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Dakotasunbeam -> A Romantic Guy (7/3/2008 2:18:54 AM)

I would have posted this in He Says, but then, I thought, women could have some great insight on this too.

We all know that some people are more "romantic" than others. They get butterflies when they see people holding hands; or the idea of flowers on a special occasion makes their heart melt. These are romantic cliches that are most associated with women. My question is: When a guy is a hopeless romantic . . . what things make his heart go pitter patter? Can it be roses or a small box from Tiffany's on a stary night will make him swoon? Sweet talk? Compliments? Holding hands?

So my question for romantic guys or gals that have a little insight here . . . what is Romantic to a guy?



OneOfHisJewels -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/3/2008 2:43:33 AM)

LOL, at first I thought this thread was going to be one asking women if they WANTED a romantic guy.


I know romantic guys appreciate a woman getting all dressed up and well groomed for him. I don't think they necs. expect the same romantic gestures as they would give a girl, but they like a girl to appreciate the gestures.. and IF they have already been in a relationship for a while, or if they are married, I think they appreciate a nice card once in a while.
I think they also like a nice dinner with candles cooked for them. Oh, and unless they have allergies, I think they like perfume on a woman.

I also think romantic guys, just as much as romantic girls like long walks on the beach. I know that sounds very cliche', but it's true.

Oh, and romantic guys like to look at the stars.



Grace-N-Mercy -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/3/2008 6:02:55 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam

I would have posted this in He Says, but then, I thought, women could have some great insight on this too.

We all know that some people are more "romantic" than others. They get butterflies when they see people holding hands; or the idea of flowers on a special occasion makes their heart melt. These are romantic cliches that are most associated with women. My question is: When a guy is a hopeless romantic . . . what things make his heart go pitter patter? Can it be roses or a small box from Tiffany's on a stary night will make him swoon? Sweet talk? Compliments? Holding hands?

So my question for romantic guys or gals that have a little insight here . . . what is Romantic to a guy?


I think that guys enjoy romance just as much as we do. They enjoy setting the mood... the music, lighting (i.e. candles), flowers, no distractions. Long walks on the beach, gazing at the stars, watching for shooting stars... cuddling on the couch... long road trips with her head on his shoulder... these are things I think we all like.



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/5/2008 11:53:33 PM)

OneofHisJewels,

I suppose you are right. Good points!

GNM,

Very true. But, they can't be EXACTLY the same. I guess some guys might like flowers and chocolates???[&:]



cammo2006 -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/6/2008 12:51:37 AM)

For the record, I am a hopeless romantic*.


I've never been a huge fan of perfume, I've always found it to be too strong in many cases. This is surprising since my nose is perpetually blocked. [:'(]

Subtle, but noticeable, is the best way IMHO.

*That is, I am hopeless at being romantic.

Bad joke, I know... [8D]



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/6/2008 2:09:33 AM)

Cammo,

Could you name 3 things that a girl could do that would be romantic to you? [:)]



cammo2006 -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/6/2008 2:35:03 AM)

Hmm, I've never actually thought about that.

I think things like little notes, and encouragement would be wonderful and are what I'd recognise most. Words are a big thing for me (which isn't surprising if you've seen my blog which is filled with lyrics I've written (but which I give full credit to Christ for -- [without Him, I'd be unable to write]).

I particularly like written encouragements -- because you can always go back to them... So that when doubts run rampant, you always have that written text to go back to stand on (which is also the great thing about the Bible).

Thanks for keeping me on topic, I have a tendency to wander off topic a lot. [:D]



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/6/2008 2:36:54 AM)

Thanks, that was a great help! I'll check out your blog sometime! [:)]
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ORIGINAL: cammo2006

Hmm, I've never actually thought about that.

I think things like little notes, and encouragement would be wonderful and are what I'd recognise most. Words are a big thing for me (which isn't surprising if you've seen my blog which is filled with lyrics I've written (but which I give full credit to Christ for -- [without Him, I'd be unable to write]).

I particularly like written encouragements -- because you can always go back to them... So that when doubts run rampant, you always have that written text to go back to stand on (which is also the great thing about the Bible).

