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ChoirDJ -> Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 12:52:07 AM)

Okay ladies and gents, I'm going to end the night out on this post. What unfinished business would you like to take care of before you get married? It could be a career goal, personal goal, financial goal, an unresolved relationship or some other issue(s) that you want to resolve.

For me, my goal is to be debt free (or pretty close to it) by the time I settle down again.



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 1:15:13 AM)

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my goal is to be debt free
same here...that's being quite well taken care of....the curious may pm me.

to complete my getting in shape goals

it would be nice if at some point I could live on my own before marriage, but if marriage comes before an apartment, I certainly won't object.



John_O -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 1:38:04 AM)

I've no unfinished business that I'm aware of. Delaying marriage for some other goal just doesn't make sense to me. Everything else can be done just as well when I am married (better actually) but time that's past can't be regained. I'd rather spend time with her than spend it getting ready for her. KWIM?



song -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 1:41:38 AM)

Goals before marriage... hmm... I'm not in debt...

Don't think I have any. [8D]

Goals for my life! Those I have. And I would never marry anyone that didn't support my goals and dreams.



BugLady -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 1:58:43 AM)

Hmm... I'd could use help resolving a few things. If anyone knows who highligted my copy of the book in my avatar that would be helpful. Follow that up with meetings with the Chief, Sheriff, US Attorney, a tall FBI agent, a detective or two and a job in my chosen career field... that ought to do it. [:)]



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 2:14:22 AM)

Bug Lady, WHAT is the story behind the book? I've wondered for a long time..sometimes I thought you were joking, other times I wasn't sure.



RosieCotton -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 2:31:47 AM)

i agree.....the dreams i have could very well be done by myself or w/a guy........

So, that is it.......i have no debt......and agree that if the guy and i dont share the same ideas of my dreams.....then i wouldnt be happy w/him......i know all about compromises......but, i also know how i want to spend my "lifes energies". (i really like those words)....[:)]



CoeurdeLeon_ -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 8:22:35 AM)

I believe I'll finish raising these kids first. They've only got a few more years at home and my dating and marrying, even though they would be good things, would also add stress and adjustment and a lot of other things I haven't thought of. I don't think I want to spend the last few years the kids are home that way. This is a season and it's not a sacrifice to finish this course the way I've been running it.[:)]

After I've done this work assigned to me, I might consider remarriage.



Or, I might just travel the world and read to my heart's content.[;)]



BugLady -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 12:16:29 PM)

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ORIGINAL: OneOfHisJewels

Bug Lady, WHAT is the story behind the book? I've wondered for a long time..sometimes I thought you were joking, other times I wasn't sure.


Sometimes I am joking. Other times I'm not so sure myself. When I was being "followed" someone highlighted random passages in my book. The first thing I noticed was "Of all the ways to die, this would be one of the very bad ones." It was very unsettling.



ChoirDJ -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 12:44:40 PM)

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Sometimes I am joking. Other times I'm not so sure myself. When I was being "followed" someone highlighted random passages in my book. The first thing I noticed was "Of all the ways to die, this would be one of the very bad ones." It was very unsettling.


I'm still confused..."followed" as in being stalked? And, what does the this refer to in your post? Whatever became of the situation by the way?



iwillfearnoevil -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 3:44:56 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ChoirDJ
I'm still confused..."followed" as in being stalked? And, what does the this refer to in your post? Whatever became of the situation by the way?


hmmm maybe ChoirDJ knows more than he's willing to let on ... and maybe HE is trying to see how many puzzle pieces you've put together ... very interesting game of cat & mouse going on here ...



BugLady -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 6:26:00 PM)

It's not a game for me. It's my reality. I'm just answering the questions.

Followed as in stalked and followed. And whatever became of it? It's unfinished business. That's why I posted. I need help from the people I listed to "finish" it.



David_D -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 6:26:22 PM)

Well, I reckon I should probably meet a girl before I get married.



ChoirDJ -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 6:32:05 PM)

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hmmm maybe ChoirDJ knows more than he's willing to let on ... and maybe HE is trying to see how many puzzle pieces you've put together ... very interesting game of cat & mouse going on here ...


iwillfearnoevil...I don't know you and I understand how easily things can be misinterpreted online. Having said that, I'm going to give you the benefit of the doubt in that this was meant to be a joke but this was a distasteful and offensive comment at best.

BugLady...I'm sorry to hear this issue wasn't resolved because I'm sure it's a very unsettling thing to go through. Unfortunately as part of my line of work, I deal with a lot of cases like this.



BugLady -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 7:00:40 PM)

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...I'm sorry to hear this issue wasn't resolved because I'm sure it's a very unsettling thing to go through.


