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truthrevealed -> Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 1:51:43 PM)

Just curious, would you or have you ever told a friend, co-worker or family member about CW? If so, would you recommend that they come here to seek either advice, christian fellowship(meet new friends) and/or counsel? If you have not or would not....why not?



rcjames -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 2:18:33 PM)

I recommend the site all the time.

As far as advice, one can get a wide reage of it on these forums.

And two great things about advice; its free and you don't have to take it.


Thanks
RC



tsnody2001 -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 3:05:33 PM)

I agree with RC. You don't have to listen, but if you do, be sure to dig into your Bible and some other research. No one here gives perfect advice, but this is a nice place to take in many different Christian perspectives from around the world. Travis



mvic -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 4:20:51 PM)

This is a good Forum to learn from others. I often read a variety of un-related sub-Forums and debates to learn what people think and what are their opinions on various topics. It doesn't mean I always agree with them - far from it sometimes.

As for advice - there's plenty here and it's free. However, I'd advise anyone to take independent professional advice before making a commitment.



blue1914 -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 4:51:31 PM)

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ORIGINAL: truthrevealed

Just curious, would you or have you ever told a friend, co-worker or family member about CW? If so, would you recommend that they come here to seek either advice, christian fellowship(meet new friends) and/or counsel? If you have not or would not....why not?


It would really depend on the status of their relationship with God.

Unfortunately, I've seen too many well meaning followers of Jesus run people off of this forum (and I'm ashamed to admit that at times I've been one of those misguided followers who has offended others). CW is very much like the church in many ways-the factions and divergences of doctrine and belief are all represented right on the board. Someone who is not used to the "mature Christian" *discussions* might be put off by the disagreements as well as the outright disrespect and hostility that they may endure on the board.

I've seen too many well meaning seekers run off the board for that exact reason. I don't know that I am pointing a finger at any individual, but it's just a fact of this board-folks speak their minds and it's rare that everyone agrees. If someone was ready to take that on, then this is the place for them. If, instead, they are new enough to the faith that they could be led astray by a "wind of doctrine" that they were unfamiliar with, I would probably advise caution on this board-but that's just how I would do it.



designed -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 6:32:01 PM)

I have recommended CW to others but not specifically for seeking advice or counsel. I refer to CW as a place one can exchange ideas and fellowship with others. I believe discernment is an important part of engaging in any internet discussion. It takes a good amount of time and interaction with other believers to establish if wise counsel may be gained from them, so I feel it best to direct someone seeking advice to God first and then maybe a local(in person), established, trusted brother/sister in Christ rather than an online community. Thats not to say that wonderful advice isn't presented here daily.



4IMPersuaded -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 6:41:34 PM)

I love the forums and I talk with friends about ideas that I see on the boards all the time. It is definitely not for the faint of heart, though I do believe that if a person identifies themselves as a young or new believer, they are treated with a measure of care that those of us "geezers" (a word someone used in another thread [:D]) aren't afforded.

I think it is a great place to explore ideas that I might not otherwise encounter. As for advice... That is also not for the fainthearted. It is interesting and valuable, however, to hear opinions that differ from yours-- it is one of the ways that we grow as believers. You know, iron sharpens iron...



truthrevealed -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 7:32:56 PM)

designed, your response best reflect my own sentiment. I agree that sound advice can be offered here(I hope that I offer such and enjoy doing so) but I would direct a person to God first.



4IMPersuaded -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 8:05:24 PM)

I think most people here would do the same, truthrevealed. Except for our occasional atheist and agnostic friends, I hope we would all defer to our Creator. Perhaps we don't say that enough in print.



ladyingrace1979 -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 8:14:40 PM)

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ORIGINAL: blue1914

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ORIGINAL: truthrevealed

Just curious, would you or have you ever told a friend, co-worker or family member about CW? If so, would you recommend that they come here to seek either advice, christian fellowship(meet new friends) and/or counsel? If you have not or would not....why not?


It would really depend on the status of their relationship with God.

Unfortunately, I've seen too many well meaning followers of Jesus run people off of this forum (and I'm ashamed to admit that at times I've been one of those misguided followers who has offended others). CW is very much like the church in many ways-the factions and divergences of doctrine and belief are all represented right on the board. Someone who is not used to the "mature Christian" *discussions* might be put off by the disagreements as well as the outright disrespect and hostility that they may endure on the board.

I've seen too many well meaning seekers run off the board for that exact reason. I don't know that I am pointing a finger at any individual, but it's just a fact of this board-folks speak their minds and it's rare that everyone agrees. If someone was ready to take that on, then this is the place for them. If, instead, they are new enough to the faith that they could be led astray by a "wind of doctrine" that they were unfamiliar with, I would probably advise caution on this board-but that's just how I would do it.

That's exactly my thinking. At least for this particular forum, some of the safer forums maybe. But it can be a challenge to sort through all the conflicting advice and points of view here.
Kim Q



earthless -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 8:38:32 PM)

I would recommend it, yes.



SonInMe1 -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 8:59:39 PM)

There are a few 100% constants in life. One is...if you ask for advice you will always get it.

