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splost -> Is anyone else going through this? (7/17/2008 4:38:34 PM)

Hi guys,

I am in my thirties, female, and single. Ever since I was 16, I have had a hard time keeping a long term job anywhere. In my twenties I had a teaching job lasting two years, got let go (yes I am nice to people and get along with others). Got another job at a one year contract.

Left teaching, went into the mortgage industry. Had a wonderful boss. Business died down and I quit after nearly two years at around 2005.

It has been a "nightmare" ever since.

Between 2005 and now, I have had (not including temping in between all this) four jobs I have been terminated from, and one job I quit because they severely cut back my hours due to financial problems. That is a total of five full time jobs, lasting anywhere from 1 week to six months tops!!

Before I get told to soul search, I have been there done that many times. Every job this has happened with, I prayed and had peace about taking the job, had my friends pray for me, and made sure God wanted me to take it.

I have a strong ethic and constantly try to go "above and beyond' the call of duty. I am by no means perfect, but when I am let go, it's almost always, "you are sweet, I just dont think it's a good fit, bla bla bla."

Part of my problem is my honesty. If a manager asks if something is done, I will say "still working on it." Someone else may lie even when they are not done.

I have never done well with long verbal instructions and even when I write it down, I sometimes get managers that come by and verbally vomit a hundred and one instructions at me and ask me if I understand.

The others just nod, even if they are clueless. But because I don't want to lie I wind up looking bad if I don't nod immediately and fake comprehension. Even though my level of comprehension is no worse than anyone elses.

I just lost my job two days ago. I don't even want to go out there and look. My resume looks awful with all these little short term jobs. I am running out of things to say.

What frustrates me is how there are others that just lie. Take jobs off, etc. I would do that for little jobs lasting under three months, but I have some that I was there four months or more that I can't leave off.

Running out of things to say. This morning, after getting prayer yesterday, I felt the Lord say "I want to spread you around."

He didn't mean spread me thin, just spread me around.

I am seriously thinking of ditching looking for permanent work and just substitute teaching (I used to do that) and/or caregiving and temping. Perhaps starting my own independent "business" if you will, getting a CNA license and just having private clients so I don't have to deal with termination headaches anymore. Although I know not all my "clients" will be a hunky dory experience, I just wait for the next client, and no one has to know about the client that didn't work out. Unlike the resume which follows me everywhere.

What do you think? Can I make an honest living just doing this independently. I used to teach also and maybe I can tutor.

I need about 35K a year to survive as I live in orange county, CA.



NoShow -> RE: Is anyone else going through this? (7/18/2008 11:22:46 AM)

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ORIGINAL: splost

but when I am let go, it's almost always, "you are sweet, I just dont think it's a good fit, bla bla bla."


I think almost everyone has a somewhat distorted sense of self. Can you go back to any of your previous employers\supervisors\co-workers and ask them for their honest assessment of you and your performance? Even if you don't believe\accept what they say as "true", you can at least understand how others "see" you.

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Part of my problem is my honesty. If a manager asks if something is done, I will say "still working on it." Someone else may lie even when they are not done.

I have never done well with long verbal instructions and even when I write it down, I sometimes get managers that come by and verbally vomit a hundred and one instructions at me and ask me if I understand.

The others just nod, even if they are clueless. But because I don't want to lie I wind up looking bad if I don't nod immediately and fake comprehension. Even though my level of comprehension is no worse than anyone elses.


Honestly, I haven't see this often. More often than not, I actually see the opposite. People getting instructions and not having a single clue as to what they've been told, and admitting it. And asking for things to be dumbed down for them. Most of my career I've been the frustrated supervisor, asking why we have so many people that are unqualified to do their job; and having all of the other supervisors defending these people and telling me to be more compassionate.

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I just lost my job two days ago. I don't even want to go out there and look. My resume looks awful with all these little short term jobs. I am running out of things to say.

What frustrates me is how there are others that just lie. Take jobs off, etc. I would do that for little jobs lasting under three months, but I have some that I was there four months or more that I can't leave off.


Leaving things off creates gaps and almost all gaps raise questions. And most people can't extend the jobs they do leave on, because more often than not the interviewer will call and get the dates verified. I'd put everything on and be prepared with an answer\explanation.

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I am seriously thinking of ditching looking for permanent work and just substitute teaching (I used to do that) and/or caregiving and temping. Perhaps starting my own independent "business" if you will, getting a CNA license and just having private clients so I don't have to deal with termination headaches anymore. Although I know not all my "clients" will be a hunky dory experience, I just wait for the next client, and no one has to know about the client that didn't work out. Unlike the resume which follows me everywhere.

What do you think? Can I make an honest living just doing this independently. I used to teach also and maybe I can tutor.

I need about 35K a year to survive as I live in orange county, CA.


What are the substitute teaching opportunities right now, with the recent statewide budget cuts?

I'm all for starting ones own business, but it takes a lot more time and effort than most people think. It's probably not going to be as easy as just getting a CNA and getting clients. Have you looked into what type of insurance you may be required to carry. Do you have a pipeline to find clients? The finding of clients in any business is usually one of the biggest things people aren't really prepared for. "...just waiting for the next client..." doesn't usually work out.

The tutoring angle may be a good solid "filler" at least, not sure how it would work out as a full-time thing. I think many parents put somewhat of an overemphasis on schooling, in Southern Calif, and at the same time the parents are complaining that their children aren't getting the additional attention they need (for some reason the parents never consider that maybe "they" should be the ones giving the additional attention); anyway, those factors would seem to help create a market for tutoring.



FreeEagle -> RE: Is anyone else going through this? (7/18/2008 10:27:30 PM)

In the days I worked for someone else, I worked hard. As when you're working you're working for your master in heaven. In most cases when I left or they let me go they had to hire three people to take my place. Dave Ramsey states that the average job will only last 3 years. Anyway I found that when I left, it was harder to find another job, as I wasn't showing satisfaction to what he gave me. But when I was laid off of or let go for reasons beyond my control - God was pushing me out of a comfort spot. The last time was after 9/11 - I started working for myself, and I have no regrets. Let him lead - you follow!



APZR -> RE: Is anyone else going through this? (7/19/2008 1:14:21 AM)

A function of an unstable local economy?
Communication problem?
Over qualified for the job?

There really isn't enough in your post to determine, and there is really no way to know in an on line forum. So about all I can say is meet with a career coach, brush up your resume, and try... try again.



Cantwait-2-C-Him -> RE: Is anyone else going through this? (7/27/2008 5:10:12 PM)

How is it going? With the way the enc. is today keep at it , maybe try working with the disable etc. to see if that is a choice I enjoy disable children . you could loo kin in to that as it goes with you education background. Have you Evey felted the Lords call in to service maybe on the mission field as a teacher. PEACE CORP? you are at in the best time of you life you have nothing (or did not say so) to hold you back check in to Nannie in the other countries, I have a friend who traveled all over the world for 8 yr as a pvt tutor to a rich family!! Christian to! It was one of the best thing she Evey done!



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