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simplybeautiful -> Forgetting (7/11/2008 3:47:29 AM)

How do you forget the hurt that you have felt becuase of a relationship? I hate it when I think of my ex a couple of times a day and its been like 5 months. I want to trust again. Any suggestions?



Szaftoo -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 10:07:12 AM)

Minds wander when they are idle. Keep busy so you don't have time to think about him. Be with friends or family, volunteer at your church or in your community, take a class to learn something new.



saraimay75 -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 1:49:40 PM)

You need to forgive more the forget. You need to give yourself to G-d and He well help you.



fluffmonkey -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 2:36:04 PM)

Focus yourself in the word of God, and pray and leave it at the feet of Jesus and do not worry about it anymore.

yes its hard and painful and time slowly helps you feel alive again but Jesus will help you threw this situation and guide you.

When you are finding yourself feeling down, alone, or cant get him out of your thoughts (pray) right then.



davemiller7 -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 2:49:58 PM)

All of these posts so far are excellent. Just give yourself time. Don't expect to be healed "overnight." In addition to forgiving the other party, also forgive yourself. Give it up to God and try to forget the bad things.

Will pray for your situation.

In Christ,
-Dave



Mrs.Above_All -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 3:08:35 PM)

I think saraimay nailed it on the head for me. The key is all about forgiveness. You mentioned a trust issue so I assume that you were in some way hurt by this person, whether emotionally or physically? Forgiveness is the key to moving forward. As far as forgetting, sometimes we can never forget. How was handle the memory is what really matters. You may use your experience as a testimony or as a reminder about something important. But healing comes when we are able to remember and not feel bitter towards it.

It can take time. But healing WILL come if you put all your cares in Him.

[:)]



Liveloved -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 3:14:44 PM)

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How do you forget the hurt that you have felt becuase of a relationship?


Only the Lord can erase these memories. And He can and He will if that is what is best for you. I have endured many evil things from the hands of others---and most I no longer remember in any detail or at all. The fleshly mind hangs on to hurts like a steel trap. But only through the Spirit are we released from these powerful memories. Fix your eyes on Jesus and the things of earth will grow dim dear. Bless you![:)] LL



simplybeautiful -> RE: Forgetting (7/11/2008 11:47:35 PM)

Thank you all for your advice and encouragement. God is the one who can heal my heart. I will and am resting on him to get me through this.

Thank you for the reminder that it will take time. I would like for it to be over instantly but taking it moment by moment I can see now is the best way.

Thanks again.



Theophile2 -> RE: Forgetting (8/18/2008 12:21:01 AM)

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ORIGINAL: simplybeautiful

How do you forget the hurt that you have felt becuase of a relationship?



Lk 6:28 bless those who curse you, pray for those who abuse you.

1Th 5:16-18 Rejoice always, (17) pray without ceasing, (18) give thanks in all circumstances; for this is the will of God in Christ Jesus for you.

1Pe 2:15 For this is the will of God, that by doing good you should put to silence the ignorance of foolish people.

Psa 100:4-5 Enter his gates with thanksgiving, and his courts with praise! Give thanks to him; bless his name! (5) For the LORD is good; his steadfast love endures forever, and his faithfulness to all generations.

Mar 11:25 And whenever you stand praying, forgive, if you have anything against anyone, so that your Father also who is in heaven may forgive you your trespasses."

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creationtalk -> RE: Forgetting (8/18/2008 1:17:07 AM)

Getting over the hurt can take a long time--in the overall scheme of things, 5 months may be a very short time, depending on how long and what type of relationship you had with x. A couple of things that have helped me in the past: (1) find some other thing to focus your attention on--NOT another person--you can either take up a hobby, renew a hobby, or volunteer at a ministry or rest home. (2) whenever the person who has hurt you comes into your mind, PRAY for him/her. Forgive the person for the hurt you have experienced...and keep forgiving them if necessary.


DO NOT rush into another relationship. You need time to heal, and a new relationship, no matter how special the person, is not the way to do it.

Ask yourself what you can learn from this experience. Maybe there were signs that this person was not as you would like and you didn't pay attention to them.



Child4Jesus -> RE: Forgetting (8/18/2008 2:26:19 AM)

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ORIGINAL: simplybeautiful
How do you forget the hurt that you have felt because of a relationship? I hate it when I think of my ex a couple of times a day and its been like 5 months. I want to trust again. Any suggestions?


The bad news is that you won't forget it. The good news is that it will hurt less as time goes on. You will think less about the him/her (it helps if you are not talking to the person).

I will tell you my story. My ex did the most classy and mature thing ever. She broke up with me via text message. You read that correctly. Via text message. Didn't/doesn't want to talk about the reasons why (doesn't matter anymore because I don't care and she move to another country). It was a complete cut off. Basically we are broken up and I never want to talk to you again.

Trusting again is hard I will tell you that. Reason being that you give your heart and soul so to speak to someone only to have them basically spit in your face and give you the finger.

The best way is to pray. Give it to the Lord because you can only heal with Him. You also just have to hang out and spend time with people. Get to know your friends all over again and get to know some knew people.



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