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4givnNBama -> Teen Mistakes--What to do?? (7/17/2008 8:04:50 AM)
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My 16 yo DD made a huge mistake. She had sex. She has been raised in church and knows this is wrong, but she's human and made a mistake. To let you know something about her, she is a sweet girl who has self esteem problems. She has always had acne(sometimes very severe, which her sisters do not have) and her nose has drawn a few remarks from others as well. She sometimes appears to be the proverbial "dumb blonde" but is really a smart girl making all A's & B's. We have always believed and told her she is smart & beautiful the way God made her and that when the time is right, God will send her a soul mate, but that is sometimes hard to believe when you are a teen and you just want to fit in.
She went camping for a week w/BF's family who are very good people. They have been BF's since grade school, so we know them well and even camp with them sometimes. Then they went camping in Fl. and took DD and came back. The next week, they went camping locally and I even took my other kids and went for a day in the middle of the week. On the last day, however, some boys they met had been teasing her about "S" and her friend left her to go get their cell phone for something and that is when it happened. DD says she did not say no. DD and friend seemed to not be getting together as usual after she came home and DD said they had a disagreement. I found out yesterday(2 weeks after) about it. BF's dad called and just said I needed to talk to my DD. I talked to her and if reluctantly came out. BF's mom found out from her daughter after they came home and called my DD and told her she made a stupid mistake, but that they still loved her and she wouldn't tell me, but that DD needed to tell us. Friends mom was torn up over it wondering if we would be mad at them and not want to be friends and knowing her, I know that is true, so hubby called to get communications started. I told BF's mom that it could have happened when we were there too as we don't follow them around 24/7. Up to this point, she had never given any reason for mistrust.
Anyhow, we talked to our DD and told her it was a mistake, but she can be forgivn if she asks. God forgave me my sins, so who would I be not to forgive hers. I told her that the only difference is, God no longer sees her sin once she repents, but we being human cannot forget and there is a broken trust that will take time to heal. I will make necessary medical arrangements and she has had a period since, but I know some who had those during pregnancy. The question is, what type of penalty should there be? Dad wants to keep everyone home from now on and I don't think that is the answer.
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