Obviously a christian site will have its...bias.

This site only works if you are honest as well.

I have promoted this site to christian friends. I have told my unsaved aquantances that I go here. Most have no interest in the subjects we discuss.



Lufia -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 9:38:14 PM)

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Someone who is not used to the "mature Christian" *discussions* might be put off by the disagreements as well as the outright disrespect and hostility that they may endure on the board


I almost ran off from here when i first came. Some answers i got really hurt me... And to be honest, because of my first experiences i got here, l am always afraid of the answers or commentary i'll get. But i stay because there are some really good posts here and you can learn A LOT too. The thing i do is write a minimum so i expose myself a minimum [:)] even if i have tons of questions i would ask[:D]



slushie -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/26/2008 9:43:05 PM)

Definitely! I love this site, even though I'm not as consistent as I'd like to be.



Gazingstock -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/27/2008 1:20:48 AM)

Anyone who is already a believer, yes. An atheistic or agnostic, no. There are other sites geared better to address their concerns.

I agree that it requires a certain fortitude to enjoy these boards, but I think the majority of believers can handle it. At least with a little practice. [;)]



SonInMe1 -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/27/2008 7:43:34 AM)

I love when the unsaved come here.

Discussing the love of Christ with them...is more comfortable than talking doctrine...with you guys...

[:D]



GraceBro -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 12:47:05 AM)

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Just curious, would you or have you ever told a friend, co-worker or family member about CW? If so, would you recommend that they come here to seek either advice, christian fellowship(meet new friends) and/or counsel? If you have not or would not....why not?


Generally speaking, I would not recommend a friend, or anybody, seek advice here. In my humble opinion, much of this forum represents what is wrong with Christianity today. The religiosity is thick here. On foundational truths there is little to no agreement on anything.

Just look at the One Stop Threads. The fact that they even exist is evidence of the lack of unity and agreement. The basics of the faith are all up for grabs with everybody believing themselves to be biblically solid in their opinions. Eternal Security. The role of water baptism. Keeping the Law. The need for a Pope. Calvinism and Arminianism. Creation and Evolution. And so on. All of these topics are debated ad nauseum, as if God is unclear on the subjects, and they are not for the faint of heart. As a friend of mine once said, these forums are "Christian Hell" because of the legalism, denominationalism and heavy-handed approach of many who frequent these boards. Strong words, but in many ways appllicable.

My main goal for being on these boards is in hopes of reaching that struggling saint find rest with the message of Grace or to help that lost soul find peace in Christ. Unfortunately, you have to take a lot of punishment in order to do that. The grace of God is often unwelcome here and the fact that I have been banned twice for defending it is a testament to that claim. Sorry to be so critical, but thanks for the opportunity. Great question.

Grace and Peace



Lufia -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 9:41:03 AM)

GraceBro i agree with you but there are lots of people here talking with their hearts and with love. Just don't read those who writes with heart of stone.



GraceBro -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 12:01:18 PM)

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GraceBro i agree with you but there are lots of people here talking with their hearts and with love. Just don't read those who writes with heart of stone.


Lufia, I understand what you are saying. That is why I said, "generally speaking." I am not trying to use a broadsweeping generalization of everybody on this forum. But, I do believe when discussions turn to the nuts and bolts of what Christianity the religious pride and "hearts of stone" are not far behind. Nobody likes to have their beliefs questioned and very few people seem to have a teachable spirit or the ability to agree to disagree.

Thanks for your thoughtful response.

Grace and Peace



sparkleingsnow -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 12:27:52 PM)

Yes, I have and will recommend this site. As far as advice, it's good to get different view points, but in the end we need to seek the Lord and His guideance.



colliefan -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 2:10:04 PM)

What kind of advice is the individual seeking? If it advice on general relationship ideas, gender-related issues (porn, womens issue, etc.), and questions on bible/church/cults/etc. by all means.

This isn't the place to receive deep spiritual counsel as this is best done one-on-one.



truthrevealed -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 6:39:33 PM)

colliefan, I certainly understand(and agree)with what you mean when you ask what type of advice is being sought and that certain spiritual counsel needs to be one on one but I chuckle because, for instance I had a GREAT problem with many people here advising that spouses who cheat should remain quiet and not confess due to guilt and other things. No where can I find such advice in scriptures---so perhaps that was deep, spiritual counsel that need not be sought here---or perhaps people should guard themselves against seeking advice at all and turn towards God first(letting HIM decide who to work thru??????? hmmm, thus the reason for me posing the question.........



colliefan -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 8:17:54 PM)

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---or perhaps people should guard themselves against seeking advice at all and turn towards God first(letting HIM decide who to work thru??????? hmmm, thus the reason for me posing the question.........


No, the bible says there is wisdom in many counselor. The problem in cyberland is there that not that many posters are wise and their character is an unknown.



JMCrwd -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 8:59:17 PM)

I have received alot of good advice here and I would recommend this site to others.



sunshine4God -> RE: Would you recommend that a friend seek advice here? (6/28/2008 11:48:58 PM)

sure,The people here are awesome at giving advice.



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