Thanks, ChoirDj. People rarely acknowledge that. I think it's just easier for people who don't understand to be skeptical. It sure doesn't change the truth though.



Prairiehiker -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 7:30:45 PM)

I have no unfinished business. At least, I don't think I have. I even have all the wedding plans completed. All I need is a groom, LOL!

Perhaps, the one thing that I'm a bit concern about is that I have an 11 year old daughter. I need to find a man who can love her and act as a father figure to her or else, I'd rather be single until she's out to college. Is that unfinished business?



DrivenbyGod -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 10:16:55 PM)

I have no unfinished business i can think of either. I don't have much debt and have been alone too long or at least in my opinion. I guess the Lord may think I need more time alone though....[sm=crazy.gif]



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 11:02:55 PM)

I could always use improvement. I could manage money better, I could be a better house keeper...my life is full of "I could's". But I'm not in debt, I don't have any strange addictions, and quite frankly if I were single for the rest of my life I'd be okay. Bored, and lonely but okay. [:)]



shemaromans -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/2/2008 11:58:16 PM)

One goal: to finish grieving my dad's passing.



ChoirDJ -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/3/2008 1:15:26 AM)

shemaromans...Sorry to hear about your dad. When did he pass if you don't mind me asking?

prairiewalker...I would definitely say you are ahead of the game. Now that's what I call stepping out on faith (lol).



ShallbeRebuilt -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/3/2008 7:02:07 AM)

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ORIGINAL: shemaromans

One goal: to finish grieving my dad's passing.


Shema;

I must ask what you mean by this...because you will never be "finished grieving" until you enter heaven. There isn't an end to it, though the grieving changes over time. And how will you know you are "finished"?? By what criteria will you judge?

Just food for thought.

besiderself



shemaromans -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/3/2008 10:29:35 AM)

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shemaromans...Sorry to hear about your dad. When did he pass if you don't mind me asking?

Thank you. He went home just over ten months ago.


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Shema;

I must ask what you mean by this...because you will never be "finished grieving" until you enter heaven. There isn't an end to it, though the grieving changes over time. And how will you know you are "finished"?? By what criteria will you judge?

Just food for thought.

LOL! That's what I get for posting in a "terse" mood...I understand what you're saying, besiderself.

I was so busy this spring that it appears I put a lot of my grieving on hold. It's really hit me over the past week or so. After talking with some wise counselors, it appears that I haven't let go of my dad. I'm still "holding on" to him. So, I suppose my critieria will be (1) that I've released him and (2) my crying sessions will be less...intense and frequent? Does that make sense?

Good questions. I'll be thinking about this. Please offer more thoughts (probably through PM so that we don't derail this thread) if/when they come to you. This is new terrain for me.

(I'd also like to make it more than two church services without crying during the praise set. [:)])



ChoirDJ -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/3/2008 12:32:17 PM)

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Please offer more thoughts (probably through PM so that we don't derail this thread) if/when they come to you.



shemaromans...I sort of an Out-of-the-Box type of person and I would be more concerned about being helpful to those in need than I am about keeping this thread on the original track. Nonetheless, this is an intensely personal issue so would you prefer to discuss this only via PM?

There is no set pattern for how a person is supposed to grieve because it varies from person to person. However, most mental health professionals would agree that there are generally 5 stages of grieving and we can oscillate between them in any order. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. These are called stages instead of steps because steps imply they happen in a particular order when they don't. May your heavenly Father who will never leave you or forsake you comfort your soul as you continue to face your loss.



shemaromans -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/3/2008 1:07:47 PM)

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ORIGINAL: ChoirDJ

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Please offer more thoughts (probably through PM so that we don't derail this thread) if/when they come to you.



shemaromans...I sort of an Out-of-the-Box type of person and I would be more concerned about being helpful to those in need than I am about keeping this thread on the original track. Nonetheless, this is an intensely personal issue so would you prefer to discuss this only via PM?

There is no set pattern for how a person is supposed to grieve because it varies from person to person. However, most mental health professionals would agree that there are generally 5 stages of grieving and we can oscillate between them in any order. Denial, Anger, Bargaining, Depression, Acceptance. These are called stages instead of steps because steps imply they happen in a particular order when they don't. May your heavenly Father who will never leave you or forsake you comfort your soul as you continue to face your loss.

Thank you, ChoirDJ.



ShallbeRebuilt -> RE: Unfinished Business... (7/3/2008 1:45:47 PM)

Shema;

I've got a nice, long PM about this ready to go out to you, but the dratted CW platform keeps giving me a runtime error, no matter which way I try to PM you...

Is there a mod in the house?

Meantime, perhaps if you PM me, I can send you my email, and I can reply with the post.

besiderself



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