Thanks for keeping me on topic, I have a tendency to wander off topic a lot. [:D]



DreadPirateRandy -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/6/2008 5:32:49 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam

Can it be roses or a small box from Tiffany's on a stary night will make him swoon?


Roses for a dude just doesn't seem like the kind of thing you'd give him. That's me personally, some men are probably into receiving flowers and whatnot.

... I've yet to meet one.

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Sweet talk?


I always enjoy it.

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Compliments?


A nice ego boost. [8D]

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Holding hands?


I would say that "does it" for most men. I know it does for me. That, or putting my arm around her as she snuggles up next to me as we're walking or merely hanging out.

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. . . what is Romantic to a guy?


Knowing he's the best thing in her eyes is probably the biggest butterfly feeling for a guy.

I can't speak for each individual male, but cuddling/snuggling is one of the best feelings. Nothing compares to being so close to the one you love.



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/14/2008 11:32:23 PM)

Awesome stuff, GrapeApe. [sm=thumbsup.gif]

Thanks!
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ORIGINAL: GrapeApe

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ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam

Can it be roses or a small box from Tiffany's on a stary night will make him swoon?


Roses for a dude just doesn't seem like the kind of thing you'd give him. That's me personally, some men are probably into receiving flowers and whatnot.

... I've yet to meet one.

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Sweet talk?


I always enjoy it.

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Compliments?


A nice ego boost. [8D]

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Holding hands?


I would say that "does it" for most men. I know it does for me. That, or putting my arm around her as she snuggles up next to me as we're walking or merely hanging out.

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. . . what is Romantic to a guy?


Knowing he's the best thing in her eyes is probably the biggest butterfly feeling for a guy.

I can't speak for each individual male, but cuddling/snuggling is one of the best feelings. Nothing compares to being so close to the one you love.



John_O -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/15/2008 8:52:20 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam
So my question for romantic guys or gals that have a little insight here . . . what is Romantic to a guy?


I had to think about this one for a while. I normally try to be romantic for her and don't tend to think of her being romantic for me. so here's a few things I find romantic....

All of them boil down to showing you care about me:

Little things, like gently fixing my collar or buttoning a button I may have missed on my shirt.

Holding my arm when we walk. Soft gentle touches, as if to reassure yourself that I'm really there.

Cards and letters.

Encouraging me with scripture that God gives you for me.

Laughing at my jokes.

Caresses. (playing with my hair for example. Obviously I'm very touch oriented)

Finding things to do that you'd think I was interested in.

Wanting to cook for me. (I know it may be old fashioned but it just screams "I care about you" to me)

Attention is better than gifts.

Admiring some facet of my character subtly. I was called "gentle" once and it blessed my socks off (I've always sought to be a gentleman)

Play with me. And try your best to win.

Watch me when you don't think I can see you looking. Catching someone I like looking at me almost curls my toes.



okrox -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/15/2008 6:55:07 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

quote:

ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam
So my question for romantic guys or gals that have a little insight here . . . what is Romantic to a guy?


I had to think about this one for a while. I normally try to be romantic for her and don't tend to think of her being romantic for me. so here's a few things I find romantic....



This seems to be a common answer. Does this confirm the old wisdom that generally, women feel more loved when a man makes the effort, men feel more loved when a woman responds to his efforts?



okrox -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/15/2008 7:01:39 PM)

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ORIGINAL: okrox

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: Dakotasunbeam
So my question for romantic guys or gals that have a little insight here . . . what is Romantic to a guy?


I had to think about this one for a while. I normally try to be romantic for her and don't tend to think of her being romantic for me. so here's a few things I find romantic....



This seems to be a common answer. Does this confirm the old wisdom that generally, women feel more loved when a man makes the effort, men feel more loved when a woman responds to his efforts?


Oh, wait..I'm not talking about the "who makes the FIRST move" question like on the other thread. I'm talking about once you're already together in a relationship. I'm talking about the flowers-and-hearts stuff.



Prairiehiker -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 9:12:29 AM)

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Wanting to cook for me. (I know it may be old fashioned but it just screams "I care about you" to me)


Would it still be romantic if the woman is a horrible cook? Lol. I used to try to cook for men, but I ended up making them sick. So, would buying them pizza instead of cooking qualify as romantic? LOL. That's what I do, and I notice that it doesnt' have the same effect.



