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Mrs.Above_All -> Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/17/2008 1:51:53 AM)

We all know that G-d created women to be helpmates to men. He said that it is not good for man to be alone. That in itself could mean different things. He took woman out of man's own flesh (his ribs) and made her unique. I'd like to 1) ask you what your interpretation of good means in this context and 2) present some real life examples we can talk about regarding women and helping their men.

I'm getting married this August and I think it will please G-d and be of great help to both genders by talking about this. To me, this is a serious topic, although feel free to have fun with it too.

Some examples to start us off...Please feel free to give your own examples as well.

Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?

Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?

Let's start with these two and go from there. [:)]



DreadPirateRandy -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/17/2008 3:21:42 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Above_All

Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?


Introduce him to Gillette.... Venus.

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Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?


One of the gifts that come with marriage. [;)]

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Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you...


Love and respect me unconditionally and sincerely. Everything else shall follow.



freakofnature -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/17/2008 9:37:48 AM)

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He said that it is not good for man to be alone.


In biblical context, when speaking of human existence, the bible relates to all people as "man." So in that context, God said it is not good for man to be alone, I think it means that the human spirit longs to have a partner both man and woman, it is God's intended purpose for each person to have a mate, God created us this way. So when He says it is not "GOOD" he means just that... IE it is bad for "Man" to be alone.

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Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?

As far as real life experiences, there are too many to list here. My wife and I both work full time, demanding jobs. If she gets home before I, she will start dinner, I am usually there by 5:45 p.m. which is just about the time normally she is finishing up dinner so I get home and help her dish it out to the 4 children. I am off on the weekends whereas she works quite a bit on the weekend so I usually take that time and do some deep cleaning, again I have 4 kids, they can do alot. They can assist with their own laundry, dishes, sweeping the floor, mowing the yard. Generally, those are my and the kids jobs on the weekend. My wife does her and my laundry, cook and on her days off, she takes care of the kids. So it is a pretty fair trade off for the both of us.

And we could take this all a step further, what should your wife be expected to do, if you both are tired. I would have to add that also, if we are both too tired, we order pizza or go out to eat. But that doesn't happen very often, we both generally know that no matter how tired we are our responsibilites to our children must be met regardless.

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Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?


-- You could wax it while he sleeps.[:D]..(LOL) Seriously, the bible says that Love is patient, kind and long suffering (or "not easily angered". It is the LONG SUFFERING that most people kinda overlook in marriage. If you have to remind him every day then??? [8D]

I Corinthians 13:4 Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud. 5It is not rude, it is not self-seeking, it is not easily angered, it keeps no record of wrongs.



evryknee -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/17/2008 6:53:23 PM)

Regarding "It is not good for a man to be alone"...God, who is a relational being, created man to be relational and intimate with another of equal value (companionship). Animals didn't cut it. Women did.

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Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?


Offer to shave it off while with him in the shower (Wait til after you're married, though).

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Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?


Expect him to be tired. Give him a few minutes to wind down before talking to him about all your problems of the day. Expect him to want to be intimate with you even when you are tired.

Read For Women Only and have your hubby 2b For Men Only by the Fedhahns. This will give you some good information about understanding each other.



rayofson -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/18/2008 11:57:15 AM)

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present some real life examples we can talk about regarding women and helping their men.


Literally this can mean helping him. Sometimes you just need an extra hand when you're doing something. Often it means companionship. What are you're future husband's hobbies? Perhaps they should become your hobbies too. Does he like football? Then perhaps you should too...even if you have to force yourself to. Become interested in the things that interest him.

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Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?


Ask him what his expectations are. Maybe he doesn't care if he missed a spot and will become annoyed. On the other hand, perhaps he appreciates the advice and values the fact that you tell him about it. The only way to know is to ask.

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Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?


Honestly, most guys will say that they want to be fed. Yes, it's not fair if you are just as tired as he is. But if you're in a traditional relationship in which the wife does all or most of the cooking, that's the way it is. He's tired. He's hungry. He wants fed.

This may not be the case for all couples, but this is a typical situation.



buckifn -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/18/2008 3:48:31 PM)

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Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?


Meet me in the driveway with a kiss is what she does best.

Other things-

1. learn to love football - actually that would make up for about 7 others

2. have some praise and worship music on in the evening instead of the tv

3. meet me at the door wearing a bikini or less and hand me the oil

4.screen the mail and phone messages so I only have to deal with the important stuff

5.have the ac cranked up a notch and an ice cold root beer nearby if it's hot outside

6. feed me dessert before dinner



humbleinspirit -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/19/2008 6:36:29 AM)

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ORIGINAL: Above_All


Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?


Hi Trishy, well what you could do is offer to shave for him, your treat! [:D]

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Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?


Not too much, just relax, or order out for dinner instead. [;)]



colliefan -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/19/2008 3:03:26 PM)

Encourage him, If he is tired, remember Joe Friday- "Just the facts, "



DreadPirateRandy -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/19/2008 4:35:35 PM)

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ORIGINAL: rayofson

Honestly, most guys will say that they want to be fed.


Evidently, most guys appetite differs from my own.



