30 years.
I wrote a long tirade about being tired of doing this and that (including college, volunteering, etc.) and getting absolutely nowhere with any of it. I think I will spare you the gorey details.
What do you do about it? Boy I don't know. I just slog through it as best as I can. I mostly stay away from Christians. As long as most of the important aspects of living in Western society in the 21 Century (namely career and marraige) largely depends on some one else's co-operation, I don't see any way around it.
What you learn is that much of what is passed off as advice for "Christain Living" is little more than a whole lot of Christain phooey. Chronic failure grows you up, makes you see things from an entirely different perspective that has little to do with current Evangelical blather...uh, I mean teaching.
Read the book of Ecclesiaties. Then read it again.
Ec 9:11 I again saw under the sun that the race is not to the swift and the battle is not to the warriors, and neither is bread to the wise nor wealth to the discerning nor favor to men of ability; for time and chance overtake them all.
Romans 9:16 So then it does not depend on the man who wills or the man who runs, but on God who has mercy.
Hebrews 11:39 And all these, having gained approval through their faith, did not receive what was promised
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/12/2008 3:06:51 PM
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Here is what really stings for me. The reason why I was fired from those temp jobs and the on the verge this job is because I have a problem paying attention to detail. I'm really trying to get better at this but I
wonder is there hope. If I don't learn how to pay attention to detail I don't think there is any job that I can work. Is my lack of attention to detail due to my lack of real experience on the Job. Or, is it because I truly do have a learning disability in this area that I need to address. But then again how did I make it through college?
I think you are misunderstanding what a Learning disability is. It really not a disability but a learning differance. All these people below have some sort of learning differance. I have one. Many people doubted them.
Albert Einstein-E=mc squared.
Galileo-figured ut that the word was round
Mozart- some of the best classical music
Wright Brothers- they were the first one to fly
Leonardo da Vinci-we cannot even begin to count. the invention he inspired
Cher-Oscar winning actress and a singer
Bruce Jenner-athelete (sp?)
Tom Cruise-Oscar winning actor
Charles Schwab-Can we say investments
Henry Winkler-Fonzie
Danny Glover-great actor
Walt Disney-was called UNCREATIVE
John Lennon-Wrote some of the bet song EVER
Greg Louganis-Olympic diver I believe he won a Gold Metal
Henry Ford- The car
Stephen Hawkings-he did something with computers
Jules Verne-author
Alexander Graham Bell-telephone
Woodrow Wilson-President
Hans Christian Anderson-great writer
Nelson Rockefeller-Became very rich somehow
Thomas Edison-the light bulb
Agatha Christie-great myestery writer
John F. Kennedy-Prseident
Whoopi Goldberg-Oscar winning actress
Rodin-artist
Thomas Thoreau-another writer
Dustin Hoffman-Oscar winning actor
Pete Rose-Great baseball player
Robin Williams-Oscar winning actor
Louis Pasteur-without this man our milk would spoil
Dwight D. Eisenhower-President
Harry Belafonte-Musician
F. Scott Fitzgerald-Another writer
Mariel Hemingway-actess
Steve McQueen-actor
Suzanne Somers-actress
Lindsay Wagner-actress
George Bernard Shaw-writer
Beethoven-another classical
Carl Lewis-Olympic runner (I believe)
"Magic" Johnson-one of the greatest Basketball players of all time
Sylvester Stallone-Another Oscar winner
These people brains worked differently. Many of them were successful because of their disability. Because the saw thing differently.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/12/2008 6:23:17 PM
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Psalm 23 has helped me a lot.
1 A Psalm of David. The Lord is my shepherd; I shall not want.
2 He makes me to lie down in green pastures; He leads me beside the still waters.
3 He restores my soul; He leads me in the paths of righteousness For His name's sake.
4 Yea, though I walk through the valley of the shadow of death, I will fear no evil; For You are with me; Your rod and Your staff, they comfort me.
5 You prepare a table before me in the presence of my enemies; You anoint my head with oil; My cup runs over.
6 Surely goodness and mercy shall follow me All the days of my life; And I will dwell in the house of the Lord Forever.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/18/2008 12:24:03 AM
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Just wanted thank everyone again for their responses. I'm still holding on at work. I haven't visited this site in about a week so I didn't get the latter responses.So again and again thank you.And for those of you that offered a PM I will be contacting you. 
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/18/2008 2:08:24 AM
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If you are starting to do a little better at job then keep at it. Time of experience helps and as for the people getting to you that cant afford things tell them about Jesus have them read what He did for them. Also there are places they can get help at times. One thing to also look into is to see if there may be another position in the bank you are working at. See if you show good attendance of work, and sincere effort to improve on the job you may find it easier to get a different job there. Pray pray and pray ask the Lord for help each and every moment at work. Believe it or not He can help you and give you strength and courage at work to get through one customer at a time. Will keep you in prayer.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/18/2008 2:27:09 AM
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Seems to me that you're doing everything right. With that being the case, it may just be that God is wanting you to go to another job. I don't believe that God caused your boss to say those horrible things to you, but I do know that God will use what the devil means to harm you, to turn around and bless you. Remeber, all things work together for good for those who love God. When you pray, tell God that you don't understand all that has happened and those things that are about to happen, but you trust Him, because He said He would cause all things to work together for your good. There is a blessing in this somewhere, even though you may not see it right now. The old saying is true..."God never closes a door, without opening up a window. God will not leave you nor forsake you. Trust Him. God bless you. BTW, YOU ARE NOT A FAILURE, YOU ARE A CHILD OF THE MOST HIGH GOD! YOU ARE BLESSED!
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/18/2008 3:43:45 AM
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I glad you are doing better. Just try an go with God everyday.
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RE: Why Am I Such a Failure? - 7/18/2008 4:50:35 PM
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It can be hard when you go through times of stuggle such as this, but try to remember that our rewards are not given on this earth. The Bible says that as Christians we will go through very hard times during our life, but the important thing is to keep pushing forward .. and pray that God will lead your life in the direction HE wants you to go.
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