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 9:28:58 AM)

I would love to romance a man and treat him the way I want to be treated, only better. You know?

Like, I looove to be treated like a lady so I would do things to reassure him that I respect him as a man.

I like to hear he's attracted to me, and that he thinks I'm good looking to him, so I'd do the same for him.

I like to have things done for me, or little trinkets bought for me, so I would do the same for him.

The only thing I would do differently is I am not a physical being; I don't like to touch or be touched but if it were important to him, I would do my best to make an effort in his behalf.

Does this make sense?



McFatty -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 10:11:33 AM)

Overall, I, as a man, won't worry about what a woman is doing for me. My thoughts, in that department, are centered on what I can do for her. However, of course it's nice when there are gestures in return. Even mundane things are great.

I agree with the sentiment above that it's much better when playing sports or games that she gives one hundred percent.



John_O -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 11:20:23 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

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Wanting to cook for me. (I know it may be old fashioned but it just screams "I care about you" to me)


Would it still be romantic if the woman is a horrible cook? Lol. I used to try to cook for men, but I ended up making them sick. So, would buying them pizza instead of cooking qualify as romantic? LOL. That's what I do, and I notice that it doesnt' have the same effect.


To me it's the thought that counts. I'll try almost anything once and surprisingly things that failed in the kitchen even taste good when you add in the care and (love) they were cooked with.



Prairiehiker -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 2:06:38 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker

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Wanting to cook for me. (I know it may be old fashioned but it just screams "I care about you" to me)


Would it still be romantic if the woman is a horrible cook? Lol. I used to try to cook for men, but I ended up making them sick. So, would buying them pizza instead of cooking qualify as romantic? LOL. That's what I do, and I notice that it doesn't' have the same effect.


To me it's the thought that counts. I'll try almost anything once and surprisingly things that failed in the kitchen even taste good when you add in the care and (love) they were cooked with.


Last year, I cooked for this guy. It's one of those pasta recipe that takes 10 hours to make (i'm not joking, it's that long to make it). It's got a lot of fancy ingredients like wine, and specialty Italian meat and cheese. I didn't tell the guy what it was. When he tasted it, he said, hmmmm...hamburger helper, I like it. LOL. I didn't have the nerve to tell him I've been laboring away in front of the hot oven the whole day.



John_O -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 2:09:27 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
Last year, I cooked for this guy. It's one of those pasta recipe that takes 10 hours to make (i'm not joking, it's that long to make it). It's got a lot of fancy ingredients like wine, and specialty Italian meat and cheese. I didn't tell the guy what it was. When he tasted it, he said, hmmmm...hamburger helper, I like it. LOL. I didn't have the nerve to tell him I've been laboring away in front of the hot oven the whole day.


Oh PH that is hilarious (and oh so sad)

I'd guess he didn't last long.



Prairiehiker -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 2:14:32 PM)

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ORIGINAL: John_O

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ORIGINAL: Prairiehiker
Last year, I cooked for this guy. It's one of those pasta recipe that takes 10 hours to make (i'm not joking, it's that long to make it). It's got a lot of fancy ingredients like wine, and specialty Italian meat and cheese. I didn't tell the guy what it was. When he tasted it, he said, hmmmm...hamburger helper, I like it. LOL. I didn't have the nerve to tell him I've been laboring away in front of the hot oven the whole day.


Oh PH that is hilarious (and oh so sad)

I'd guess he didn't last long.


Yeah, I had a good laugh over it. At least he said he liked it. I bet he told everyone that I make the best hamburger helper in Canada, lol.



Dakotasunbeam -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 11:14:17 PM)

Good post, John O. Lot's of food for thought.

McFatty,

So you're saying if a woman plays sports with you and gives it 100% that is romantic to you?

I'm starting to get a better idea . . . thanks everyone!



Tinkerbell_ -> RE: A Romantic Guy (7/16/2008 11:23:51 PM)

Why wouldn't a girl try her best no matter what it was?

I had a lot of approving glances when 4 couples went paint balling. All the girls were squealing and giggling but by golly I was the last girl standing.

Of course my date was lucky he wasn't the one who took me out. It was his brother. [&:]



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