Pauley464 -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/19/2008 7:42:18 PM)

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ORIGINAL: Above_All

We all know that G-d created women to be helpmates to men. He said that it is not good for man to be alone. That in itself could mean different things. He took woman out of man's own flesh (his ribs) and made her unique. I'd like to 1) ask you what your interpretation of good means in this context and 2) present some real life examples we can talk about regarding women and helping their men.

I'm getting married this August and I think it will please G-d and be of great help to both genders by talking about this. To me, this is a serious topic, although feel free to have fun with it too.

Some examples to start us off...Please feel free to give your own examples as well.

Your man has a tendency to miss a spot or two on his face when he shaves. After several times of telling him about it, he still does it. What should the woman do?

Your man comes home from a long days work and is tired. You are tired too. What should the woman expect at this time of the day?

Let's start with these two and go from there. [:)]




I'm not married, but I have learned some things from observing my parents and married friends.

If your man is consistently missing a spot on his face when shaving, simply point it out without getting antagonistic, For example: "Why do you always miss that spot?" or "Why can't you learn to shave right?" Don't go that direction. Or you could do as the others have said and offer to shave for him.

As for both of you coming home tired, neither one should assume that their day was harder or more difficult than the others and expect their spouse to shoulder all the responsibility for running the household the rest of the evening. It needs to be shared.

Something that has happened to me that I would like my future wife not to do is not to infer meanings from the things I say which were never intended. Most guys are pretty straight forward and don't hide what they want to say.



Blazingson -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/19/2008 8:00:00 PM)

What's the best thing women can do for me?

Shoe my horse.



revbob4God -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/28/2008 4:36:14 PM)

Sometimes, what men want changes as they get older. Some of the timeless things Mrs. Reverend Bob does for me are:

Meets me at the door with a kiss when I come home.

Makes sure there is always ice cold soda pop in the refrigerator.

The cooking thing? well, over the years we have come to agree some nights we trade the cooking detail, especiallly with the invention of the crock pot

Utmost important thing: Mrs. reverend Bob LISTENS. Even when Reverend Bob is too tired, frustrated or drained to talk.



makarizo -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/29/2008 7:23:56 AM)

watching my married friends, I see some things that are very very obvious in the "not helping" department.

if a wife lets her husband finish a sentence/finish a thought.... I think this is a good thing.
I see wives cutting their husbands off (in group settings) all the time ..... and that look on the guys face - that *where's the duct tape* look.

I have broken up with perfectly good 'potentials' simply because at a certain point in the relationship it appeared that it wasn't important to her that I finish a sentence.

if I miss a spot shaving, and the woman points it out to me, I would be thankful..... and if she says it in such a way that is condescending, I will still be thankful.



revbob4God -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/29/2008 7:30:32 AM)

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Something that has happened to me that I would like my future wife not to do is not to infer meanings from the things I say which were never intended. Most guys are pretty straight forward and don't hide what they want to say.


heh heh heh
Its all in the tone, son
trust me. It is alllll in the toe.

Also, If the wife ever asks if something makes them look fat, or makes something look too big or too small, that is not the time to even think about being straightforward.

Learn to smile and say "You look wonderful dear." This has been a secret to a long life.



jn1010lf -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/29/2008 9:24:56 AM)

Hello Above_All

It's strange but pictures can say what a thousand words can't. I assume that the pencil drawings that accompany your post are of you? or at least of some woman. Look at it closely and you will see the woman is in the forefront of the picture. She is the dominant one and the man is in the background, sort of like an after thought. It looks like the woman has it all planned and under control and he just joins in. Is it good that a woman finds a husband or good if a man finds a wife. Which way does scripture have it?

So, that leads me to answering your question. I want a woman to love me in the Lord. I want her to see Jesus in me and be submissive to me because of my relationship with the Lord.

Now, I do believe in husband and wife pastorates. But they should be working in God's kingdom side by side: neither one being more dominant than the other. One should not lead to the point that the other simply follows along. I've seen it both ways and it doesn't look good.

I hope this answers your question.



Child4Jesus -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/29/2008 3:50:09 PM)

I wouldn't say the best but here are some things:

1. Mean what you say. Basically be a woman of you word.

2. Don't ask questions simply to test your man or to try and trap him. It's annoying and obnoxious.

3. Don't pick at his short comings. You didn't do this or that right.

4. Don't try to start a fight over nonsense or even if I did do something wrong try to point it out without talking down or ridicule.

5. Explain how you are feeling or what you wants and needs are. Be up front even if it hurts

6. Don't use the silly and annoying line of, "If you loved me you would know what I want/need." It implies that I don't love you.

I agree with Pauley464. If you ask me if I think your friend _______ is pretty and she in fact is, I'm going to say yes. However don't assume I think she is prettier than you or jump to conclusions that I want to be with her. Thinking someone is pretty doesn't mean you want her.



huskarine -> RE: Guys, what's the best thing women can do for you... (7/31/2008 11:04:18 AM)

I agree with the above post about respect...

Respect is the guy's love language...your man will do wonders for you if you show him that he is the leader and you respect him in that role, if he treats you like **** after the indicated repect, well, then you need take him to a pastor for learning your love language, love and chores (assuming)...

this is all recorded in Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs.

the rewarded cycle is doing wonders in my marriage.



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